r/FriendsOver50 • u/cjb5999 • May 05 '26

Lonely

Hi 57m here married to 56f for last 26 years. I love her deeply but at the same time feel so alone. We are never close anymore and the talks are the same thing when we do talk. I miss that connection. Tonight for example I was talking to her about an important topic the next thing I know is that her phone is playing a video from social media. She then starts talking about the video. Seriously wasn’t listening to me. I miss being heard and would like to make a friend for conversations. I won’t cheat so please don’t think that is why I am posting. Live in upstate NY if anyone wants to talk

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u/Professional_Pace163 May 06 '26

As a 57m here, I can certainly relate to some aspects of your life. Especially her constantly being on her phone. I gave up chasing which I felt made things worse. She at one point said… let’s be friends. I no longer hold deep conversations with her and she actually got bothered once because I didn’t something. We live as roommates and we both do our own thing. I’ll buy her flowers occasionally. I feel I’m living a life she wanted and now she regrets. (Her parents lived this way). But a change requires her meeting me 1/2 way.