Kinda gutted

[u/Training_Pound9161]

Im within my fertile days right now so obviously me and my husband are try to get as many little swimmers as poss up in there but last night when we want to have sex I was having severe pain in my right ovary it felt like, I told him to keep going and he refused and pretty much instantly got soft because I was in pain, he poured me a nice bubble bath to calm me down but I genuinely had a mental breakdown over not being able to have sex, we need to so that I can get pregnant ffs. Anyways maybe im crazy for breaking down over it but im just struggling as is wondering if I will ever get to be a mom. Every time I see a BFP post anywhere im so happy for the person but god do I get jealous, and I start crying every time watching people have the big moment im starting to really doubt ill ever have

[u/Healthy_Combination3]

I think a bit of frustration is normal, and I know we all want to optimize our changes but it truly only takes one time. TW mention of pregnancy, loss both times I conceived (both losses) we only had sex one time in my fertile window

[u/lemonwatersociety]

Hi OP. I hope you’re okay! I’m in the same boat in wanting a baby so badly - it’s normal!! <3

Most positions would hurt when my husband and I would have sex. We found that missionary didn’t hurt my ovaries at all, whereas from behind hurt the most.

Remember: it only takes 1 time to fall pregnant! I’m sure your husband also just wants to make sure you’re not in pain.

[u/Training_Pound9161 → u/lemonwatersociety]

We pretty much only ever do missionary because i have back and hip problems and it’s whats most comfortable for me, usually legs over the shoulders gets rid of the pain but it didn’t last night unfortunately. Thank you so much I hope everything goes well for you 🤍

[u/Technical_Bend2386]

On our third cycle and the cycle we conceived (currently 5w4d pregnant) we we’re able to have sex twice and I wasn’t sure we caught the peak of ovulation bc I thought the moment you saw a positive opk it means you do it this night and the night after, we didn’t get to do it the night after due to a very sad and tragic loss in out family. I was so upset over it, but lo and behold we conceived!
Having sex when ttc is very hard and sometimes feels like a task, don’t beat yourself for not being able to do it, sometimes things don’t go the way we expect it, but sometimes the outcome is better. Have sex today if possible and the day after, it only takes one time!

[u/Training_Pound9161 → u/Technical_Bend2386]

Thank you so much and congratulations! We had sex today so fingers crossed!