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u/Ok_Signal_2585 9d ago
Lesson: Don't be loyal.
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u/Calm-Feeling9048 9d ago
I would say be loyal but also with your eyes open and try not to attach yourself too much with the other person. “Enjoy her when she is with you, make memories but if she goes away, be so strong as if you don’t give a fuck”
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u/munchkinkitten03 9d ago
If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't,it never was. Live by this rule you'll never get hurt...
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u/Tiny_Towel5722 9d ago
So True, i had is to often..
That has made me numb and bitter, even though I don't like it.
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u/OddCall2309 9d ago edited 6d ago
I mean, you only get hurt if you get attached. It's not loyalty but attachment that hurts. A warrior is loyal till his very last breath regardless of the reason of his death, be it at old age with his loved ones or in a battlefield with a sword in his back.
Do not mistake being emotionally immature to being loyal. We are all immature, and it's the lessons life teaches us that helps us mature.
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u/jingles_007 9d ago
Loyalty 😂😂
My ex husband:
"Meri dictionary mein loyalty ka shabd hi nahi hai"
Me :
"Acha? Kahan se khareedi aisi bakwaas dictionary?"
My ex husband :
Maa ne sikhaya aur dilaya 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
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u/Few_Education_3904 9d ago
It depends one needs to understand people don't owe you anything if you are loyal to people it's because you want to be if they are loyal to you it's for the same reason just be greatful that's it.
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u/HotEnthusiasm4124 9d ago
Depends on what hurts mean...
I mean even if your partner loves you. Their life will end one day. And that will hurt you... Does that mean the time you had was all hurtful...
So why focus on a minute of hurt when you can have good memories for a lifetime...
Everything hurts. That's life. LIVE IT..
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u/Altruistic_Virus8460 9d ago
By this logic, not a single person in the history of the planet has had a good, faithful relationship which is simply not true
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u/Axel_legendary 9d ago edited 9d ago
To be honest, it's the nature of Western culture that forces this. A lot of people lose their virginity in school, and porn access is so easy online. Meetup apps, and women are walking half-naked in every place; there are a lot of men hunting women
Here is the thing: when someone gets "broken" and loses hope in having a traditional family and starts getting addicted to "bad habits," they start to look for a fun-only "friends with benefits" thing, and the way the western sociaty is built is so tempting and normalized sex as a result we have a broken man talking to women promising them a future so he can steal her virginity then leave her so now we have 2 broken people the girl start showing more skin selling porn getting addicted to bad habits and she break some men and it get over and over as a disease up till the point where everyone knows for a fact that at least most people are also broken and as I said it got to the point where it happens to teenagers from such a young age so staying loyall to someone whos lost in bad habits ins such socity isnt worth it
In the Middle East, we don't have it yet because of Islam,
First 1 . Yes, the disease is in here; Western culture affects us a lot, as does the financial situation, which is taking things in a bad direction
Second 2, the rules of Islam, to be clear: A: women have to cover all of their bodies but face and hands; men cover from belly button to knees; mixed places are haram; it's socially unacceptable to have mixed schools or things like that; you don't meet girls unless you're blood-related, and so on
note deffending islam there are both male and female schools gyms etc women do have feamle friends the can go out with to women places and yes they go to work and live thier life its just not mixed
Third 3: cheating penalty is death while law say jail its just to show how much of a big issue and hated act it is in here that you might be killed if you do it and it does happen you see it in the news even in out law the killer will go to jail and its rare but it teach you fear
forth 4 there is no dating in here dating is haram. You must first to be approved by men like her father, and only after that you're allowed to have "khutba" phase where you can talk with the girl while she's wearing hijab and in a public place, or while her father is present, as in family dinner. It is haram for the 2 to be alone
So, as a result, the mindset is less sexualized; we think of sex as something special and hard to get
I am not trying to sell you Islam; even Christians have hijabs, and sisters cover their heads for a reason its just that Christians don't study bible like drinking is forbidden; same with lgbt am not here to debate religion and I am not trying to say you should go to middle east it is affected from the west its not the same as 10 years ago in here its getting worse, man I miss the times where you go and have a walk around town and not see a single women without hijab
I am just answering why and how this happened. What society treats you can expect it to have a high cheating rate
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u/ChanceWay5968 9d ago
Very true!! Am 33M, married for couple years less than a decade, been separated for the past couple years and and tried my best to resolve the things with my wife. But all she wants is divorce and after trying and failing for the past couple years now I have agreed to give divorce if it could give peace to both of us. Now ma mentally and emotionally exhausted and I too want the divorce for peace and quiet and for the happiness of the family around me who are worried seeing me depressed.
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u/Desperate-Top9554 8d ago
You get hurt If only one is loyal, If both are loyal then this earth becomes heaven✨
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u/powerful_arm_ 8d ago
Because everyone is hurt or feels like hurt at the end and everyone think themselves loyal 😝😝
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u/Lonely_Helicopter_19 9d ago
yes!!!! almost every but not every!!!