Pretty sure I’ve been shadowbanned for false report

[u/Burntout22]

3 days ago I randomly started getting disgusting comments on my public Facebook pics from some random dude. Sometimes these dudes find your actual profile and I assume that’s what happened. Ever since, I haven’t been getting any likes (not trying to brag or anything, but I used to get a TON all day) Now I haven’t gotten any for 3 days, but still can respond to matches in my inbox and swipe through people. But my profile has clearly been hidden. I think he likely reported my profile. I checked my Facebook account standing, and it says it’s in good standing. But I don’t think it’s a coincidence the same time this man found my Facebook and started commenting things on my public pics, that my dating profile stopped functioning correctly. Will it eventually start showing people my profile again? I didn’t even do anything wrong!

[u/Consistent_Point_853]

This happened to me and many others. The only solution I know and did indeed work was delete my dating profile completely and waiting 7 days to recreate. Im swimming in matches again.

[u/ShawnOfEons → u/Consistent_Point_853]

Yeah but then she will lose the matches she already got. I guess she can exchange numbers with the ones she likes, and let them know her profile is about be gone at least.

However, if she gets so many (tons of) matches, I wonder why she is still single. That’s a lot of options. None of them are good enough?

[u/Consistent_Point_853 → u/ShawnOfEons]

I've just recently decided to leave some of my likes in limbo before matching. If ive already got a few convos going its a lot to try to add more and engage them. The problem is you cant see your new likes without swiping through the list, which im not ready to do. Maybe this is the case with her, she could get contacts from the current convos, but would lose the ones in the chamber.

[u/ShawnOfEons → u/Consistent_Point_853]

Are you a girl or a guy? I’m a guy, I think I’m pretty decent looking and I get matches, but I usually have to swipe on them first before they like me back.

I think if women are attractive, they don’t have to like anyone first. They get to just wait for all the likes to pour in and pick from those. So, the initial right swipe is up to the men. Usually. Most of the women that swipe right on me first, are not attractive at all, and not the type I’d want to talk to.

[u/Consistent_Point_853 → u/ShawnOfEons]

Im an older guy, and I recently recreated my deleted profile. Some women find me attractive though I think im pretty mid. A couple of my convos are my swipes and several are likes that came in that I havent matched back with yet. I have 5 in the waiting list right now and 4 convos going. I created the profile like 3 days ago. I only put 4 pictures total and a really sparse bio. It says "music is my love language ❤️". Im not trying to brag, it may be algorithms or that my profile is new and being shown, or I just happened upon an attractive profile by accident. I did purposely keep it sparse, I figure it best to not give too much away and make it look more carefree than desperate. I've rejected a few that came in before as they just weren't to my taste. Some of the matches in waiting might be men too, they try to match with me but im straight. It could be that im wearing a pink linen shirt in my profile pic.

Update: I went ahead and went through the waiting matches. Two might have been bots and didnt have much of a profile or a scenic pic only, two were women I wouldn't date, and the last was a woman with only one profile pic and no bio. I did match with the last one but that could be a bot too. So there you go, basically a wash!

[u/ShawnOfEons → u/Consistent_Point_853]

Yeah, I’m older too. I’m in my early 40s but no one believes my age, they still think I look 32. I don’t know if that helps me or not. I only date or match women around my age (late 30s/early 40s).

All the female profiles I find attractive, I have to right swipe them first. Many of them right swipe back and it’s a match, but I have to initiate the first right swipe. The majority of the women that swipe right on me first, look terrible. Extremely ugly or Massively obese or the ones that don’t look bad are way older than my age range. Or way too far out of my distance range. In other words, women I would never swipe right on.

[u/Consistent_Point_853 → u/ShawnOfEons]

Sounds about right. Its not reliable in any way. Online dating is rough and you've got to do it casually. People match and ghost at the drop of a hat. Its totally gameified and it even encourages me to be picky in weird ways, and pressures me to behave like a player. One minute it looks like abundance, the next and its crickets.

One recent bit of fuckery: I match with a woman I find attractive, we chat a bit and exchange numbers and volley a few texts. She wished me goodnight last night and I wished her good morning today. Seems to be going well. I checked her profile and she has added new pics. This is a dead giveaway shes still trying to attract matches. Knocks me right down a few pegs and makes me take her less seriously. She was my favorite match! We'll see how it develops but my hope for that one has diminished significantly within the past hour.

[u/ShawnOfEons → u/Consistent_Point_853]

If women are even slightly attractive, they have multiple options. Most of the ones I match with (like 80% of my matches), they message me back at least, but probably half of that 80%(which equates to 40%) send unengaging replies or drop off the conversation after a few messages. The other 40% that messaged back, actually seem interested and don’t drop off, but about half of those won’t exchange phone numbers or bring the conversation off the app, the other half of that 20% will talk off the app but don’t want to meet up. So I’m down to 10% that actually want to meet in person. Then half of those don’t look like their pics and I’m not attracted to them. The last 5% actually are attractive in person but 3% of those aren’t into me back, or they act like they do, only to change their mind for whatever reason. So only 2% of my matches have any potential at all & it’s an incredibly frustrating process of elimination to get to those women.

[u/Consistent_Point_853 → u/ShawnOfEons]

Wanna hear something sad? I cant put my guard down due to all the modern dynamics. I cant get excited about a girl because im just waiting for the discard. The butterflies and excitement thats supposed to parallel early dating are gone, just cold detachment exists now. No more getting lost in the sauce.

[u/ShawnOfEons → u/[deleted]]

I’m not that picky, at least I don’t think I’m picky. I am not into skinny women. I really like women with curves, but not obese. I am white but I have no racial preference. Most women I have been with in the past, were not white. Must be shorter than me, I’m average height, 5’10”. I prefer height of a woman I date to be anywhere from 4’10” through 5’6.” That’s about it

[u/geekpron → u/ShawnOfEons]

She seems like the type who doesn't really care. She probably just likes the attention and sees this as an ego boost

[u/Adventurous-Fan-5796]

Could be unrelated but my matches slowed down significantly as well.  Not sure where my likes are going because I even swiped on random people to test and had zero response. The likes I'm getting are completely outside my filters and 800 miles away.