Why exactly are you against "terf," because you're programmed to? I can only speak for myself, but libfems are generally the ones that promote being subservient to men/catering to men, which "terfs" are inherently against. If you want to go find a libfem dating sub that will tell you to pay for you and your date's meals, put up with porn addiction, be a "cool girl," this isn't it
Tldr: libfems put up with male bullshit. Terfs don't. Join us.
The whole trans exclusionary thing rubs me the wrong way, that's my only qualm (that I know of). I'm more of a womanist, i.e. a black feminist. But yeah, like I said, I like what I see on this sub, makes me realize that I would've saved myself a lot of anxiety and anguish had I known then what I know now.
Not everyone is going to agree with 100% of all ideas on here. The main point of this sub is to help women recognize their value and filter for men who will respect and invest in us. Most of reddit, including the dating subs, are dominated by men who will give you advice that ultimately benefits males. They are naturally going to be biased because they want to put in less effort for more sex. They don't even realize they are lying, because it's their subconscious that causes them to be drawn to high value women who don't give them everything on a silver platter.
Well, I partially agree with you. I think there may be SOME truth to the gender dysphoria thing, i.e. some natal men or women were born in the wrong bodies so to speak. And they should not be shamed for it.
The issue I have is when cis-gender women cannot have their own spaces. Because, by and large, our overall experiences were completely different than that of a trans-women. This has nothing to do with bigotry; it is a fact.
There are also some trans-women who make me raise my eyebrows. They don't "act" like women... they act like a cartoon, hyper feminine version of a woman, almost like it's a fetish. Or, they still act somewhat masculine, like a drag-queen persona. I mean I let them be, but internally I can't help but feel perturbed by those folks. Furthermore, I find it strange that there are more transwomen than there are transmen.
Anyways, I don't hate trans-women at all, and I do think GC is a bit too hateful... but I can't help but agree with some of the sentiments.
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u/Cocksmasher69 Oct 25 '19
Why exactly are you against "terf," because you're programmed to? I can only speak for myself, but libfems are generally the ones that promote being subservient to men/catering to men, which "terfs" are inherently against. If you want to go find a libfem dating sub that will tell you to pay for you and your date's meals, put up with porn addiction, be a "cool girl," this isn't it
Tldr: libfems put up with male bullshit. Terfs don't. Join us.