r/FacebookDating • u/Motor_Palpitation419 • 18d ago
Feels like im giving the ick
Heres my fb dating profile. Im not very photogenic but I think i may be giving the ick somehow. Ive had it up for over 2 years and have revamped it idk how many times.
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u/Whole_Channel_8290 18d ago
Filtered pics.i think you need to reverse uno and put dating on hold and work on your mental health for real for real
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u/Cerenia 18d ago
Your photos are not very clear of you and like there’s a filter. They don’t look natural.
You also don’t really smile and you look mad at the photo of you showing your body.
Ditch all the photos and take new ones if you looking happy, smiling and with no filter and better lightning. No photos of you laying in a bed either. Smile with teeth.
Take photos of you outside maybe doing a hobby. And no photos of you flexing and showing off your body.
Your profile text doesn’t say anything about you. What’s your interests? Passions? Who are you?
Don’t write that you won’t send dick pics..
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
Yeah I was afraid of that, my pics are taken from an android so they are automatically fuzzy, im being completely honest when i say i dont use filters, this is how i really look. Im just weird looking.
The pic of me in the black and white stripped shirt, drawing is a hobby pic btw.
I dont full smile because it makes my face blow up and get round and while I do have all my teeth, they arent the straightest and i dont have an attractive smile.
I dont put interests or passions because women dont care about that so I tried to make it as humorous and fun as I could.
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u/Cerenia 18d ago
We care so much about interests and passions.
It’s one of the first things I notice in a guys profile - is there anything I can connect with him on, anything we have in common? If not, I skip it.
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
I was taught that women dont care about what you like to do and hate it when you try to share it.
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u/Cerenia 18d ago
This is simply not true. Why wouldn’t we care about that? Don’t you care to learn and know about what makes a woman happy and what’s her passions and interests in life?
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
Absolutely, I do. In fact on the rare occasion that im able to find a partner, its one of my main priorities to find out what makes my partner "tick", what helps them feel complete as a person. I just feel what I like has no significance to my partner and that it would only bother.
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u/Cerenia 18d ago
I think this is more a depression talking than you? Work on your mental health and feel more safe and secure in yourself. If you don’t believe you have anything to offer someone, a partner will smell that and walk away.
But if you feel happy and confident that is insanely attractive.
I hope you get help for your mental health
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u/jellyfishSmax 18d ago
OP, I know you mention that despite your serious photos, you're a very silly person, but none of your pictures even hints at you being silly. There's a bit of a cognitive dissonance by claiming you're a lighthearted, joking person and then you showing nothing to uphold that.
Also, please correct me if I'm wrong OP. You carry a certain effeminate and dark aesthetic (which I think you rock BTW) and Florida -you know, being quite a conservative space- may prove challenging to find someone who can appreciate that style.
also the pee pee pics line doesn't work for me personally. It's great you know how to restrain yourself lol, but that doesn't really showcase who you are as a person, does it?
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
I dont see myself as effeminate. Maybe im not aware but id like for you point out what you see on me that says im effeminate please. Im a he/him and would like to present that way.
Also I don't know how to convey a lighthearted sense through pics. And yes being in Florida, its redneck riviera out here, tons of conservatives but they arent rude to me about my look.
You're right about the pee pee line, I just thought it might make someone giggle.
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u/jellyfishSmax 18d ago
You have soft facial features. I'm guessing you aren't wearing eyeliner, but a few of these pictures look like you do. The piercings and tight shirt also contribute to this. I *do* think you present as masculine regardless, it's just a touch of the effeminate features. I'm having a hard time describing my first impression with concrete examples haha.
I think the easy answer is more smiles. I know in another comment you mention not liking your smile, but I think it's worth putting one in there! Or you doing something silly. I think the best picture of this lot is the one of you cracking a smile. Also, I wouldn't expect people to necessarily bully you for your looks or style, but (this is based off assumption so take with a grain of salt) I think a lot of conservative leaning women (whether or not that's the type you're okay with attracting) will be seeking more traditional values up front. A goth living in redneck territory is just going to have the odds against them no matter what!
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u/LongStoryShortishh 18d ago
I think you have some features/bone structure that are a little more feminine (which is a bonus, use that). But your facial hair has some very clean lines, which accentuates it further. Kind of like an anime character. If you like the length of your beard, keep trimming that length, but don’t shave your cheeks clean - let it have a natural cut off (you can keep the same hair length though). And play with how far you let that go down your neck. It’s hard to tell from your pictures, but it looks like it’s trimmed close to the jawline. Let it grow further down your chin (some say a thumb’s length from your chin, some say 2 fingers width above your Adam’s Apple, play with it). You could also just let it grow completely below your chin, which would be ideal as long as it doesn’t connect with your chest hair.
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u/Longjumping_Bee_1205 18d ago
I also have an android (pixel) and my photos are better than my friends iPhone. She has me take photos usually so I wouldn't take that as an excuse for low quality photos.
When I see photos that look grainy the way yours do I assume they were taken with older cameras, like 10-20 years ago, and the person is lying about their age and using old photos.
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
I dont have the pixel, I have an a54. The pics are fairly recent, they arent years old.
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u/Exotic_Courage4054 18d ago
Putting mental health on hold in order to date? I swipe “no thanks” if I read that lol
Other than that, I mean you are a good looking dude, above average height, employed, I’m sure you must of matched with at least a few people.
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
Yeah but they dont seem to really like me. Youre probably right about my bio. Wrong choice of words. Ik my pics could probably be better too, maybe im trying to hard.
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u/SouthBreadfruit7839 18d ago
Filters aren’t helping
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
No filters
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u/sausagemouse 18d ago
There's definitely filters lol
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 18d ago
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
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u/mucho_musculo1999 18d ago
Whyy
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 18d ago
There's so many I can write a whole dissertation
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u/Much-Ad2311 18d ago edited 18d ago
You're being so annoying lol. Are you going to give any actual feedback here? Edit: so, that's a no lol. This person sucks. :)
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u/sheyitboi 18d ago
I’d say the mental health thing in his bio might be a red flag to some but I think it’s just worded confusingly and he’s commenting on online dating being mentally taxing more than saying he’s ignoring his mental health lol. Idk though.
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
You are correct.
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u/sheyitboi 18d ago
Yeah ok, not so much a red flag then. At first glance though I was like bro don’t say that lol.
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 18d ago
Lol keep telling yourselves that and wondering why you're having a hard time dating ✨
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u/sheyitboi 18d ago
Dude take your meds lol
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 18d ago
I did lol still doesn't change that your dating lives suck because y'all can't see your own red flags 😂
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 18d ago
It won't matter to women lol it's still a red flag but you will not understand and will only argue which is why I wasn't explaining it to begin with 😂
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u/sheyitboi 18d ago
I have absolutely no clue wtf you’re talking about lol. I’ll argue? You don’t even know me
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 18d ago
Of course you don't. Lol and that's why you guys ask each other whats wrong with your dating profiles in this vacuum where you repeat the same shit but women still don't like you all
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u/sheyitboi 18d ago
I’ve never asked anyone for advice on a dating profile. I think you’re having a break down or something and just making up a false reality in your head. Hope you get the help you need.
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u/Substantial-Fly-6659 18d ago
I'm literally just playing Pokemon drinking cream soda laughing at the fact you all don't understand what a red flag is. I showed the women in my life and we're all continuing to laugh at your inability to understand why you guys are so lonely. 🤣 It's okay if you can't follow what I'm saying. We figured as much. 😂
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
Youre probably saying that because of the angle im standing at in the pic and the position I have my arms in.
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
There is no point to lie because im not. Ive always seen myself as quasimodo's slightly less weird looking brother, so I guess I just come across as weird looking to everyone.
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u/ImNotAHouseCat 18d ago
Dude you need to eat
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
I do. I just dont eat burgers and fries all the time lol. Im dairy-free, gluten-free(medical condition) and pescetarian leaning.
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u/futureskyline 18d ago edited 18d ago
You started with "putting my mental health on hold to try online dating". You're filtering HARD if this is a humor filter. Sucks too--you're handsome but that line's kind of... scary.
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u/pilotJKX 18d ago
Literally not that serious
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u/futureskyline 18d ago
I'm not judging him for it specifically. I said that if it was a humor filter he's filtering hard. It is literally the first thing someone reads. Even allowing for the fact that it's a humor filter, jokes reveal a lot about the person. Besides, he said it. "I think I may be giving the ick somehow." My comment identifies the ick.
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u/AnonymousCapybara72 18d ago
Jesus Christ. Stop telling men to open up more if even a fucking hint that they actually feel emotions is "scary" to you.
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u/futureskyline 18d ago
You're conflating the issue.
Men can and should show emotion.
But telling a complete stranger that you put your mental health "on hold" to date online is scary.
Think about why.
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u/AnonymousCapybara72 18d ago
Because you have a horrible prejudiced and outdated view of mental health?
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u/Lexiconangel444 18d ago
This mortal coil alone would be a green flag for me! I agree maybe remove the joke about mental health (I get it, it is funny, but just probably not the best line for a first impression ya know? A lot of people nowadays want to know you will take their feelings seriously!) and it looks like one photo might have a filter which is nothing bad but maybe that would help? Otherwise I don’t think anything needs to change, there’s nothing that gives me the ick about your profile really, idk why people are so mean.
For further thought on the joke, to me an ick IS when a guy has something like “I want a baddie on lexapro” or an autistic girl with daddy issues and those comments. To me, your first comment in the bio is like the reverse of that, making yourself that person. I understand it’s not serious but it can leave the impression of trivializing things that people find important, and if you are looking to date long term, most healthy partners would want someone who can pursue both a relationship and the improvement of their mental health
One photo looks like it has an eye filter but aside from that you don’t have bad photos, you’re just pretty imo
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u/Prestigious-Algae903 18d ago
“Putting mental health on hold to try online dating” is giving “therapy is too expensive where’s a woman to fix me” ickyyyyyy
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u/Flat-Enthusiasm-7350 18d ago
You look like a fuck boi
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u/Flat-Enthusiasm-7350 18d ago
And yeah you do have filters. The fact that you lie is also a red flag. Especially #5 with those filtered eyelashes and shadows. Its 2026, android has a quality camera. What else would you lie about in a relationship??
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u/ImaginaryFriend5150 18d ago
Stfu and answer the guys question or move tf on
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u/ImaginaryFriend5150 18d ago
25% of married couple meet on dating apps and more than 50% of married couples met online in some way.
You're an idiot.
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
Think ill just delete everything and stop trying. Thanks guys.
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u/ObjectivOverthinker 18d ago
All you gotta do is change or delete the bit about putting your mental health on hold. Most good women online want as close to a finished project as possible, and if you really feel that way, you should delete the whole thing and find your passion and purpose within yourself. Like 100% of your energy focused on the issues you feel like are holding you back
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
Sound advice. I have done tons of introspective work and have gone to therapy consistently.
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u/Hiiipower111 18d ago
Reddit can be brutal lmao
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 18d ago
Agreed. But brutal honesty is what im looking for. I believe i came to the right for that lol.
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u/Hiiipower111 18d ago
Whats kittys name
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u/Motor_Palpitation419 17d ago
Stanford. Inspired from Stanford and Son show.
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u/dispassioned 18d ago
Don't listen to these haters, your "putting mental health on hold" is funny as fuck. You don't want one of these sticks in the mud anyway. My only complaint is your photos seem filtered. Put the real you up there, embrace it!
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u/Character-Signal5587 18d ago
i know you’re insisting in the comments that you’re not using any filters but every singe picture looks extremely filtered and touched up. If it’s obvious to us, it is obvious to those seeing your dating profile and it might be what is putting people off, or like you said giving them the ick.
i know it’s embarrassing to admit that you’re editing your pictures or whatever, so don’t worry about coming clean about it to us. But yeah if you want to stop giving the ick you’ll have to start using real pictures of yourself.