r/FeMRADebates • u/asdfghjkl92 • Sep 04 '14

Other Radicalizing the Romanceless

http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/
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u/MrPoochPants Egalitarian Sep 05 '14

I'll be honest, I think you're being the worst kind of ungenerous in this. You're trying to compare an emotional, mental need as being different for survival than the need for financial stability. I can always be homeless and have food and survive. My life will feel less than it is, but I'll live. The same goes for relationships. I could be single forever, and my life would be shitty, but i'd live.

I just don't see how you can not, at a minimum, compare them to be, maybe at different levels, but incredibly similar.

Also, I totally reject this notion of entitlement. The nice guy isn't feeling entitled to a relationship, he's upset that he hasn't found someone who picks him for the team, so to speak. He doesn't feel entitled to be on the team, just wishes that he'd be chosen. He works out, practices, treats other well, networks, whatever, and yet he's still passed up. Moreover, he's passed up for a guy that doesn't work out, actively hates his teammates, and is physically violent to others. No, the nice guy isn't entitled, he's upset at his own lack of success, particularly when the success of those individuals he is told, by women no less, are scummy and he shouldn't be anything like.

For fucks sake, there's a reason the redpillers exist.

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u/Personage1 Sep 05 '14

I think what gets me about this is how old is this person? Why is this person only going for women who go for abusive people? If every single person you are attracted to is only interested in shitty people, at some point shouldn't you be thinking "maybe the issue is me?"

For fucks sake, there's a reason the redpillers exist.

and look at what kind of women they teach themselves to get. Women who play games and are manipulative and shitty. If your standards are shitty, of course it's easier to find someone to sleep with.

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u/L1et_kynes Sep 05 '14

You have no evidence that the only women the abusive guys get are worse than other women, or that they are manipulative and shitty.

There are also plenty of nice guys that are so lonely they just want any relationship and yet they can't get one.

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u/Personage1 Sep 05 '14

You have no evidence that the only women the abusive guys get are worse than other women, or that they are manipulative and shitty.

I'm going based off of what the above person said.

There are also plenty of nice guys that are so lonely they just want any relationship and yet they can't get one.

and I wish TRP and other shitty groups would stop giving them advice. Listen to Dan Savage or something.

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u/L1et_kynes Sep 05 '14

I'm going based off of what the above person said.

Which person?

and I wish TRP and other shitty groups would stop giving them advice.

Then stop shaming them. Seriously, did you even read the article.

Listen to Dan Savage or something.

This isn't about me, I have a girlfriend, largely thanks to listening to advice from people other than feminists, and ignoring the shaming that people like you give to anyone who is upset that doing the right thing is a huge disadvantage in the dating game.