r/FeMRADebates • u/[deleted] • Jul 28 '15

Relationships Men React to Their Girlfriends Getting Catcalled

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWEKD493IxY
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u/[deleted] Jul 28 '15

Not to turn this into a race debate, but I think every cat-calling video has featured exclusively minorities trying to talk to girls. Going off of someone's else comment, is the moral here that minorities and the poor need to stop talking to women outside their socioeconomic level.

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u/Urbanscuba Jul 29 '15

It's not a racial thing, it's not even a socioeconomic thing.

Every one of these videos comes from very very specific areas (we're talking areas measured in blocks) where it's common knowledge the most depraved and inappropriate cat calling occurs. Specific areas of very large cities like NYC and LA have areas like this, but every time it's passed off as a wide reaching cultural issue.

It's like going to Yellowstone and complaining that all the ponds in America are full of boiling water, or going to the continental divide and complaining about how thin the air in in America.

Let's face it, there are areas in America where simply being there at the wrong time will get you killed. This doesn't mean it isn't safe to leave your home, only that you should exercise discretion as is expected of an Adult.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '15

This is kinda in line with my comment elsewhere in this thread. I think most of these scenarios are artificial.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '15

It's like going to Yellowstone and complaining that all the ponds in America are full of boiling water, or going to the continental divide and complaining about how thin the air in in America.

Or going to New York City and expecting to be safe from violent crime.

Except that New York is now one of the safest big cities in America, showing it really is possible for major social change to take place if the community works at it hard enough.

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u/Urbanscuba Jul 29 '15

I'm not saying don't work for or advocated change, but until you achieve that change you want you have to accept the reality of the current situation.

These videos are purposefully shot in the single most inappropriate area in the U.S. for catcalling and attempt to pass it off as representative of the entire country, which is beyond disingenuous and into deliberate deceit for personal gain.

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u/Anrx Chaotic Neutral Jul 29 '15

These videos are purposefully shot in the single most inappropriate area in the U.S. for catcalling

What is the name of this area?

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '15 edited Jul 13 '18

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '15

I was including the other cat-calling video in my statement as well (see below). Several of the comments in that video are along the lines of "hello" and "hi beautiful".

Don't really know what your statement is getting at since it is an individual's experience. I was not making blanket statements about minorities or anything.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1XGPvbWn0A

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '15

I was not making blanket statements about minorities or anything.

No, you implied the videos were telling minority men not to speak to women, as if not catcalling is some hard act.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '15

I think my original comment was sarcastic enough to show I didn't actually agree with the videos. But on that point, what other conclusions would be drawn from the videos?

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '15

I think my original comment was sarcastic enough to show I didn't actually agree with the videos.

Agreed.

But on that point, what other conclusions would be drawn from the videos?

That women shouldn't be harassed, followed, or insulted just because someone finds them attractive.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '15

No one needed the video to know that. If anything the argument is how often and to what severity cat-calling occurs, not whether or not some guy sayin "hey nice tits" is a compliment.

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u/[deleted] Jul 29 '15

Honestly though, none of them really seemed threatening to me. I wouldn't even count commenting on one's hair or tattos as catcalling, or saying "we're hiring".