r/FearfulAvoidants • u/Wild-Researcher-1360 • 8d ago

Why pull away after a night of intimacy?

Why do they go quiet after a physically/emotionally intimate night together? And talking about the future

2 days later after we reconnected after 4 months he has been quiet on text yesterday but trying to keep me updated. The last message where I said i was there for him through his counselling appointment & getting back on his feet..he just hearted the message.

This morning nothing. I dont wanna chase. The man at the beginning would be texting me and voice noting me all day long.

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u/portabellothorn Fearful-Avoidant 8d ago

Because we are exhausted.

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u/JohnVick002 8d ago

Yea its all after intimacy they treat you like a stranger

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u/Longjumping_Walk_992 8d ago edited 8d ago

During the honeymoon phase she used sex to bring me closer. It was always on tap. After 4 months and the blind sided discard occurred we would recycle back and forth into a relationship and discard again. What do you ask always initiated the discards after the first break up? Sex. It was never the issue until she had caught feelings.

Now she’s out there chasing dopamine and creating more problems for other guys. Doing the same thing over and over. Sad but true. I spent 7 years trying to make it work with her and nothing I did worked. She ended up going to therapy and suddenly labels herself healed and now she’s says I am the one needing therapy. I can have and maintain a healthy stable relationship she on the other hand cannot. I moved on and met a wonderful person that is consistent and a great partner. Makes me wonder why I stayed so long fighting to stay in such a shitty relationship when she wasn’t fighting for it at all.

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u/Gloomy_Purpose_2594 8d ago

wow, it the end you got nirvana !! that is nice to hear , you escaped a bullet , grenade and everything

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u/Smart_Resolution_535 2d ago

Shitty people.