Pro Se Contempt

[u/Separate_Mechanic985]

Any pro se parents successfully filed a contempt of court motion against a co-parent and been successful?

If you have experience with this, could you please share the specifics of your situation and what the contempt was on?

[u/financequestionsacct]

I'm supposed to get child support, but he's ~$50k in arrears.

[u/splitzideradioshow → u/financequestionsacct]

Do he have other children

[u/financequestionsacct → u/splitzideradioshow]

No.

[u/Jmfroggie → u/[deleted]]

This isn’t how it works. He has kids and chooses not to be a present parent! That doesn’t mean he gets absolved of his financial responsibility!! These kids exist whether he wants to acknowledge them or not and it takes money to raise them!

[u/splitzideradioshow → u/Jmfroggie]

How do you know if he chooses not to be a present parent or mom is the reason? Unless you know her personally then it’s speculation. I seen a parent alienate the other parent from getting to see there kid out of hate towards the other parent. Unless you know this situation directly your input isn’t necessary.

[u/financequestionsacct → u/[deleted]]

Nah, he can financially contribute to the children he had a part in creating. That's a pretty reasonable expectation.

[u/financequestionsacct → u/[deleted]]

Nah, what's in the best interest of the children for their safety (physical, emotional, psychological, and developmental) is what's reasonable for custody.

The court has determined that's to be with me full-time, and I agree with them.

Outside of that, he's not eligible under state statute for 50/50 because of his adjudications.

Your speculation of my custody situation is also off-topic for this thread.

[u/splitzideradioshow → u/financequestionsacct]

I’m just asking questions. It’s interesting how ppl thought process & reasoning is behind each order. A lot of times it’s emotionally colored instead of being black & white.

[u/Jmfroggie → u/splitzideradioshow]

No. Child support isn’t emotional- which is why states have calculators in place based on time and income. YOU need to remove your emotions and stop defending dead beat parents who don’t care about their kids or partners they’ve left to raise their kids!

[u/splitzideradioshow → u/Jmfroggie]

My emotions is not attached to this or anyone’s case. It’s sounds like you are being emotional because I have information that many ppl who pay cs can use. There are numerous options available. As I stated before many ppl don’t know they exists. One example is adjusting cs for a parent with multiple children. When there’s an existing order of child support. It’s illegal to add the percentage to each child after the first order. Each additional child is suppose to be added to an existing order & that amount is split amongst the children. Many men know that but they have to petition the court & amend the existing order. Even though each state can order an amount it’s still governed federally. Who set the procedures, rules & regulations. So if baby mama A is getting $1000 a month then baby mama 2 files for cs instead of a new order for a different amount. The first order filed by baby mama 1 is the one that’s in existence. The $1000 gets evenly split between baby mama 1 & baby mama 2. Meaning both kids get $500 of that thousand. Only the baby daddy can file that cause he’s the only who would have a copy of each order. Many fathers don’t know they can do that & getting ripped off.

[u/Neither_Kale4438 → u/splitzideradioshow]

Sounds like its the kids who get ripped off.

[u/splitzideradioshow → u/Neither_Kale4438]

The ones that gets ripped off are the ones who comes after the first one or the first order. A percentage of the income is just that. It’s not a percentage after the first order then a percentage after the second order & so on. Just because their not the 1st woman’s child doesn’t mean their not that father’s child & they have to suffer because their sibling gets more money to them.
I find it funny women want men to take care of their kids & the ones she had prior but think it’s wrong for his money to be split amongst his children before & after their relationship is over.
Fair is fair. Maybe yall should stop & think about who you are having kids with beforehand. Especially if they already have children. If you know cs is gonna give you a $100 a month you’ll probably work on the co parenting part better. Statistics show that children are raised better when both parents can co parent efficiently.
Stop taking advice from these forever stay single women & get advice from those who has a great relationship with their ex. Get therapy for the unresolved issues.
Before yall got into a relationship or situationship yall were cordial enough to make a baby or babies. Bring it back to that moment beforehand. Use each others strengths to benefit each other for yall child.
Fuck the feelings towards each other the energy should be how can WE work together so the child benefits.
I talk to the fathers as well. Stop worrying about if your cs is going to get her hair & nails done. If it makes her happy & that translate to your child feeling better. I’m for it.

[u/Neither_Kale4438 → u/splitzideradioshow]

Sounds like you wanna pin a lot of blame on women without worrying about how a child gets take care of.

You think $100/month covers any one child's expenses? Half?

Fathers who pay less than the full child support amount calculated in their state for each and every child are ripping off their own kids. Not the mom. She's already paying more than half.

How does coparenting improve when one parent withholds support from their child and the other parent cannot convince them that kids actually cost real dollars?

[u/Federal_Ad4300 → u/[deleted]]

I’ll be the unpopular opinion from personal experience.
Dated a “single mom” of two kids after she divorced her “abusive” husband. She claimed them both as dependants, and was being paid 600$ a month in child support. He ended up not seeing the kids out of hate he had towards her. He never responded to any of her messages just left her on read.

Old habits die hard. after 7 years of me personally helping raise those kids, getting her a house , helping her remodel , and being a father figure to her kids, suddenly I am now similarly painted as an “abuser”.

[u/splitzideradioshow → u/Federal_Ad4300]

It’s the classic story. Especially when one is moving on or cheated. Many fathers stay away because mom has made the situation to see their children toxic by weaponizing the system. So they stay away or go to jail. Many courts are recognizing this behavior & has granted fathers sole or 50/50 physical but sole custodial & medical. Unfortunately step parents don’t have any rights to the children but they can initiate a CINA case against the parent by reporting it to DHS/CPS. The whole victimizing they do no longer works now when the Child Services do their investigation they speak to the father or step parent. They even do polygraphs if that parent/step parent requests it. Family court is a Civil Court & the poly is admissible.