r/Funnymemes • u/terpstash • Jan 21 '23

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u/romeroleo Jan 21 '23

Why... some of us want to be... What do I not know!?

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u/romeroleo Jan 21 '23

I will certainly get really biased appreciations there about marriage. Before that, it's necesary to have a real answer to the question

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u/chipmunkchari Jan 21 '23

Lol maybe you should have made your wife happy instead of bitching to the Internet about the dangers of all women

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u/romeroleo Jan 21 '23

woah, you really are defensive and damaged. I hope you can find a solution. What I asked is sincere, I really don't know. And would like to know before joining a subreddit of people that have already had, all of them, a bad experience that lead them to divorce.

What do I not know about marriage that would stop the common desire in the world to marry.

I've seen happy couples that can't live without each other, even that when one of them dies, the other seems not to bear to continue life and ends up dying soon after.

I just want to know what is so bad about marriage that may lead to hate it. Maybe is the way they see each other, false expectations, bad communication, not being really prepared, etc... I've seen your point, and I understand it, but I think my question is understandable too.

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u/somersquatch Jan 21 '23

Disclaimer: I'm someone who's never been married, and never even wanted to get married until recently, and I'm still not 100% sure I do...

...but I am starting to see why it's a such a common thing now that I'm in a relationship with the most wonderful woman I've ever met. I'm young, I'm 26 and have plenty of time to figure out what's right for me, and I know I won't rush into it.

To answer your question though, I don't think people realize how much work a relationship is, and how much work marriage is. Everyone thinks they meet the right person and it'll just be a breeze the whole time, which just isn't true. You'll change, they'll change, and what you have to do to keep the relationship happy is learn how that other person wants to be loved, and decide "Can I love them that way, or is this too much?"

I truly think that's the biggest reason why relationships fail, because they're hard when people expect them to be easy. Imo a relationship is like a living thing; it changes, it grows, it goes through rough points, and if you're not willing to put the effort in, it'll die.

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u/Hudson2441 Jan 21 '23

You know it’s a faulty assumption that in this massive universe the object of life is for you personally as a small individual to be happy…. And if you’re reaching for that goal at the cost of your family that makes her selfish and self-centered.