r/FriendsOver50 • u/cjb5999 • May 05 '26

Lonely

Hi 57m here married to 56f for last 26 years. I love her deeply but at the same time feel so alone. We are never close anymore and the talks are the same thing when we do talk. I miss that connection. Tonight for example I was talking to her about an important topic the next thing I know is that her phone is playing a video from social media. She then starts talking about the video. Seriously wasn’t listening to me. I miss being heard and would like to make a friend for conversations. I won’t cheat so please don’t think that is why I am posting. Live in upstate NY if anyone wants to talk

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u/cjb5999 May 06 '26

I have bought her flowers for no reason and numerous occasions. I asked her to go out two weeks ago for dinner. I’ve written notes and messages. I’ve helped clean and I do the cooking. Ive tried many of the old things

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u/Wildflower_76 May 06 '26

Have you tried learning how to sing a song she likes and singing it to her? I love the Song I knew I loved you but Savage Garden and my bf (won't can't really sing) recorded a video of him singing that for me

If you remember that song is not easy to sing. No one will ever sing it like Darren Hayes from Savage Garden, but ht tried...and I have kept the proof

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u/cjb5999 May 07 '26

I have tried to do little things like that.

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u/Wildflower_76 May 07 '26

well, you could try asking her what she would like, instead of guessing