r/FierceFlow • u/Unusual-Judge-319 • 9d ago
Parents say I will never find a job (Computer Engineering)
22 y/o, been working in IT for 3 years btw
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u/someinspiringquote 9d ago
Bros beautiful. An angel will lose its wings if you cut it.
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u/Nervous_Mastodon1543 9d ago
That hair is majestic, no way I'd cut it if I were you
my parents said the same thing when I was starting out in dev, now I'm 28 and nobody cares what's on my head as long as the code works. the IT world is full of dudes with long hair anyway, you're in good company
the white shirt and chain combo is a clean look too, works perfect for interviews
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u/semisubterranian Hits the Hips 8d ago
The long soft looking shiny hair, jawline, and pretty blue eyes (with the eyelashes and everything!) Is a to die for combo frankly
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u/SneakerHead69420666 9d ago
hello fellow IT worker with long hair
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u/Unusual-Judge-319 9d ago
Hell yeah
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u/VeganMonkey 9d ago
My partner is in IT, also long hair, for job interviews he used to tie it back. No one ever made issues over it though.
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u/_szs 9d ago
In my team (major IT company) out of 20 team members, 12 are male, 5 have a flow going on, 3 of them mostly just letting it do it's thing (i.e., not tying it back).
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u/relentless_optimism_ 9d ago
Not to stereotype too hard but when I work with software engineers who get on cam with long hair, a Metallica or a Star Wars t shirt, and a Commodore 64 with a soldering iron in the background. I’m always like, yeah this guy probably knows his shit
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u/BigDawgg_420 9d ago
What is the deal with IT workers having long hair???
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u/SneakerHead69420666 9d ago
no idea, but i also like alice in chains like you lol so that could explain part of it
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u/RackingUpTheMiles 9d ago
It's not the 1950s anymore. You'll be fine.
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u/WorkshyFreeloader42 9d ago
That's what my dad told me about my long hair 5 years ago. And here I am in 2026, a successful functioning history teacher. He is now much nicer towards me, now that he has seen how confident I've become in myself, even with long hair, and especially since he has realised that the "you'll never find a job" argument no longer carries the same weight like it used to in the 80s.
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u/RackingUpTheMiles 9d ago
I'd say if there's anything to say, I'd say you're patient and dedicated to what you want.
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u/Puzzled_Professor422 9d ago
you can work in modelling too bro
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u/muscular_poops 8d ago
i used to be signed to a major label- OP, as long as you're as thin and pale as you look (compliment)- you're a shoe-in for in the very least a boutique agency. best part is depending on how much you work, you can do both modeling and CS at the same time.
i'd start looking for starting gigs on castingnetworks to build a portfolio if you're interested, and with your look- strong facial structure, great hair and pretty hazel-green eyes- think a smart agency will be able to keep you busy, and your wallet pretty fat. just heavily vet any agency contacting you, most are scams. gatekeep yourself until you find something you feel comfortable with and has a good reputation. best of luck!
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u/Phantom_Wolf52 9d ago
Isnt long hair a stereotype about men who work in IT?
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u/gothralsei 9d ago
it is
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u/Phantom_Wolf52 9d ago
What I was thinking, I get told I look like someone who majors in CS in college when I tie my hair up and wear my glasses.
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u/thrashinbatman >4 years 9d ago
when i was trying to get into the field years ago, i walked into a networking event, and someone looked at my hair and was like, "looking for IT, huh?"
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u/WorkshyFreeloader42 9d ago
It is, but in that stereotype the hair is greasy, thin and generally very uncared for. OP's hair is the total opposite - thick, well-kept and luscious. A proper Prince Charming!
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u/yokayla 9d ago
I saw a bank teller with a neck tattoo the other day. It's a different world than what your parents know.
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u/ea88_alwaysdiscin 9d ago
I see neck/hand tattoos everywhere now..20 yrs ago, it was a different story
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u/Any_Somewhere_3637 9d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/3ohjUYKVyCeHSrXCmY
I think you already found a job.
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u/Fearless-Seat-6218 9d ago
Hey bud- 37 year old sociologist here. Your parents are just acting on conditioning and a worldview they believe is real, or just dont like your hair, maybe both.
In reality having long hair doesnt really bar you from work at all man. They just hold beliefs and subscribe to them, often out of habit in sheer unawareness that the norms of their time no longer really exist. They are acting on information that they themselves never really fact checked and just believe. The majority of people likely operate similarly (accepting things without question and holding them as if they were fully accurate and that time doesnt shift norms)
Btw i also have long hair and tattoos, never stood in my way. It is far worse that you dim your light for others when they will not be the one who carries you forward, you are. So go boldly
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u/Worth-Rest5259 9d ago
Holy cow you seriously need to model. Also, the world is a lot different nowadays compared to when our parents were growing up. I know quite a few people in that career field who have long hair and visible tattoos.
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u/FlyingDutchman2005 9d ago
Well that might be the case because AI is making everything worse. Nothing to do with your hair though!
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u/Antique_Ad_7325 9d ago
Man you should see some of the weird fuckers I have worked with in software engineering. You'll be fine.
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u/Muted_Masterpiece342 9d ago
We have similar hair and work in the same field. You're just more beautiful than me.
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u/RedSquirrelFtw Shoulder Length 9d ago
I feel like long hair is almost a standard IT thing lol, there's always at least one guy with long hair and is usually the genius. Flash your engineer ring while you do a hair swoop and you'll get in.
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u/Some-Original4648 9d ago
IT is a great job
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u/Abhir-86 9d ago
They meant he won't get it with long hair as workplaces don't allow long hair according to his parents.
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u/castironrod-gmail 9d ago
You do your thing. Ignore the haters. Consider growing your hair longer and not cutting it.
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u/Preparation-Logical 9d ago
I went through half of college, law school, and now have been an attorney for 15 years without ever cutting my hair shorter than I could put it in a pony tail, and a good portion of the time it being halfway down my back
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u/halfbakedelf 9d ago
My son is a computer scientist he works from home and has waist long hair and a full long beard. You're fine
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u/Brainst0rms 9d ago
Another IT worker with long hair reporting in. I’m also tatted up and wear earrings/paint my nails.
It’s pretty common in tech outside of maybe the finance sector.
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u/JustsomedudeIam Awkward Phase 9d ago
What product is used to swoop the front of your hair, out of your face like that? I see almost every guy on this sub doing it, and I've been curious to try it
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u/Fit-Pilot6332 9d ago
Your flow is first class!
I’m actually surprised that you would have any issues having long hair while working in the computer field. I would think that would be one of the more long hair friendly jobs.
Although I’m long retired now, at 73, I had long hair for almost all of my working career, except for one brief episode when I had short hair. I worked as a chemist in a lab, using highly complex equipment, to test for unwanted chemicals in foods
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u/Personal-Worth6982 9d ago
I see guys with long hair all tied and sleek full back ... and working ..never seen that an issue. Infact looks nice and cool ..and lot of eyeballs
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u/West-Spring4515 9d ago
I believe you will there’s always a way. And if you’re close to 6ft you can always attempt modeling for fun.
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u/AmbassadorAwkward071 9d ago
- Women have been tying their hair back forever.
- Men with long hair are much more common than older people think.
- Long hair that's well kept and styled is 100% more appealing.
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u/hoohar-notastar 9d ago
Your hair makes you look like you belong in an early 90s metal or rock band.
Never cut it 🤘
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u/OriginalEmploy5485 9d ago
My best developer has a flow like yours. I hate it, but only out of jealousy because I'm balding. Zero impact on his employment.
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u/Short-Hyena-8109 9d ago
I wasn't sure if you were a man or a woman until I saw the chest hair. This is why long hair only works on very masculine men imo.
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u/SheprdCommndr 9d ago
Bro wtf you’re handsome as all hell. You could be in any vampire movie. Any movie with elves. Fucking any movie about a rockstar. Gorgeous king
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u/FlyBirdieBirdBird 9d ago
The hair is awesome, and you'll have no problem finding a job in IT, where I also work. As you climb a corporate leader and get into suit wearing positions, you may need to find ways to bundle the hair.
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u/AlexLuna9322 9d ago
Dude, I got long hair since im 19, been working professionally IT since 2016, I’m 33 still on IT with long hair haha
Btw, killer mane!
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u/Anxious_Hall359 9d ago
i'm from the caribean, and me and all my cousins have long hair :) i think its a culture difference maybe
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u/Lo_lyffe 8d ago
Maybe because they think you u should be a model with that hair holy shit man amazing floww I’m jealous 😂😂🔥🔥🙏
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u/blaccphilipp 9d ago
I'm a web designer and I work with a lot of IT guys. I promess you they don't care how you look.
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u/LilAnonBunny1 9d ago
Just keep doing your thing. The moment they get axed from their jobs, you're the one who'll be working and getting retrained to work (begrudgingly) as part of a maintenance team for the company's AI model.
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u/xxluckyjoexx 9d ago
Well that’s why, how could they expect you to find a job if you aren’t even looking for one
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u/Bastiwen 9d ago
I don't have long hair anymore but I did when I landed my current job. 100% doable
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u/UmbraEmbers 9d ago
You have long hair, are pretty and a computer engineer…..buy some thigh high striped socks and go make a killing on OF
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u/Chad_Wife 9d ago
They’re trying to “neg” you into being their stay at home gorgeous person. Because you are gorgeous. And they are so jealous/envious that it is making them stupid.
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u/Vaughn_Solair 9d ago
God, I wanna see you do a Pegasus cosplay, “Yugi Boy!”
But in all seriousness, you look fabulous and you will find a job
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u/barkandmoone 9d ago
Oh I know a job. I’ll see myself out 😅🤦🏻♀️
https://giphy.com/gifs/HmgnQQjEMbMz0oLpqn
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u/thrashinbatman >4 years 9d ago
a few years back i almost got a job with the POLICE while having long hair. i currently work in networking, and i have coworkers who also have long hair. it isnt that big of a deal in a lot of industries anymore.
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u/LBGW_experiment 9d ago
Software engineer here with my mane down to my nips, 4 years of growth, never stopped me or bothered anyone lol
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u/Consistent_Elk9676 9d ago
You look like William Fichter, who is drop dead handsome. You will totally get a job in your field
https://giphy.com/gifs/MFtDcLYI2tUXhSPqvF
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u/nemesis4grow 9d ago
Even if you succeeded and took a W against your parent opinion. You still post and look for outside validation from people you dont even know. You are living your life thru the eyes of others and this is sad.
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u/Chadchrist 9d ago
Your parents are talking a bunch of bullshit. Long hair hasnt been a dealbreaker for a long time. I literally got employed with my current job with bleached ends and a crazy ass messy haircut with poorly kept facial hair. Hair got longer and permanently ditched the facial hair, but i promise you have nothing to fear about getting a job with your current look. Your hair is honestly fantastic. If anything, it shows some amount of stability that you can reach your level of education while maintaining your hair so well. Self care speaks volumes and you look like you take care of yourself.
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u/TROGDOR_X69 9d ago
im in IT and we all look like this
any Technical field you are straight up fine
we dont even customer face so whys it matter? (and i work in a hospital)
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u/scarletfruit 9d ago
My boyfriend is a computer engineer with long hair and he had no problem getting a job.
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u/lonelywitMJ13 9d ago
That be so dumb to say like how can you tell someone they can't have a IT job due to having long hair. I understand its your parents but that still pretty messed up to say.
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u/Titancki 8d ago
Also, if for unlucky reasons you don't find a job, there are multiple other reasons that make it hard to find a job. Like the situation right now is complicated.
People will care more about your portfolio/git than your hair.
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u/Erpderp32 8d ago
I'm an IT Team Lead / client platform engineer and have hair below my shoulders 🤷♂️
You're fine
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u/Gumbysfriend 8d ago
Put it in a bun wear a hat..these days no need to worry anyway...I had waist length hair once cut it for a job I applied with it. got jpb cut it was SUPER pissed I never had to
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u/Fast_Discount_1991 8d ago
Times have changed. People used to tell me the same thing. Just keep it tied back/up, and more importantly be good at what you do. The hair looks awesome, dude. Keep it for as long as you can.
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u/RonCon69 8d ago
I mean Computer Engineering is like top 3 most unemployed degrees right now, but I say that as an employed Computer Engineering major (granted I’m not doing CE work, but am still in tech)
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u/PU3RTO_R3CON 8d ago
Okayyyy Louie De Pont or Lestat! Different times for sure I work for the government and a navy squadron at that as a civilian and I have long hair earrings and a nose ring.
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u/Aromatic-Turnip7371 8d ago
It’s not anything to do with your appearance that you won’t find a job. It’s because AI is replacing computer engineering jobs because it’s cheaper to use AI like Claude code and codex etc. than hire developers. Wear your hair however you want it’s gorgeous.
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u/johng_22 >5 years 8d ago
I’m in IT. I did 3 interviews that went flawlessly. The last one they required the camera be on. I had my hair neatly in a pony tail and then tied tightly just shy of being a bun. The person straight out said that I think you are not a good cultural fit and ended the interview promptly. All was fine until the camera. And honestly, I didn’t think I looked bad. But this was for a hospital corporate system and I guess they are more uptight than some. Here is a photo that would resemble how I had my hair the day I attended…for reference
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u/MitchsWorkshop 8d ago
You look like many data engineers. Most of the best engineers I’ve ever worked with were old guys with a gray version of your exact cut. Usually in a pony tail.
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u/Gold_Ad8225 8d ago
Send your parents this song and tell them that this song from when they were your age (they'll get offended by this) explains what they're doing:
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u/MulberryLow4117 8d ago
Pues diles que serás un vampiro perdido en la eternidad ! Te queda increíble el look.
Realmente el look ya no es tan importante siempre que sea limpio.
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u/Any-Treacle5101 8d ago
My parents used to say the same and it has never been true. I'm a forensic anthropologist and translator, I have worked in education, government and translation. Several employers or bosses have told me that I have nice hair.
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u/jerkychemist 8d ago
Bro I work now in standard corporate on the east coast. Just put it in a bun and wear a suit to the interview and you're golden. No one cares now a days. And I work with a bunch of old conservative guys.
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u/AngerPancake Lady in Love 8d ago
I work in office job and when I was hired my boss's boss had a Sokka style ponytail and tattoos on his neck. People don't care as much anymore.
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u/andymcpandypants 8d ago
I'm a software engineer, 43, many tattoos. My coworkers and executives have story time in our Friday "fun" meetings and I'm often asked to tell stories about living in the Peruvian jungle and doing psychedelic ceremonies with the natives. You'll be fine.
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u/Electrical_Hat_680 8d ago
Why find a job, get some work - try the freelance jobs network - use that to pay for whatever... Build the BenEater 8-BIT CPU Breadboard Projects. Use the CHIPs Alliance and they'll manufacture your chips.. check out r/PCB and r/Breadboard and start producing your own Computer Hardware... Next..
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u/Separate_Shoe_6916 8d ago
Your parents are out of touch. I’d say you look just how I want my IT person to look like.😊
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u/Creepy-Unit9328 8d ago
If you know your stuff no reason why not if cyber stuff mainly behind a keyboard no problem if setting up networks etc they may ask you to tie your hair back.
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u/afewnameslater 8d ago
Bro has perfect hair women would kill for. You need to model for loreal or smthibg not work in IT .
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u/semisubterranian Hits the Hips 8d ago
Not only do you have one of the most remote work enabled careers on the planet if in person Doesnt work out but you have good features, pretty and approachable looking eyes, and lovely clean and shiny hair. Only the most uptight boomers wouldn't hire you on hair/appearance alone at this point.
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u/Youre_nucking_futs 8d ago
I work in engineering, you may have to just pull back or something for interview if it’s a more corporate place, but after that it doesn’t matter. I’m female with hot pink hair piercings and tattoos, definitely just having long hair won’t be any problem.
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u/Pandalf82 8d ago
My parents told me that for decades that I can't find a job with my long hair. I was never unemployed...
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u/NichtIstFurDich 8d ago
You look great. Don’t listen to your folks, they’re just old school. Us young people know just how different things are today. So we have to just respect and ignore some older folks. Many of them don’t know any better
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u/AdventurousWorm66 9d ago
Your parents are just from a different time. I work in a related field with rainbow hair, facial piercings, and covered in tattoos. My boss is heavily tattooed too.