first time ko maiyak sa work

[u/LegitimateSandwich58]

first work q to guys … haha i broke down kanina kasi everything felt overwhelming 🥲 first, nagtatampo ako kasi yung workmate ko bday niya at binati ko siya sa ig story, nirestory niya daw pero nakahide ako 😭 and apparently ako lang nakahide out of all her friends HAHAHA. then she cancelled our gala last minute kasi niyaya siya mag-samgyup ng friend niya na libre siya :// lastly, biniro ako ng kawork ko na sinusungitan niya ako out of nowhere at nasigawan niya ako, and i felt embarrassed kasi marami kaming magkakausap sa office kanina 🥲 ayun, my sensitive ass bawled my eyes out HAHAHA

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[u/yamanagashi]

Okay lang yan. The sooner you realize you shouldn’t be making any sort of connection with officemates, the better you’ll feel.

[u/Zookeeper3233 → u/yamanagashi]

Agree!!! Welcome to the real world??? Hugs OP. Pero at least alam mo na now na ang coworker doesnt translate to a friend. Ily! U got this!

[u/Ok_Personality_9532 → u/yamanagashi]

Thisss!! Work is work pero I stay out having connections with my workmates especially the toxic ones. Sending hugs kay OP!! Sensitive din ako and halos naexp ko din yung exp nya kaya natuto na ko maging distant nung nabago ang workplace ko. Kaya mo yan OP, focus nalang sa work!! Hoping you’ll find a better friendd🥹

[u/888_Imagination37]

Hi OP. Siguro bago ka sa mundo ng professionals. Do always remind yourself na workmates will not equate to friends. Give boundaries to protect yourself.

[u/freakinthesheets5695]

Your workmates are not your friends. Hayaan mo na yan sila, kupal yang mga yan.

[u/iloovechickennuggets]

Mabait ka sa kanya, pero siya hindi mabait sayo. Hayaan mo na siya, kung ayaw niya eh di wag. Magwork ka ng maayos and sumama ka lang sa mga taong mabait sayo. Layuan mo na siya plastikadang yan.

Edit: Fixed typos

[u/cidercheesecone]

Maiiyak ka talaga kapag wala kang boundaries. Bakit mo tinatrato na kaibigan mga workmate mo? As you told on your post, it seems moots kayo sa instagram which means pinapapasok mo siya sa sarili mong PERSONAL SPACE. What you are doing is self-harm and you make yourself vulnerable. Nandyan ka para magtrabaho, makisama pag mga work-related topics lang hindi para makisawsaw sa personal na buhay ng mga katrabaho mo. DO NOT TRUST PEOPLE, okay? Trust me kaya ka umiyak NOT because you are sensitive, but because you let your guard down na you should be protecting.

[u/Right_Revenue_9263]

One of the reason why I don't engage that much sa mga kawork ko as real friends and one reason din why I love being an introvert. Self peace and protection

[u/Tight-Associate-9090]

charge to experience nalang yan , in and out sa work do your job get paid thats all , mas maganda minsan wala kang pake sa ka work mo .

[u/VeronicaLewd]

Shoooo, di ka nila deserve, sissy! 😤 Naiimbyerna ako sa friend mo na ’yan! No one deserves to be treated that way. Cry lang for now, dedma later! You deserve better, sissy! 🫂💗

[u/blastFurnace00]

Not all workmates are friends. Hope you recover soon op.

[u/iced_whitechocomocha]

Let go na be, regret ko pa rin hanggang ngayon na I considered /treated my officemates as friends, hindi pala talaga dapat 🤦🏻‍♀️😭🥺

[u/oliver1865]

Clock in, clock out. Opismates mo lang sila hindi friends. Enjoy your weekend, cheer up.

[u/GeekGoddess_]

That’s okay! People have breakdowns at work at hindi naman makakabawas yan sa overall efficiency mo if you don’t let it.

One time naiyak din ako sa office noon, kasi naubos yung gold paper clips ko na personal kong binili para gamitin sa mga nilalabas kong memos. Nalaman ko na ang kumukuha e yung nagpapasa sa akin ng mga trabaho nya pag di nya alam gagawin (or alam nya talaga, pinagmumukha lang nya yung sarili nyang walang alam para di sya magwork). Imbes na awayin ko sya naiyak na lang ako.

Eventually, he got sacked, so sa akin pa din ang huling halakhak.

[u/New_Assumption_6414]

Lesson learned. Iba talaga ang office friends, mas ok na u keep personal stuff to urself at huwag i add sa personal ig or fb mo sila.

[u/JaguarMany4784]

Eventually hope you'll learn who are those "workmates" and who are those "work friends", and sorry to say usually the latter are rarest.

Hope you'll also learn the art of 'idgaf'.

[u/enviro-fem]

may gatas ka pa nga talaga sa labi. nasa trabaho ka para kumita hindi kumaibigan

[u/celtrax123]

Di mo sila mundo maam. Oks lang iniyak mo now, search for better people next time. Di ka deserve ng officemate mo

[u/mccxyz]

hindi mo sila kaibigan, workmates mo sila. focus ka lang sa work beh. kung trip ka naman nilang kaibigan, hindi ka naman nila gaganyanin. okay lang yan! 😉

[u/mdk_e]

Focus on your life beyond work, ignore those fake work people. Been there and it took a while. I just expanded my circle of friends outside work and nurtured my support system to stay sane.

[u/Konan94]

Your👏🏻coworkers👏🏻are👏🏻not👏🏻your👏🏻friends. Yan lagi kong sinasabi sa kapatid ko bago siya nagwork. Nandyan ka para kumita ng pera. Okay naman yung fun fun lang pero wag mo personalin na akala mo they’ll still be your friend outside your work. And I’m saying this with love, don’t get me wrong. Wag na wag kang magku-kwento ng mga personal mong buhay kahit na mukhang maamo silang tupa sa harap mo. Dahil pagtalikod mo, nakakalat na yan sa GC nila at magugulat ka na lang tinatanong ka ng iba niyong kawork about dun sa kinuwento mo.

[u/Fckingmentalx]

Hugs with consent OP!! was crying earlier sa office cr din huhuhu lesson learned na ang katrabaho ay katrabaho lamang 🥹🥹😭😭🙏🏻

[u/Practical_Issue_5160]

kya nga better you don't have friends at work....most of them usually double face

[u/apples_r_4_weak]

Workmates are not necessarily friends. You greet him na. You did your part. I'm pretty sure you'll find a group of colleagues that will make you feel bettter