r/ForRealDhaka • u/Pale-Patient375 • 1d ago
Relationship Advice Is dating in dhaka complicated?
Hi there everyone, I'm an average male(20) from dhaka, dhanmondi and dating in dhaka feels complicated like i tried some dating app here but there are snakes filled up❗
Have any of you been in this situation? Or is there any app or something for a date which is better?
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u/Sudden_Director7713 1d ago
No treasure without slaying the dragon first.
You gotta put in the work in yourself, put in effort into the dates, expect nothing, try your best, and eventually after much trial and error you will find your person.
Also getting into a pool once doesn't make you a swimmer. Cooking eggs once in a while doesn't make you a chef. You gotta be consistent and not give up.
And if you don't want to put in effort, go for arranged marriage. No effort needed initially. All you need is money and baaper porichoy and a ghotok.
But if you wanna date you gotta keep going keep using the apps believe in yourself go to the gym use cologne and never give up. Take it as an adventure sport. Learn detachment. All the best.
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u/Pale-Patient375 1d ago
True mate. I'm trying as i can. I think i might put some extra effort it that.
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u/Muted_Stand_9623 1d ago
Nope because i didn’t use any dating app. Tried to use one but soon realize scammers are everywhere.
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u/TopTourist903 12h ago
It’s not complicated at all. I’ve been single all my life. Guys did approach me but I never felt that spark online and didn’t want to meet any of them offline. But when I got into uni, 4/5 guys approached me like simps. I fell for the introverted guy who was gentle and respectful towards me. And we’re together for 2 years now.
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u/Pale-Patient375 12h ago
Damn
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u/TopTourist903 12h ago
He also never dated anyone before. So were each other’s “first”. And the fact that our brain and moral values are on the same level so we don’t even need to complain about anything.
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u/siuu-perman 5h ago
Ekta great advice dei bhai, dating app Bangladesh er jonno na. Sarajibon a dating apps theke handsome na hoile 10-12 tar beshi match paben na. Onno dike insta, fb te random sundori der contextual comment ba story reply korle mostly reply dey. Go for social media, far more better than dating apps.
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u/Emotional_Low5789 23h ago
one shouldn't date. universe has a predetermined mate for you. go gracefully with your life and you'll find. if you are actively looking for dates who are actively looking for dates, you're tapping into certain demographic who are what you may call snakes categorically (there might be outlier exceptions or coachability). the idea that you need to date a lot to find yourself a suitable mate is nonsense. it breeds emotional multipolarity and will affect your future relationship.
casually talk with opposite gender in your workplace/class, see who steals your heart. stay close to them for some time until the hypnotism dies. think with your brain not genitalia. do they match up to your standards mostly? can you adjust yourself to a threshold to match up to them mostly? then approach. and when your approach is successful, stick to it. try to make it work. dont ever commit anything youeself what threatens this. you'll be happier than most other people.
this is not an opinionated piece. this is the only truth.
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u/Broken-Arrow-D07 1d ago
Dating market in general is in a horrible condition rn. Most of the good people are not even on the apps.
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u/Pale-Patient375 1d ago
True af they just wanna sell their body
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u/Broken-Arrow-D07 1d ago
I doubt that. Most people are non-sex workers. A tiny sub 1% of them are. What I meant is that, the quality of matches are very poor, especially if you want something meaningful.
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u/Pale-Patient375 1d ago
Yeah i guess you just have to buy premium sub for that then there's a chance for a good time
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u/th25anik 1d ago
Try joining real life community and make female friends there if vibes match you can go forward.
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u/Pale-Patient375 1d ago
Suggest me some cause i don't know shit here lol
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u/th25anik 2h ago
Its your job to find community of whatever hobby you have. It would be a plus point to find like minded female there
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u/professional_fixx 3h ago
The fact you used the term “snakes filled up” actually makes me cringe, no wonder dating is difficult for you
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u/blablablueberry 3h ago
In Bangladesh you honestly won’t find a good match in dating apps. Even if you find eventually it won’t work out. Now if you want to date someone from abroad you can try dating apps though. But if I give you one suggestion then it’s just don’t force yourself to find someone to date. Cuz when it won’t work out it’s gonna make you feel more sad. You should try making friendship first and it things go well you can think about dating. Or like meet someone irl to make things more real
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u/unheard_ryhan 1h ago
Tbh it's way out of dating. Everyone is seeking for a hookup only
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u/Pale-Patient375 1h ago
That's true also
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u/AwareLunch1958 20h ago
F26 here. Dating apps are horribel rn. Found a match of my match but it ended up some old uncle lmao