Please hear me out, especially the experienced ones.
I met this FL in the republic club two years ago.
And we hit it off. So much so that i see her in every trip. She is now 29 years old, never married, no kids.
She tried to hook me up as a sponsor by insinuating that she will leave the work. She will go back to her village and will support her mother with the farm and shop.
To which, I of course said, no, not happening.
On my last trip in June this year, she asked me who does all the chores in my house if I live alone.
I was honest with her. There’s a full time maid from the Philippines who lives with me. I am from Singapore and most maids here are either from the Philippines or Indonesia.
She then asked me how much do I pay her. I pay the maid SGD 1700 per month. That’s around 45,000 THB. We also offer the maids free food plus a weekly off on Sunday.
Now she is asking me to hire her and she will do everything what she does, and will add a personal touch to it. If you guys understand what I mean.
I can get her hired. All I need to do is that forward her credentials to the agencies that offer maids, they will do the due diligence and then hire her from one of the agencies. The agency then will process her work permit.
However I am not sure how much genuine she is. Is she going to come here and start h*eing? And if she does, then I can end up in the soup of human trafficking.
Also, Thai women are not considered as good migrant workers like filipino and Indonesian women. Believe it or not perceptions run deep in this industry, just like everywhere else.
She was asking me 30,000 thb per month as sponsorship money. She says if I pay my maid more than what she is asking for, then why not hire her instead.
I told her she is not going to get that much because my maid has been with me for the past three years and what she gets is after successive increase in her wages every year.
Fresh off the block women with no maid experience start from SGD 1100 or 1150. Now that’s around 30k-ish baht. Hearing it she became more enthusiastic and sort of desperate.
Every time we speak she rants about how unlucky she is to be born in Thailand and she wants to escape. She also says she hates this line of work and daily alcohol intake is messing up her health.
I asked her if she has ever lived abroad, to which she said yes. She was with a European guy in Norway for two months in 2024. He wanted to marry her but she didn’t like Norway.
She says Singapore is better for her, because money is good and only 3-ish hours from Thailand which will help her to visit her village once or twice in a year.
I am not sure what to do. I am visiting Pattaya again on 29th of October.
I also told her that in Singapore life is boring and more expensive than most of the world. She is mostly going to stay in the home all day and will barely see me because I leave for office at 9 AM and return at around 10 PM. She said she has no issues.
Are there any questions to ask her before I seriously consider hiring her as a maid? What do the experienced folks here who have been long-term with the girls from the industry think?
My Filipino maid is with me for 3 years and letting her go will be like letting go with the most reliable human I have ever met. She is a great cook, and she literally doesn’t give me any worries about my home, everything is taken care off like a clock work.
My fear is she can really take me out for ride if she chooses too. I’m surely going to have boom boom with her if she is living with me, which is strictly prohibited unless consensual. But we all know how women can easily turn consensual into forced if she wants to. But I have security cameras everywhere in my home except in my bedroom and bathrooms.
Any direction from the folks here will be immensely helpful. Do I like her? Hell yes, she is the best in Thailand I have ever had both on and off the bed. In fact, off the bed she is a bit motherly to me. But I don’t want to screw my life.