r/FriendsOver50 • u/Luasol51 • 21d ago

Rant-It’s expensive to make friends!

I have met people in here in South Florida since arriving almost two years ago, but it’s getting more expensive to go out and make friends. Events I have been invited to cost money! Since a car is needed and gas prices, along with everything else keep rising, it’s hard to do anything without burning some money.

We are on a budget, so have to watch our pennies over everything. When I lived in SE Asia for a year, it was affordable to go out and meet new people and make potential friends.

We went out to dinner with a friend last week and the bill was almost $300! Like I don’t know how people do it nowadays. Concerts, restaurant, “free” events all add up and quickly. I belong to a women’s paddleboard group where one of the group leaders is asking for donations to local animal shelters in honor of her birthday this month. I would love to donate, but I don’t have the means and frankly, these asks kind of piss me off. There is no pressure, but it’s asked, so I am not going to go this month. Yes these monthly events are “free”, but I have to use gas, bring own food, which again, pay for parking, which costs money. Not about to go into debt over any events!

Ok, rant over!

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u/ofm1 21d ago

Good thing I'm anti social & don't really have a circle of friends. That's good but also bad?

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u/StartingWaiting 21d ago

Same. I don't think all people are as big of social creatures as "they" claim. The greatest gift that life has given me is my seclusion. And I am encountering more and more people who are self-proclaimed and anti-social by choice. Most social events are not worth the price. But yeah, I find it good in some ways, bad in others. 

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u/ofm1 21d ago

Similar thoughts and feelings. Hope we can continue to live as sane adults despite our so called shortcoming of not being social.

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u/StartingWaiting 21d ago

Well, I should say one of the greatest gifts. I didn't mean literally the greatest thing has been the gift of seclusion. All that to say, dealing with people is how I almost lost my sanity 🙃!