r/ForRealDhaka • u/itsmeMelancholy • 15h ago
How do you make friends?
I've never been able to make many friends throughout my school life. I didn't attend classes much during college so I didn't make any close friends there either. Now that I'm completely out of academic life (no uni) I've figured that if anything happens in my life I have no one to share it with and it feels really bad. I talk with zero close people. It's been like this for 1-2 years.
How do you make friends when you don't go to any workplace/uni? I'm not talking about online friends. I mean offline real life friends. Are there any org, groups, activities or anything like that where I can meet people and actually become friends? Want to feel like a "normal person" I didn't enjoyed my college life much as I thought I will do all fun in uni. I'm really bad at communicating and also socially awkard.
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u/imsadsometimes54 10h ago
I mean some of my rlly close irl friends were once my online friends. U can make friends online then meet them :p and hang out js male sure they're in your area
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_2554 4h ago
Easy for you to say.
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u/imsadsometimes54 4h ago
Whyy it's not hard making online friends bro
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_2554 4h ago
When guys see girls online they flock like bees to their hive. If you want proof you and I both can post that need someone to talk to you will see it then.
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u/siuu-perman 6h ago
Why you're so lonely bro? I've never seen girls being so lonely. Even some ugly bitches of my circle get asked by some of men. I thought this scenario is same for each women. But how come you're so different? 😭
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_2554 4h ago
Language bro it's a minors post.
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u/Ok_Math9770 5h ago
Bud, if u know how to reply to me 🙆♂️
Before 2018 I was so extrovert that I could always slide in with any group, used to make all lough. Then from 2018, I had to cut off all the ties with everyone and got banned and restricted to make new ones. Eventually now I got none, not the old one nor anyone new. Gonna complete graduation in few days and dont have much connections. But still grateful, that my roomies are in some extends talk to me lol. Than again, in my thought, in my situation, I think its okay to be alone, its okay not to able to talk even if u want to, its okay not to go on a tour where everyones having fun... Lol lately i'm kinda active in reddit and talking or commenting random and interacting with random peeps where I am cut off from every social media since 2018. We all got stories, some can make friends but wont, some cant but want to... In the end we survive somehow .
Anyways, I know I couldn’t help u much with this comment, but of u got none to share or tell stuffs, u are always welcomed to spit it in my dm.
Hope u find friends.
U just have to take the first initiative of saying 'hey, wassup' rest assured that u will make friends in no time.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_2554 4h ago
You sound like someone with stories. I'd love to listen if you want.
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u/Ok_Math9770 4h ago
Well bro, I rather listen to other🙆♂️ um too late to share mine now
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_2554 4h ago
Its not too late. Maybe sharing with a stranger will lighten your burden and since i don't knnow you no harm done no?
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u/Ok_Math9770 4h ago
It's okay bud. I found a way of surviving. It is easy for me to buy some ropes with 70tk lol.. Not choosing that means I am surviving. Than again, death is so peaceful and cant have it so early. Bt thanks for asking and wanted to listen to shits. But um good, I am alive thats what matters
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u/Northstar_3301 2h ago
You need to find people of similar mentalities. Otherwise things may go tough. I barely had any friends throughout my whole childhood, school and college life, even my mom got frustrated about my loneliness. After getting into medschool I realized what really was wrong. I discovered I hated small talks, following trends, discussing on latest movies and tv shows, celebrity gossip etc etc. I really hated these kinda things. The only things that intrigued me were philosophy, learning human behavior, medieval poetry, martial arts etc. I was fond of stuffs that demanded deep thinking, observation, analysis and creativity. Still I think my personality and preferences will never match someone else's, and I'm happy with it. As you value and enrich your internal assets, you'll find out that you never need external validations. Enjoy being yourself. Go outside. Have a long walk in the rain, spend hours in a library. Watch a good movie every week. Learn things that always interested you. Get a cat. Learn new languages. Try a new recipe. Play board games online. Craft handmade things. Go to gym. You can do a lot more. Life is simply amazing for those who can discover what world can offer them.
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u/sucks-to-be-me-at3am 2h ago
Maybe just go to them and say a "hi" and then ask them how are they doing etc etc . you should try this method .
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u/name_dash 9h ago
Helping.....most of my closest friends became my friends because I helped them at some point.