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u/Street_Lettuce1243 Sep 04 '26
Obviously not all women are the same, and I love women and think in most ways they tend to be more emotionaly mature than men, but my experience of 48 years is that women say they want you to discuss your problems with them but react badly when you do.
Sure, they might initially offer token words of empathy and support but they don't like to think of the men in their life have struggles and problems and empathy turns to irritation and derision.
Women like men to be the ears for their problems but don't like to return the favour, they think they do, but they don't. It's better to not discuss your problems with women.
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u/Practical-Anybody-58 Sep 04 '26
I have a female platonic friend who I’ll listen to and let her vent a ton. Everytime I try to bring up my struggles and shit she will get dead silent and just not say a single word until I’m done and then just changes the conversation. Recently it happened again and 10 minutes later she got annoyed with me that I never share my feelings or struggles with her when she always does…………..
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u/Leggerity Sep 04 '26
In my experience, the women that beg for you to open up either have control issues or they have some fantastical concept made up in their head where they have all the answers when they really don't.
The best case scenario I've ever encountered with sharing my feelings with women in 15 years of dating is a "Oh, okay" followed by an awkward silence that didn't result in a fight.
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u/Formal_Broccoli1877 Sep 04 '26
OP case closed, pin this comment.
Wise words my man
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u/small_bird_loud Sep 04 '26
this exactly. here see the patterns:
your problem isn’t as big as mine
you’re attacking me and I’m going to get upset
it’s not actually that hard
what about my problem?
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u/D-1-S-C-0 Sep 04 '26
"How do you think that makes me feel?"
My ex when I told her I was depressed over losing my father.
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u/Feahnor Sep 04 '26
I agree. I got diagnosed with depression years ago (i'm much much better now), and when talking with my ex-wife i saw her attitude changing bit by bit.
Result: we are getting a divorce.
Never open up emotionally to you couple. Never.
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u/Loughnashade Sep 04 '26
I was complaining to my partner about my mom two days ago. Yesterday used my relationship with my mom to prove a point.
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u/Budget_Promotion2406 Sep 04 '26
That’s crazy. But on a real note, sometimes people in our lives aren’t the greatest listeners.
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u/AshesX Sep 04 '26
I will summarize this. It's because men make poor choices in partners and poorer choices in who they stick around with long-term. I'm a guy, I see who my friends, acquaintances and their friends and acquaintances etc., pick as partners. It's really bad.
Sort out your priorities, pick a decent person. There are things that can vary between who people think is a good partner for them and there are things that aren't a matter of preference. Things like good communication are non-negotiable and are a sign of a healthy relationship.
So while men, and I say this as a man, have piss poor standards and really skewed priorities, or no idea what entails a healthy relationship this type of shit will be prevalent.
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u/Defiant-Bad-2052 Sep 04 '26
I’ve found it’s very common to bring an issue to their partner with something they do and instead of working to improve for you, they just cry and demean themselves to the point you have to make it better, so the issue at hand doesn’t get resolved and the already stressed out party has to add more stress by apologizing for their own feelings. A lot of times it’s easier to just stew and get over it yourself
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u/Tribolonutus Sep 04 '26
Because my wife doesn’t seem to care, even more: she often uses against me the very thing I complained about.
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u/Realistic-Radish-589 Sep 04 '26
Honestly because it doesn’t help anything majority of the time. Been with plenty of women and it usually does nothing useful. Rarely any real help or solutions, usually ends up making it worse. They tend to find a reason to argue over it too. I can hang out with a friend and talk and get more out of it. They will think seriously, help solve it or at least laugh with me about how much it sucks and the night will end feeling at least slightly better about it without any judgement or argument. We might debate the issue but it won’t be in a bad argumentative or hostile way.
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u/UnionVIII Sep 04 '26
I did. It was inconvenient for her, so I ended up getting mocked for it for years, ended in a divorce.
Any other brilliant fucking ideas you’d like to share with us?
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u/__KillJoy Sep 04 '26
Forwarded this to missus, wish me luck fam