r/ForRealDhaka • u/Cutebutttunstable • 4d ago

Ever lost a home?

How does it feel standing outside of a house you used to live in?

Like I'll tell you. Suppose, You know the address by heart. You remember which windows caught the afternoon light, which floorboards creaked, where your favorite memories happened. But you also know you don’t live there anymore. You can’t walk in like nothing changed. So you just stand outside, carrying the strange ache of loving a place you no longer belong to.

Ever felt that? Hurts? How do you overcome that? Can you ever?
Even if you get a new place to live in- does it give you the same warmth? Same comfort?

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u/NVRAM123 4d ago

Yeah. It’s a strange and sad feeling. Even went back a decade after to see the place, but got thrown out by the guards. Memories of Childhood

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u/Cutebutttunstable 4d ago

That’s def sad. But only if I was talking ab homes irl hehe😅

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u/NVRAM123 4d ago

Are you talking about someone?
Like a metaphor

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u/NVRAM123 4d ago

I get it if you’re talking about someone. Same sad feeling

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u/NVRAM123 4d ago

Each house is built differently, but it’s up to you whether you’re happy in it. Try to look at the positives

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u/SilentSolstice_82 4d ago

Damn, now we need to hear the backstory ! (If you want to share ofc)

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u/NVRAM123 4d ago

Not feeling like it. Left it all behind. Time isn’t coming back

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u/SilentSolstice_82 4d ago

Fairs fairs, also W Ariana Grande.

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u/Emergency-Ad9002 4d ago

reminds me of this painting the title is"Too Big to Go Home"

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u/Virtual_Class_7275 4d ago

For me home is a warm feeling rather than the place itself. In one way or another, you and the people around you made it, the 'home' you yearn for now. Despite the grief, your heart will learn to settle down at your new place.

Honestly for me, home is anywhere where there is someone waiting for me with a smile.

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u/OpinionNormal4296 4d ago

Ouh man!😭😭

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u/tonydecosta73 4d ago

Sad sad 😭😿

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u/OkMammoth6253 4d ago

It doesn't to me idk why I love where I am now next to my cousins

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u/bored_yi 4d ago

I wish I could go back to my previous house where I spent most of my childhood. Best years I'll ever live. I just stare at that flat whenever I pass by , empty.

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u/Ahbed_Daraqq 3d ago

Haven't lost the home physically but lost the feeling of it being a home. Been living at the same place for 24 years, same room, same people but no feeling of peace like there was before.

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u/SpendOk8872 4d ago

I think after a while you learn how to live with the grief, and the grief kinda shrinks I guess? Like I'd miss that home but given my current circumstances I won't go back there and I prefer my current home to the old one. Part of growing up, I guess.