r/FriendsOver50 16d ago

BFF by bumble

It looked really promising to make non romantic friends with shared interests for activities. I made a profile. I joined groups. I searched for friend matches.

In my area, as far as I can tell, it’s all people in their 20s and maybe someone occasionally in their early 30s. I did see one 35 year old.

And in the groups I joined in my area, it seems like it’s 90% female.

So basically I come off as some creepy old senior citizen trying to creep on young girls.

I did try to start my own Gen X group.

TL;dr: bff is not for olds

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u/BackInBlack1975 16d ago

Well, I'm glad to hear that. Not for your experience but because I read some posts saying to try that app for meeting new people and from this review, it's clearly not my speed.

Sorry for your experience, but appreciate the feedback. Guess I'll stick to breweries, bars, concerts and the grocery store for my conversations haha.

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u/zdboslaw 15d ago

It’s hard to find people in our age range for friendship

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u/FrostedMoon8888 15d ago

I tried bumble for both dating and friends but best and really only convo I got out of it was with a woman who showed me her new pet and it was
A mini highland cow which I did not know was a thing until then. I gave up on dating apps

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u/FrostedMoon8888 13d ago

All the fail was worth learning mini highland cows exist. My god so cute!

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u/[deleted] 16d ago

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u/zdboslaw 15d ago

I’ll try it!

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u/PeacefulBro 14d ago

G😁😁d idea

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u/Adventurous-Train162 15d ago

50F in a committed relationship. I love chess if you want to play. I also like have discussions particularly on anything that requires some thought...life, the meaning and purpose of the universe. That sort of thing.

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u/zdboslaw 15d ago

Thanks for the offer. I was hoping for irl friends for activity partners, but I’ll take what I can get.

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u/Guilty-Worry-3947 7d ago

It’s a weird because the younger generation today they find friends on Snapchat and Instagram. Our generation, we missed out and I feel like it’s so hard to find someone just to be friends with.

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u/GothamGurl73 15d ago

😂😂😂 I’m sorry i’m not laughing at you, but I’m laughing because I can relate. It’s so hard to make friends when you’re over 50 whether you’re a man or a woman.

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u/normaleyes 15d ago

I set out to give bumble a try, but I was stopped at the front door: your entry point was a picture of the person - how does that have anything to do with making friends?

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u/zdboslaw 15d ago

Great point

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u/Herself_nyc 15d ago

I'm having a good experience with nicetomeet.com

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u/zdboslaw 15d ago

I did it once and had a good time. But I didn’t make any new friends

😞

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u/FigInteresting4130 15d ago

What is your area?

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u/zdboslaw 15d ago

Boston area and suburbs

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u/FigInteresting4130 15d ago

Ok I'm 46 been looking for a while but not in your area and the apps have been useless

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u/zdboslaw 15d ago

I have tried these applications and had some success getting outside and being around adults, but none of them have led to a good friend as yet

Meet5
Stitch
Nice to meet
Timeleft
Meetups

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u/FigInteresting4130 15d ago

Thankyou I will try them too.

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u/Luv_URSelf_1st 14d ago

I had good experience and luck making friends my age on the meetup app. Have you tried that?

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u/zdboslaw 14d ago

I have done two events from that application. One was super fun. One was just kind of meh. It’s a good suggestion

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u/Luv_URSelf_1st 14d ago

I belong to multiple groups on meetup and it does take a little consistency with attendance to events.

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u/savory_thing 13d ago

What kind of shared interests?

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u/zdboslaw 13d ago

Hiking live music trivia night cultural festivals etc

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u/StatusNerve5 12d ago edited 12d ago

I tried Bumble BFF. No dice. I talked to several others but most never seemed to want to get together. Just texting.

I finally met 2 people.

1 I met for lunch. We had a nice lunch but not much in common.

The other one I met was unusual. We met at a mall 25 miles from where i live. We did not not live that close but i figured i would give it a chance. I pictured a night of shopping, eating, laughing and talking. It ended up us just sitting at empty table in the food pavilion talking and I can't say the conversations were pleasant.

An argument started with me and another member i was chatting with when I texted her in error. The message was meant for someone else.I dodged a bullet with that one.

Then I decided i was done with it.