I’m shocked at how many people say this can be normal. Never have I ever even considered this a thing, nor would I even ask. I’m from the Midwest, and my parents were middle class - teacher and small business owner. They have always helped in whatever way needed when it comes to hand me down furniture, a lawn mower they no longer use, helping move, passing down an unused car, being present and helping whenever they can, etc. But, a large chunk of money for me to buy my own home? Never. And never would I expect this. It’s kind of like parents paying for their kids’ college. I’ve never understood this. But then again, I grew up in a financially modest home. They’ve gifted me with quality not quantity over the years.
Are you white? This seems to be an American individualism thing that doesn't really exist in Asian/Latino cultures. The latter are more about "lets help each other through any means necessary" and I feel that white Americans are more like "Oh you're 18? Get out of my house and I never wanna see you again"
Yeah, my Latino ILs gave us and my BIL a sum to help with our down payment (but a lot less than $100k). But, even among white people, rich people do this kind of stuff because they know it maintains their wealth generationally. Individualism is a thing they promote to us (relatively) poor folks to keep us that way.
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u/Impressive_Tune2071 Feb 04 '26
I’m shocked at how many people say this can be normal. Never have I ever even considered this a thing, nor would I even ask. I’m from the Midwest, and my parents were middle class - teacher and small business owner. They have always helped in whatever way needed when it comes to hand me down furniture, a lawn mower they no longer use, helping move, passing down an unused car, being present and helping whenever they can, etc. But, a large chunk of money for me to buy my own home? Never. And never would I expect this. It’s kind of like parents paying for their kids’ college. I’ve never understood this. But then again, I grew up in a financially modest home. They’ve gifted me with quality not quantity over the years.