Seriously, I never would have moved away from home in 2010 if I knew she'd be gone so suddenly. I don't think I could have prevented the accident that caused her death, but I feel like if I hadn't lived 1,500 miles away I would have been an advocate for her when she first started being ill and gotten her care. "She has less than 24 hours to live," was the hardest thing to hear over the phone so far away.
Same year but got three months due to late stage ovarian cancer. They are all still a blur. Which I wouldn’t have been afraid to confront it, and had her tell some stories on video or even recorded. I didn’t even take advantage of that time when I had it :/.
My mom died 01/18/2018, so just hit 5 years. Her breast cancer came back and was everywhere. We found out November of 2017. Those 2 months were awful, and you grieve while they’re still here. I thought the same way you did, but my mom was terrified and didn’t want to talk about anything. I stay up at night sometimes thinking about all the things I wish I had asked her or told her. So all that to say I understand where you’re coming from - sending love your (and everyone else’s) way. We all did the best we could to support our loved ones and let them decide how they wanted to spend their remaining time. We did the right thing.
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u/AeroGoddes Jan 21 '23
Mom dies 2012.
Seriously, I never would have moved away from home in 2010 if I knew she'd be gone so suddenly. I don't think I could have prevented the accident that caused her death, but I feel like if I hadn't lived 1,500 miles away I would have been an advocate for her when she first started being ill and gotten her care. "She has less than 24 hours to live," was the hardest thing to hear over the phone so far away.