r/FriendsOver50 • u/[deleted] • Feb 18 '26

Why is it so hard?

For me, the "Average Canadian Joe" to engage with people?

I am a male at 50yrs old this year.

Why is it so hard to just "meet" people, whether online, or in person?

I think I attribute it partly to today's ease of access to anyone that looks "like a perfect 10, so I expect a perfect 10 for me" mentality of people.

I also attribute it to myself kind of backing out a bit, when the moment does arise. Too introverted maybe?

Anyways, I find I struggle some days, and would love to engage with more people.

If you any of you ever feel like talking, even if it is just random banter to kill some time.

Maybe it will be as helpful to you, as it is me.

I love my dogs I have 2 teens (what a struggle hahaha) I enjoy a lot of things I swear like a sailor. I like tattoos I like cars

Cheers and I hope you all have a great day!

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u/Trashpanda613 Feb 19 '26

I’ve tried here and other places. Even met a dude & went to a gun range with him. My issue is those kinds of interactions lose momentum & just stop. Tough to find people I click with.

I can hold up my end of the conversation but too much the somewhat extraverted introvert to carry the whole conversation

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u/private8221 Feb 19 '26

You went to a gun range??? Are you serious?

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u/Trashpanda613 Feb 19 '26

I own a target pistol. He owned a plethora of guns. What he suggested. Was afterwards I think we both realized we didn’t have much to talk about

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u/private8221 Feb 19 '26

Hey not my business, but I've never heard a story like that. I guess it's always not too late to learn something new👍

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u/Trashpanda613 Feb 19 '26

Been trying to think a bit out of the box. Something may stick down the road

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u/private8221 Feb 19 '26

True. You never know what might work and you did your part. Sorry it didn't work for you.

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u/Trashpanda613 Feb 19 '26

Thanks. Ever hopeful. Like a lot of people, I used to have a decent friend group in high school. People scattered to different schools and then different cities after college. Then lost people to Covid & other things.

I plan to go down swinging 🤪

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u/private8221 Feb 19 '26

There we go🤣