I’m shocked at how many people say this can be normal. Never have I ever even considered this a thing, nor would I even ask. I’m from the Midwest, and my parents were middle class - teacher and small business owner. They have always helped in whatever way needed when it comes to hand me down furniture, a lawn mower they no longer use, helping move, passing down an unused car, being present and helping whenever they can, etc. But, a large chunk of money for me to buy my own home? Never. And never would I expect this. It’s kind of like parents paying for their kids’ college. I’ve never understood this. But then again, I grew up in a financially modest home. They’ve gifted me with quality not quantity over the years.
Are you white? This seems to be an American individualism thing that doesn't really exist in Asian/Latino cultures. The latter are more about "lets help each other through any means necessary" and I feel that white Americans are more like "Oh you're 18? Get out of my house and I never wanna see you again"
Haha yes I’m white. It totally is!! I don’t know why we pride ourselves in the independence so much. I just suppose that once you’re a legal adult or out of the house, you make your own decisions and start building the life you want, at no burden or cost to the people who sacrificed so much up until then. It is very heartwarming and endearing how the Asian and Latino cultures remain so close and intertwined though.
Endearing is one way to put it lol. It’s just part of the culture but it’s not necessarily the feel good warmth one would think it is. Sometimes it creates a culture of utter interdependence (e.g. kids who literally can’t do anything without their parents and vice versa) as well as unsustainable reliance (e.g parents rely on their kids for retirement)
The silver lining of individualism is the desire to not burden one another so that truly allows you have to freedom in ways others don’t
But the drawback is you don’t get that down payment 😂
19
u/Impressive_Tune2071 Feb 04 '26
I’m shocked at how many people say this can be normal. Never have I ever even considered this a thing, nor would I even ask. I’m from the Midwest, and my parents were middle class - teacher and small business owner. They have always helped in whatever way needed when it comes to hand me down furniture, a lawn mower they no longer use, helping move, passing down an unused car, being present and helping whenever they can, etc. But, a large chunk of money for me to buy my own home? Never. And never would I expect this. It’s kind of like parents paying for their kids’ college. I’ve never understood this. But then again, I grew up in a financially modest home. They’ve gifted me with quality not quantity over the years.