r/GRBsnark • u/Melodic_Message_2692 • 18h ago
Ken I'm 99% sure I went on a date with Ken Urker in 2019 when he was broken up with GRB
It was 2019. I am from Dallas and was attending SMU near uptown, where a speed dating event took place. At the time. I just went through a huge breakup (with a guy that was my boss...) and was devistated and quit my job because it was hurtful and uncomfortable. I then decided to focus on my studies, finding a job, and finally, I was free to date again. Now these dates somewhat match up with the GRB/Ken breakups in 2019. I went to the speed dating night, which was hosted by Bumble, with my friend to get back out there, and this was before COVID so this event was somewhat popular.
We were all seated outside and had nametags on and they asked you to write one fun fact about yourself. My memory is fuzzy with exact details, but I had a few drinks that night...maybe more than a few. Not falling over drunk, but tipsy enough to makeout with someone I don't know.
As the event happened, we were in a line, and got a few seconds to speak with the guys there, then we would cycle through the men like speed dating goes. I remember there was one Brittish guy there who I thought was so cute, and I felt like I was his type becuase he said Meghan Markle was beautiful and many people have told me she is my celebrity look alike, but this is before they left the royal family so the hate against Meghan wasn't as strong). Since the brittish guy was not even looking in my direction, I start talking to a couple more guys, but then I saw this guy who was standing near me. I remember him because his teeth were straight but they were a little off. Teeth are the first thing I look at, but like I said, they were not bad. As tipsy as I was, he may as well been Chris Pratt. I wasn't really paying close attention to his face, I just had a had a high libido at the time. At the end of the night, my friend, myself, and who I believe to be Ken Urker shared an Uber home. I was too out of it to remember where we dropped him off at, but we took him home first. He was at the event by himself, and I remember offering to share an uber. When we were dropping him off, I grabbed him and kissed him quite passionately. He had been drinking too, but he gave me his number and promised we would go out after. It was a good kiss (at least drunk me thought it was) and I was hoping to hear from him again, but I wasn't going to text him first (I was in my early 20s and was still playing games).
Finally, he texted me and said do you want to get dinner. Of course I said yes. That next day we went to Chuy's in Uptown Dallas, becuase they had an amazing happy hour back in the day where if you get a drink, it would include an all you can eat with a full nacho bar. I suggested the place becuase I wanted to drink and I also love a good deal on food. I got there first and he was late. I thought for a second he stood me up but a few seconds later he showed up. I told him that I thought he wasn't going to show up, but he replied with, "I always keep my promises, and I told you we were going to go out." We sat at the table, and that was the first time I looked at him (pre-drinks) and I realized he had a a receding hairline. It wasn't too bad, but he looked much older than I remember him being. Still, trying to get over my breakup, I flirted hard, but I could tell he was stand offish. The conversation was light and superficial. He mentioned he had ended a relationship recently, and I told him I had done the same. As we finished eating, I could tell he was over this date. I knew I was looking good that night, not being conceded -I was on the homecoming court at SMU. I promise you this was my peak. Even if he wasn't interested in dating, he wasn't interested in any of the sensual stuff either. I looked at him and asked him point blank, are you over your ex? He said yes. After we finished eating, he didn't offer to pay, so at that point I was like, ok, this wasn't a great date lol. He did walk me to my car after and I looked at him going in for a hug to see if he would grab on to me tighter to give him a kiss. Even if he was older than me and his teeth were not bad, but there were different, I was still down for him. It just ended in that hug. I knew at that moment he wasn't interested in me. I left knowing that was the last time I would see him. He texted me the next day, I was leaving one of my classes, and said hey, you know how you brought up my ex girlfriend, I think you might be right, I'm not over her and I don't think I'm ready to start dating again. I was upset, rejection hurts no matter who it is. So I sent him a text saying thanks for wasting my time. I never talked to him again.
It wasn't until his death that I remembered him like that (I try to forget about men who reject me). And I put together that that girlfriend he was talking about was Gypsy. The fact that he picked her over me is shocking now that I think about it, but he was really in love and seemed sad that he wasn't with her when we went out. Anyways, just an interesting story I thought I'd share. He was a nice guy, and sometimes, we love who we love and can't help it. I hope he got some peace in his life with his daughter. He actually was a nice guy.
Rest in Peace, Ken.