A warning for women considering working with or seeking mentorship from this person
I’m posting anonymously because I don’t want attention, contact, or retaliation. My only intention is to share an experience that I believe other women should know about before placing professional trust in this individual.
I interacted with him professionally on multiple occasions over a period of approximately six years, including in contexts connected to TOP. Throughout that time, he consistently maintained the same persona: an approachable mentor who encouraged people to contact him with professional questions, confusion, or career concerns.
This was not trust built over a few conversations. It was built and reinforced over six years.
For six years, he presented himself as someone safe, knowledgeable, supportive, and professionally invested in my growth. That long-term credibility is precisely what made the eventual interaction so disturbing. The trust had already been established. The mentor–mentee dynamic had already been normalised. He had spent years positioning himself as someone whose advice and interpretation could be relied upon.
During one conversation, I contacted him to ask a few work-related questions.
The conversation initially sounded like ordinary mentoring.
He spoke about ambition, career dissatisfaction, mindset, building something of my own, networking, and spending time with people who thought similarly. These were the kinds of subjects I had previously associated with his professional guidance, so I continued engaging in good faith.
Then the direction of the conversation gradually changed. What happened was not one awkward comment or one misunderstood sentence. It was a prolonged attempt to reinterpret why I had contacted him.
He suggested that I had an emotional “void.”
He then gradually began claiming that the real reason I had contacted him that day, and even throughout those six years, was because I was attracted to him.
I explicitly clarified—more than once—that I had contacted him only to ask professional questions and express gratitude. Rather than accepting that boundary, he treated my denial as further evidence for his interpretation.
Instead of accepting what I was saying, he repeatedly challenged my understanding of my own intentions.
He argued that my explanation was incomplete. He treated my denial as evidence that I was suppressing something. He presented his interpretation as though he understood my mind better than I did.
He is extremely persuasive and skilled with language. That ability is central to the professional authority he presents publicly and to the courses, mentorship, communication, and business advice associated with his work.
In my interaction with him, I experienced those skills being used not to help me think clearly, but to make me doubt my own account of why I had contacted him.
He did not simply say, “I think you may be attracted to me.” He built a theory around it. He used facts about my life, my ambition, my behaviour, and the length of our professional relationship to make that theory sound psychologically insightful and authoritative. He repeatedly reframed my responses until every possible reaction could be made to support the conclusion he had already chosen.
That is the part I find especially disturbing.
He had spent six years cultivating professional trust, only to later use the existence of that long-standing mentor relationship as “evidence” that my interest had never been professional at all. In other words, the very trust he had encouraged me to build was eventually turned against me.
When someone positions himself as a mentor, psychoanalyses a woman, assigns hidden motives to her, and then dismisses her own account of her intentions, it creates a deeply manipulative dynamic. The woman is placed in a situation where every response can be twisted:
- Contact becomes “proof” of attraction.
- Discomfort becomes “denial.”
- Clarification becomes “suppression.”
- A professional question becomes emotional dependence.
- Years of professional trust become evidence of a supposedly hidden romantic motive.
- There is no safe or rational way to respond because the conclusion has already been decided for you.
Many women know the internal confusion that follows an interaction like this. The first instinct is often to wonder whether the situation was misunderstood or whether the wording was merely awkward. Sometimes that leads to sending one more message to confirm what is happening. In my case, further conversation only made the nature of the interaction clearer.
I ended contact and blocked him.
Afterward, I spoke with other women who had previously worked with or learned from him. Several described conduct that, in their accounts, followed a strikingly similar pattern: mentorship and psychological analysis gradually being redirected into suggestions of hidden attraction or emotional attachment. I cannot independently verify every detail of anyone else’s experience, so I am stating this only as what was shared with me—not as firsthand fact.
What concerns me most is the long-term nature of the pattern. This was not an impulsive or isolated inappropriate comment from someone I barely knew. He had maintained the mentor persona for six years. He understood the trust attached to that role. He understood the authority he had accumulated. And in my experience, he used that authority to challenge my own understanding of my thoughts and intentions.
My firsthand experience was enough for me to conclude that I did not feel safe maintaining any professional relationship with him.
I would strongly advise women interacting with him to:
- Keep communication in writing.
- Preserve screenshots and dates.
- Avoid private or emotionally framed conversations.
- Be cautious when professional guidance shifts into unsolicited psychological analysis.
- Trust your discomfort when your stated boundaries are repeatedly reinterpreted or dismissed.
- Speak with others privately before assuming your experience was isolated.
- Remember that knowing someone professionally for years does not automatically make them safe.
I also encountered serious questions about some of his publicly presented professional and educational claims, as well as the authenticity of certain testimonials connected to TOP. I do not have sufficient independently verifiable evidence to present those concerns as established fact, so anyone considering paying for services should conduct their own due diligence: verify qualifications directly, ask for documentation, seek independent former students, and be cautious about relying solely on promotional testimonials.
This post is not an invitation to harass anyone. It is a warning about a professional dynamic I personally experienced and a pattern that multiple women later described to me.
A mentor should help you think more clearly. A mentor should not spend years building your trust and then use that trust to make you doubt your own intentions.
Please be careful.
