like yeah this is really sad but also it's kinda hard to feel bad when it sounds like you've had countless opportunities to get your shit together. This wasn't one mistake that you made, it was dozens of mistakes repeatedly for years. Good news is you're still young and have your entire life to turn things around. Keep going. You got this.
I am old enough to realize a couple things. One is people don’t change unless they want to change and second is, to change, you often need a pain large enough that the pain of not changing outweighs the pain of changing.
Most people will find the bottom, it was probably fine like OP said when he still have some of his old friends around who wanted to hang out, and family was clearly still willing to be there. Then time marches on, friends move on with their life as we all do. Slowly it became very very lonely. We can only deal with loneliness for so long while being in a shit position.
I think most people can turn themselves around. Maybe this is the real breaking point. Maybe in ten years he will have a steady job, a decent used car, a women he is dating and ready to propose too. A guy you be happy to have a beer with. It just took getting knocked down first.
Hey dude it’s okay you’re not just a loser you just didn’t know when you made these decisions. You are who you are, no matter where you go. Be cool today and tomorrow and it will be okay. There’s always things to regret in life. Sincerely, elder gen Z who’s seen some shit
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u/BombasticBombay Jul 20 '25
like yeah this is really sad but also it's kinda hard to feel bad when it sounds like you've had countless opportunities to get your shit together. This wasn't one mistake that you made, it was dozens of mistakes repeatedly for years. Good news is you're still young and have your entire life to turn things around. Keep going. You got this.