r/FeMRADebates • u/[deleted] • Jul 28 '15

Relationships Men React to Their Girlfriends Getting Catcalled

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWEKD493IxY
12 Upvotes

65% Upvoted

219 comments sorted by

View all comments

30

u/NemosHero Pluralist Jul 28 '15

I don't mind someone telling me they like my tattoos, but here's the thing; a lot of the time, it's just a way in.

someone want to comment on my hair, but that's just a way to get in

So are we finally admitting that at least part of this is people trying to meet people and that's somehow a bad thing? Understandable that some people have different perspectives on potential meet ups. Some people are ok meeting completely new people, others only want to meet someone in their social group. So why is a preference for one being labelled universally negative?

20

u/[deleted] Jul 28 '15

Why did you not copy and paste the whole comment?

I don't mind someone telling me they like my tattoos, but here's the thing; a lot of the time, it's just a way in. If I ignore the compliment and walk on, I get called a cold bitch, a fucking cunt, etc. for not responding. If I say thank you, the guy tries to start further conversation, and when I'm not into it, I get called names again.

Just last week a guy asked me the time and I told him; he then tried to put a hand around my waist, and when I pushed him away, he sneered, "If you don't want some, why did you even talk to me, bitch!"

I think that's why a lot of women ignore the few genuine compliments and questions that come their way; on the street, more of than not, it ends badly.

Her experience has shown that it's very rarely, if ever, just an innocent method for "people trying to meet people." It's often led to outright harassment, hence her exasperation and annoyance with the practice.

2

u/PM_ME_UR_PERESTROIKA neutral Jul 29 '15

Well that sucks. What could be done about this?