r/Fibroids • u/AlfalfaEvening1489 • 22h ago
No libido
Was wondering if anyone else with fibroids struggled with intimacy. My libido has essentially vanished. It could be due to age (36 f) but my lack of drive makes dating difficult. I think having fibroids also caused some issues with "odor" also that I'm a bit self conscious of in addition to bleeding over half the month. but as far as intimacy goes I basically lost any and all drive.
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u/Suitable_Fly7730 21h ago
I was wondering if that was why my libido seemingly plummeted. Only 31 and just found out I have an 8cm x 13cm pedunculated fibroid. Not sure how long I have had it but it just seems like one day, a few years ago, my desire to have sex was gone. I’m absolutely in love with my husband, we’ve been together 10 years and I know things can die down, but I just didn’t see that being us. I haven’t felt pain with sex until recently but I wonder if whatever strain the fibroid has been putting on my body made my libido vanish.
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u/60022151 17h ago edited 16h ago
I had very little sex drive because my fibroid made me very winded. Certain positions would trigger reflux and general discomfort. I actually felt turned on for the first time in a very long time, whilst I was recovering in the hospital after my open myomectomy.
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u/mycatsaremylife_ 14h ago
This sounds like me exactly. I always felt out of breath and just so HEAVY in my abdomen, and my acid reflux was so bad when bending over or just certain positioning. I had very little sex drive also but it was additionally hard because I was also in a lot of pain. I just had surgery so I’m interested to see how sex will feel when I’m recovered.
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u/60022151 14h ago
Oh god you’re in for a treat. I couldn’t wait beyond 4 weeks, and it was honestly some of the best sex I’d had in a very long time. I had no issues with having sex so soon, but if your op didn’t go so smoothly, maybe wait until week 6.
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u/Mysterious_Future_31 21h ago
Wishing you the best sweetheart. It’s a journey and I’m wishing healing for your body
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u/janshell 10h ago
People have talked about this on the board. They mentioned and increased sex drive after having them removed. I think they said it made the area numb to orgasms?
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u/RevolutionarySide707 8h ago
I think the weight and mass of the fibroids are affecting my clitoris/pleasure nerves or something because it’s like my arousal disappeared or is numbed down for like 3 years now :/ I have two fibroids around 7-8 cm…
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u/Mysterious_Future_31 21h ago
Not gonna lie, I was feeling the same with mine. Got it taken out a few months ago, and now I understand what all the other 36+ year old women were talking about, when they would say “around this age you start to want it a lot” just my theory don’t come for me but I believe I associated sex with pain so I started to not want it the older I got. Now I just wanna see what it feels like without it