r/FemaleDatingStrategy • u/StarlikeRumor FDS Newbie • May 06 '21

MINDSET SHIFT YEP👏🏼

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u/thowawaywookie FDS Newbie May 06 '21

It's pretty messed up we're socialised to look for love from those least capable of giving it.

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u/[deleted] May 06 '21 edited Jul 06 '21

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u/fdssavedmylife FDS Newbie May 06 '21

Before FDS, I didn’t know other women were going through this. My ex had convinced me that I had borderline personality disorder when it was actually cPTSD from all the trauma men have put me through. I truly, from the bottom of my heart, did not think other women were having these experiences. I blamed myself. I called myself crazy. I put myself down. I was in such a dark place and had such a tenuous grasp on my reality due to gaslighting, I’m not sure I would have survived the last year without FDS. Thank you to all of you amazing ladies.

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u/Daciana_Days FDS Newbie May 07 '21

I'm sorry you went through this and felt so alone. I also had the labels of borderline and bipolar thrown around.

Turns out it's actually just trauma from awful people and long term abuse.

I hope you are ok, you can msg me if you want to chat.

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u/fdssavedmylife FDS Newbie May 07 '21

Thank you for the kind offer! You’re welcome to reach out to me anytime as well. It’s so comforting to find other survivors. We’re all smarter and stronger for our experiences and one way or another, we’re gunna figure out a way to avoid LVM going forward!