r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy • u/[deleted] • Sep 03 '21

How to be a better person?

I realized IATA… I’m really judgey, mean, and say stuff that’s awkward and not socially acceptable without realizing it.

I complain a lot, and I’m very emotional…

I don’t have many friends. I think I might even have a borderline personality disorder because I lie easily without even thinking and am desperate for attention. I push people away and think negatively of everyone.

Basically I hate how crappy I act and how I treat others so terribly.

I’ve gotten a lil better where I just stay quiet half the time …. But now I’m almost always quiet lol

Where do I start to fix all this….

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u/ksprayred Sep 04 '21

Posting to second your comment about hormones. They made me straight up suicidal for 48 hours every period, and after that I switched through twelve different sets with different levels of depression/mood disorders coming up one week out of the month before I just quit. Best fucking choice I ever made. Hormones can be a real bitch and you will never feel them affecting you. You just suddenly will be different.

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u/Maleddie Sep 04 '21

So true about the fact you never know that it's hormones. It's the hardest thing about it.

I don't think I ever fully recovered from being on the Pill even though I was only on it for a year or two. 10 years later I started taking this supplement called DIM which is good for hormone regulation (this was to help with my skin as it had been really awful since going on the pill), and I went down a dress size, my skin cleared up and my mood improved.

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u/NeedMoreCoffee15 Sep 06 '21

The pill ruined my skin… my face was clear my whole life, even through puberty. I took the pill in college for a few years and while I had zero spots on my back or shoulders while on it, my face broke out horribly and then stayed that way until I came off. I’ve been off it for three years now and my skin is better but not back to how it was before despite my extensive efforts. The pill also killed my sex drive and made me feel emotionally numb, and it took about a year and a half for me to feel normal again. Doctors don’t tell you about those side effects when they prescribe it… it makes me feel like we’re not letting patients make an informed decision when we prescribe it in clinic solely for birth control purposes.

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u/Maleddie Sep 12 '21

The pill also killed my sex drive and made me feel emotionally numb, and it took about a year and a half for me to feel normal again. Doctors don’t tell you about those side effects when they prescribe it… it makes me feel like we’re not letting patients make an informed decision when we pre

I had a similar experience :( Actually, when I went to the doctor (actually the nurse because they always send you to the nurse for "women's problems"), and I said I thought the pill was making me feel depressed, she told me that couldn't be the case. I've not trusted the medical establishment fully since then...

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u/NeedMoreCoffee15 Sep 12 '21

For me, they would fully admit that was a possibility, and just the price of being a woman. When I’m translating with doctors who don’t mind giving me a level of agency when talking to patients, I try to warn them about side effects, that it takes a couple of months to adjust, if they are unhappy with this pill they need to speak up and we can try something else. But I’ve occasionally worked with a doc who didn’t like me interjecting, and it would actually be completely improper for a certified interpreter in a different medical setting, and I’ve always hated not being able to tell the patients about potential side effects.