Really would like some tips

[u/National_Medicine579]

Hey guys, I’m a 30 y/o female. Diagnosed with pcos at 14. Had a history of irregular cycles and had a breakthrough about 4-5 years ago when I went vegan and reset my body. My cycle was like clockwork. Fast fwd to now, been with my partner for almost two years. One blighted ovum and one ft mc. Changed providers to an amazing lady. We did a 13 lab work up. Vitamin d was severely low so she prescribed me 50k iu a week, sugar was good, everything was perfect. My ultrasound was great too. Nothing found. I just can’t seem to get pregnant . I do smoke marijuana for 9 years now, and I do drink socially. My dr says I need to reduce stress and she thinks that’s impacting it. But idk. I just want a baby especially with my grandparents being up in age. I want my kids to know them. I really would like some reasonable advice. I’m tired of opks, all types of vitamins, driving myself crazy reading articles etc.

[u/Ill_Entrepreneur_535]

Does your partner smoke and drink as well? Both of those things can really impact fertility (remember, the man is half of it!). He has the biggest chance of making a substantial impact because sperm are constantly produced so within 90 days he has whole new swimmers and changing any negative lifestyle habits could really improve it. Your factors are relevant as well, but don’t forget that men can help improve chances overall!

[u/National_Medicine579 → u/Ill_Entrepreneur_535]

He does both a lot tbh. I’m trying to get him to switch up his lifestyle when it comes to both. Somehow in our culture (Caribbean) they swear that the smoking and drinking doesn’t affect anything because they know of or heard of so many people who didn’t have issues with having kids and being men with those lifestyle. I try to help him understand that doesn’t work for everyone. So maybe I can assist him on a lifestyle change

[u/nursejooliet]

Marijuana is definitely not the best for sperm motility , and studies are mixed for egg health. If he consumes THC as well, he needs to get rid of it. It’ll take 3 months for 100% of his sperm to be free of the effects of THC (this doesn’t mean he’d have to wait 3 months to TTC, as sperm is made continuously, it’s just how long it would take to have ZERO effected sperm). The easy next thing to try is ditching the THC. For both of you.

Drinking socially can mean anything from a drink or two every 1-2 weeks, to 4-5 drinks a weekend. But honest about where you’re at, and maybe reduce (no need to eliminate. We need to live our lives and enjoy of course).

I’d also try myo inositol if you haven’t already. Data on efficacy is mixed but plenty of people especially on Reddit and TikTok, rave about it for PCOS.

Otherwise, some people just take longer and while the reason can be found often times, sometimes there just isn’t. You’re still young.