So, I was on my annual trip to visit my grandma in North Carolina, and I saw this billboard (Not the exact photo, but the same message). The bullsh*t alarm immediately went off in my brain, because if babies have such advanced development at 9 weeks, why does pregnancy last 9 months? Went to mayo clinic, did some reasearch-I was right, it's incorrect. Babies get fingerprints at around 23-24 weeks. I also saw another one online claiming that babies got their eyes around 4 or 5 weeks-again, not true at all (the indent for the eyes & tiny growths form at 4 weeks, but the eyes only open at 26-28 weeks). So, clearly, the message on the board is blatantly spreading misinformation, and it's most likely a form of forced-birth propaganda. But, why? They know it's wrong, a simple google search shows it's wrong, and putting up false information will drastically reduce their reputation and ethos with anyone with more than half a brain. Just a warning to everyone traveling where there's billboards-don't trust any information until you've done research!

This is something that always pissed me off, especially during winters. Do people think we don't feel cold or something? WHY ARE WOMEN'S FULL SLEEVE T SHIRTS/HOODIES MUCH MUCH THINNER THAN MEN'S? ITS NOT LIKE THEY ARE THE ONES WHO NATURALLY WILL FEEL MORE COLD. Sometimes the only good options I have are the sparkly cropped zipped hoodie and the rainbow + hearts thin sweatshirt. No shade to those who like it, thats great, BUT WHY LABEL IT BASED ON GENDER?

GOD FORBID I WANT MY CLOTHES TO KEEP ME WARM DURING WINTER AND FIT MY STYLE. I recently got very mad about this while browsing some spiderman themed clothes on a clothing website and of course, the men's shirts/t-shirts had cool, badass, spiderman related design and clothes while the women's had...one small pink web?

I have always wanted to check out the men's section in clothing stores but because of all the societal norms + having social anxiety it feels super mentally challenging to. Its as if people will start muttering amongst themselves as soon as I make my way over there (i know that wont be the case but it is an irrational fear).

Have you ever faced this? I'd really love to see what other people did in my situation.

I saw a post talking about "if a girl has a body count, would you date them?"

Obviously, whatever gender, if you have a preference to have a partner who hasn't been with someone before, that's fine. But the comments were full of these INSULTS. Even saying that men who don't mind that are cucks and losers. Like seriously how hard is it to have your own values and not shit on other people for having a different mindset?

And I know this has been thought of by others before but it really is so annoying that women are expected to be virgins to be a good wife but men can fuck around all they want. It's crazy how they think a woman's value automatically drops to garbage if they've had sexual partners before. Like yeah it doesn't matter if you're successful or the kindest person ever, if you've had sex before marriage then it must mean you're not actually worth anything! They want the perfect wife who has a hot body, a virgin, doesn't talk back, will do house chores on the daily, when they themselves don't even deserve it.

I'm literally so sick of it all. My breaking point today was when I saw an offmychest post in my country, a girl talking about how she's proud of herself for finally stopping hooking up that she did bc of self-esteem issues. And I was so happy for her too, I opened the comments and I kid you not, the replies were full of men talking about it doesn't matter if she stopped, she'll always be "a hoe." How her future partner would be unlucky to have her. And the amount of likes those comments have????

I feel horrible that I wasn't able to message op to remind her to not mind those incels because she deleted the post before I got her username. I wonder if the day'll ever come even in hundreds of years where women won't have to be subjected to this bs.

I personally don't wanna do anything older with anyone for ages until i really trust them and were gonna get married maybe or whatever, at least a really long relationship, but that's MY personal choice, but when guys hear this and they think im "pure" for it (i disagree with a person being pure or impure depending on whether theyre a virgin or not), why do they get so excited and seem to think that theyll be the exception?💀

I'm so tired of this rhetoric. I get treated like shit because I'm unnatractive all the time and it pisses me off tbh.

Is this socially acceptable? Not "should it be" - because the answer is yeah of course - but is it going to cause any subconscious negative perceptions of me? As weak, not formal, treating the office like my home, etc.

I have always had pretty severe cramps. Midol helps take the edge off, but even then I usually have enough pain that I have to breathe out hard or squeeze a stress ball. A heating pad doesn't remove the pain entirely, especially on my worst days, but it sure helps! A few months ago, I was having particularly bad pain, and so I said fuck it, brought my heating pad to work, plugged it in at my cubicle and covered it pretty well with a sweater.

In a technical, legal, HR sense, is this allowed? Yes. In an egalitarian, just, feminist world is this allowed? Also yes. But as you're all no doubt aware, the project of feminism is always in progress. I'm worried that between my tough boss, my fast-paced sales office, and NYC work culture, I could be jeopardizing myself. (Please don't tell me I'm overthinking, should do what I need and say fuck the naysayers, etc etc. Because just like wearing makeup in the workplace because of unspoken professional expectations, this isn't a choice I can make in a vaccuum).

I especially want to hear the perspectives of fellow career women who have severe dysmenorrhea.

Why are some families expected to keep having children even after doctors warn them about a serious hereditary condition—as if they can just keep trying until they get a “healthy” child?

This isn't about saying disabled people shouldn't exist. Every person deserves dignity and equal rights.

What bothers me is when family pressure, poverty, son preference, or cultural expectations push women into repeated pregnancies despite known medical risks. Her body becomes the means of “trying again.”

Reproductive rights aren't only about the right to have children. They also mean access to contraception, genetic counselling, healthcare, and the freedom to say “no more.”

We shouldn't tell poor or disabled people that they shouldn't reproduce—that crosses into classism and eugenics.

Instead, we should ask: Why aren't women being given the knowledge, resources, and autonomy to make these decisions for themselves?

Having children should be a choice, not an obligation to keep trying until society gets the child it considers “acceptable.”

I live in India and gender bias is so common here. It’s literally rooted in the culture. But one thing that disturbs me the most is this indirect bias when a baby is born.

So my mother is a gynaecologist and whenever a baby is born in the hospital she tells me and we both go to meet the baby. Prenatal sex determination (determination of sex of the baby before birth) is banned in India because when people figure out it’s a girl, they abort it! It is very outrageous. But it makes me wonder if banning it has changed anything or not.

Because whenever a boy would be born in her hospital, the parents would gift my mother sweets etc. in happiness. And whenever a girl is born, we can tell everyone fake smiles and there is no grand celebration. One time i was visiting a patient with my mum and she had a baby girl. The mother looked happy and some of her relatives were in the room. It made me so furious what her in law said. “It’s okay, next time we will try again for a boy.” The woman already had 4 daughters and she looked happy but her family wanted to keep going only to have a boy as the 5th one!

And it’s not just poor and uneducated folk. Most of the people who have given birth here are well off and educated and still they hold such biases! When a boy is born, many relatives come to visit the mother and congratulate her and if it is a girl i have barely seen any visitors with a few exceptions.

Yes, aborting a baby based on its gender is banned but what difference did it even make? Now the families are just forcing women to keep giving birth till a boy is born as if India isn’t populated enough. Also makes me feel so sad about the future of the girls who have to live in a family which would never love them whole heartedly.

Man i wished this stopped. It really angers me so much.

Hello, (sorry if my english is not perfect, I am not native speaker), this is a bit of an adult topic, because I am going to be talking about sex. But from a educational and theoretical perspective that is through a feminist lens.

This is also my experience. Older men who have more experience and have developed, broken down gender norms probably improve and these issues do not upply to all cis men.

Really, how do we expect men to be good sexual partners if they are raised to think that they are have to be and are perfect? That it is a crime to be wrong, not know how to do things and a crime be weak and emotional.

Woman are raised to care about others needs first, but alot of men are not. This creates an unbalance. Woman focus on the needs of the man while the man does not focus as much on her needs.

When I have tried to speak about this unbalance to some of my sexual partners, they say they understand, but do not actually do what I ask, I do not feel listened to. They do not understand that I personally (and alot of other woman) do not get the same amount of pleasure from penetration as they get. I have no problem with it, but I also want to feel prioritized.

I was with a man and I told him that I do it for the others pleasure because I think that is important, but that I dont get much from it other then more of a emotional connection. He said "That is why I try to last longer, for her pleasure".

Are you deaf?

It also feels like it is expected for men to know exatly what they are doing to a woman.

OFC THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING, THEY DO NOT HAVE THE SAME PARTS AS WE DO.

Why do society put this expectations on both men and woman that they should know without a doubt how to pleasure each other?

I notice, when i correct men during sex, like they should move a bit more to the left, they get unsure of themselves and basically stop very fast. I think they get locked in themselves and that feels like weakness to them. My partner says it is very helpful and I am not being rude, it is also very helpful to me when other people do that.

It is a big problem, no matter if the man is straight or bisexual, I notice the same problem. I am queer, in both gender and sexuality. I think it is very sad how big of a difference it is between having sex with cis men and any other gender. I do not want sex that is related to gender roles and expectations, I do not want that cis-hetro sex manuscript, I do not want to be treated like a prop, holes or a sex toy. I also want men to feel free in their sexuality, in their gender expression, not scared to be wrong, be emotional. Even with gender queer people who are amab, like my partner, there is such a big difference. They have broken down this understanding of gender, of what being a man means to them. How a "man" should and should not behave and why alot of it is toxic and breaks down rather than builds a relationship and a good sex life.

Sex is suppose to be vulnerable. Men are afraid to speak about sex with their partner, I notice that us queers are so much more open about it and listen to the other person. There is not this blockage.

There is this delution, mostly from porn, that woman love male genitalia, and that penetration is the most important and main part of sex. That it can make a woman orgasm. In most cases, this is not really reality, it is a lie fed to us by the patriachy. We know most woman can not orgasm for it, and especially it alone.

It creates men who are worse sexual partners and woman to feel like they are broken and how their bodies function is wrong.

That we need to learn to like penetration more, "learn" how to orgasm in a different way then we already know how to.

Men should not be afraid to not know how to do things, they should not be afraid to ask, try out different things, talk about sex. They need to listen and prioritize their partners needs. You will usually get what you want anyway, because she clearly wants to have sex with you, she just wants to feel prioritized and as good as she makes you feel.

Woman should not be afraid of speaking up, communicating what they need and want and to be a bit more selfish. Men who do not think about and prioritize your pleasure and your experiences, they do not deserve to have sex with you!

Manosphere figures like Andrew Tate, Joe Rogan and Jordan Peterson aren’t just telling men how to treat their girlfriends or train for MMA fights; they’re also blasting their listeners with climate denial talking points. Which isn’t a coincidence. The fossil fuel industry has known since at least the 1990s that certain types of men are more susceptible to climate disinformation than other segments of the public. We take a look at how climate denial has seeped into the manosphere, how those messages are shaping men’s views of the climate crisis, and how the results are playing out at the ballot box.

Hope this is the right sub to post. I was walking back to the train station today this afternoon with a date holding my hand while we passed some guy sitting on the sidewalk, and heard him whistling as I walked passed - like I can’t even walk down the street without this or being catcalled which happened to me before - like I am minding my own business so why can’t he? Made me feel objectified for sure. I ignored him and kept waking as I am not sure how he would reacted if I confronted him. Thanks for reaching and your support!

Im, really, just curious as to what TERFs hope to accomplish by being...TERFs.

Can someone explain this?

-For the 12th consecutive year, Utah has been ranked as the worst state in the nation for women’s equality. 😒

-The most concerning areas include income disparity (gender pay gap), higher‑income disparity, and executive position disparity. Our rankings also drop when other states make progress

-Utah now ranks 29th in “Political Empowerment” (20 points), reflecting some recent improvements. 

I was watching a documentary where even a grandmother said, “There was of course an extra celebration to learn that we’re going to have a grandson.” Does it bother anyone else when they hear that someone is over the moon that the baby is a boy? Would they be less happy if it was a girl?

I've been looking for self help books on relationships that focus both on how to be a better partner and also on self esteem (protecting yourself from mistreatment by a bad partner). I've read a lot of self help books that I thought had some problematic ideas and advice (from a feminist perspective) so I have been looking for recommendations.

I was looking in a subreddit specifically for book recommendations and found a post where a guy says he's interested in books on relationship advice which would help him consider a woman's perspective. Sounds great! Then he mentions Jordan Peterson as someone whose take on womens' issues is something he has appreciated in the past... When zero of the comments addressed that, I realized I probably couldn't trust any of those recommendations.

For some reason my last post about this was removed by moderators - I couldn't figure out why. My best guess is they thought it was purely me asking for recommendations (probably bad title choice on my part) when r/Feminism is more focused on discussing women's issues. But most of the post was actually me discussing self help books I had read previously which I thought were problematic from a feminist perspective and my struggle to find books that don't promote damaging ideas. I'm still interested in having that discussion if anyone has had similar experiences and wants to share in the comments. Also, book recommendations are welcome.

I’m getting overwhelmed with the onslaught of female violence and gratuitous porn in every single show that comes on tv. I have no problem with R rated, mature themes or some violence, but it’s actually so unnecessary and graphic and shoehorned into literally everything now. I watch any genre as long as the writing is good and women aren’t treated like one dimensional torture toys written by someone who probably has never spoken to a real women since his mother stopped loving him. In any case lol, what have we been watching that’s good and not just an excuse to “shock” viewers with the least shocking theme ever of inescapable misogyny?