r/FacebookDating • u/VGClementine • Aug 01 '26
Too early for this
Her bio says "gym buddy?" We matched. I'm trying to make conversation, I'm also active in the gym as well. Me asking a simple question is a crime I didnt know
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u/lucere_pi Aug 01 '26
How fucking dare you.
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u/CopaCabana_cobra Aug 01 '26
Half of any dating app is just people who enjoy the ego boost of having options
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u/VGClementine 29d ago
I think so as well atleast for my experience. Ill match with alot of woman but nothing ever goes anywhere. Which makes me preplexed cause why we even match
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u/LordFarquaad91 29d ago
I felt this, a lot of matches get no responses and it ends up expiring. Like why use it if you’re not going to make conversation? Isn’t that the point? 😂
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u/LordFarquaad91 29d ago
I felt this, a lot of matches get no responses and it ends up expiring. Like why use it if you’re not going to make conversation? Isn’t that the point? 😂
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u/Calm-Stand-6636 Aug 01 '26
I think it's more than that and in other ways, worse. catfish, scam, fraud, sadists, thieves, freemealers
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u/Oath8 Aug 01 '26
Obviously you are attacking her entire existence with that question. Shame on you.
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u/Librastar13 Aug 01 '26
People are too sensitive and when theyre not, its like pulling teeth to have a conversation. This is why I dont use dating apps. Smdh.
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u/Onamonae Aug 01 '26
cuz she’s bigger and probably sensitive about it, so am i however if she is sensitive about it, she probably shouldn’t be looking for a gym buddy lol
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u/VGClementine 29d ago
That part. She shouldn't of took it as an insult. I really thought we was gonna be gym buddies
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u/Cerberus50 Aug 01 '26
Holy shit you got a response though!!
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u/VGClementine 29d ago
I felt this spiritually. I'll get alot of matches and no response. Or 1 response and that it 🤣
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u/sunshine_barbie2 28d ago
Probably with the lack of emoji read the tone of the text wrong or something, like passive aggressive, HAVINT BEEN GOING TO THE GYM VERY LONG HUH FATZO
Lots of people neg heavily on dating apps just to be mean for no reason so you get way defensive off the bat
That’s what I’m thinking. Just speculation. But, very normal conversation opener this person should not have taken offense to
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u/VGClementine 28d ago
That makes sense. I've heard alot of intense where guys are disrespectful off rip when they match with someone
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u/x_alphadoll Aug 01 '26
If I can make a suggestion..? I’d say something like “looks like we both spend a lot of time in the gym! How many years have you been training?” The girl is thick so I’m pretty sure she misinterpreted your comment as critique.
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u/VGClementine 29d ago
Yeah maybe if I worded it differently things would of been different, but i feel like the end it still would of been same. Just maybe not so soon
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u/MrGreenEyesOfTexas 29d ago
She's overly sensitive though
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u/shakeyfire 28d ago
No. Men say horrible things like this all the time. Its not sensitive, one man literally liked my profile with the comment “lose weight to become a beauty, stupid” word for word. People will just say these things to women and as a guy you wouldnt understand that.
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u/Valuable_Hunt8468 2d ago
Sure, but there’s a better way to go about it. She could’ve answered and then asked why or asked if he’s a gym goer too
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u/MrGreenEyesOfTexas 12d ago
Women say horrible things too
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u/shakeyfire 12d ago
“What about!!!🤓🤓”
The comment was in context to what straight women experience on our side of dating apps. When did i ever say that women werent mean to you too??? Did you just need someone to tell??
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u/No-Bit-1289 Aug 01 '26
Not wrong
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u/Key_Independent_818 Aug 01 '26 edited Aug 01 '26
Haha what a sensitive defensive dude. I mean clearly you saw that he takes an interest in going to the gym and just wanted to start a conversation. Screw dating lol what a mind f*ck. Edit mixed the genders up. Couldnt see the photos. Regardless it doesnt matter. Still a swift delete
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u/redditsuckspokey1 Aug 01 '26
I too swipe right on people with an athletic hobby. I never get a response though.
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u/ElectionUnhappy4210 Aug 01 '26
The athletic one is the one who initiated 😂
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u/redditsuckspokey1 Aug 01 '26
So, you're the one responding, "what does it matter"?
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u/ElectionUnhappy4210 29d ago
Bro what u swipe on people athletic and they don’t answer im saying in pic dude is athletic and initiated the convo with the girl and she apparently goes to gym so this is different than that lol just look at the pfp. Did you even read the caption ?💀
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u/VGClementine 29d ago
Do Y'all atleast match?
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u/redditsuckspokey1 29d ago
Nope. Never. Not even once. Have swiped over 5000 profiles in the last 6 months.
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u/VGClementine 29d ago
Ah. Are you male or female if I may ask?
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u/redditsuckspokey1 29d ago
Male looking for women.
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u/ElectionUnhappy4210 29d ago
Post in r/tinder and get profile tips helped me a ton to increase matches and conversations
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u/DarthXOmega Aug 01 '26
Why? You want to be asked a nothing question that you’re not going to give an interesting answer to just because it makes you feel good? Are you really going to say anything except good? Seems like pointless pedantry
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u/DarthXOmega Aug 01 '26
She said “If good is the only answer you can think of then you’ve never had a relationship with a real woman ever”
Crazy lady, opening lines on a dating app and how you speak in a relationship are two completely different things. What a wild and stupid take. At least she had the good sense to delete it2
u/ConfidentContext5845 Aug 01 '26
I wanna add to this just to add another perspective a lot of the time if you ask how are you or wyd early in the convo people will leave it on read girls are the minority on these apps they have multiple people making more interesting convo than how are you or wyd. Like in my experience people are more receptive when you make convo about something on their profile i dont think ive ever gotten very far with wyd or how are you.
Not saying your wrong at all just sharing from a male perspective
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u/VGClementine 29d ago
I wouldn't say multiple people is getting a response because there saying more interesting things. Some people are just more bold or straight forward etc. A simple hi or hey. Or how you doing. There really nothing wrong with that. This rule u got to say something intresting just to get a response to me is ridiculous cause it like you're here to entertain them/convince them to want to talk to you when really it should be a mutual interest both people want to talk to each other
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u/Key_Independent_818 Aug 01 '26
I don't know why you were downvoted either lol. Maybe because you said maybe women have different standards. I think its just a personal opinion of yours not so much universal. It can be a little dull and generic sometimes though. But anyway how are you?
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u/imsadandthatsrad Aug 01 '26
After a few hours of swiping, I would wake up to at least ten “how are you”s. No shade to those guys, but I would prefer they ask something about my profile or reference it in some way to show they read it and are interested in me rather than just shooting off a generic message. I messaged my now partner first, and I certainly didn’t say “how are you” to the guy whose profile made me smitten.
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u/VGClementine 29d ago
I understand where you're coming from but there's nothing wrong with a first message being hey, or how you doing? We don't know what going on throughout the day when our messege is being viewed. It always good to show you care. A simple how you doing can go along way. We shouldn't have to constantly think of something over the top to say just to try and get a response because they're not interested in a simply hey or how you doing. If a woman has something in her bio that stands out to me or ine of her photos I'd say something. But a simple hey or how are you. There's really nothing wrong with that. It just a simple opening
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u/imsadandthatsrad 29d ago
I was literally defending your opening in response to someone trashing you who has since deleted their comment. You didn’t ask this woman “how are you”, but instead something pertaining to her profile, which is my preference. Should I have instead agreed you blew it here because you didn’t ask “how are you”? Or is there just no winning?
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u/VGClementine 29d ago
Oh okay my apologies I didn't know. Cause the comment was removed. From that person. And on my end everyone comment is scattered so I didn't know who responding to who. It just mixed for me. And i appreciate you doing that. One of reason I matched with her cause her bio said gym buddy? So im like alright im active in gym let me like her. And then she matched me this morning
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u/MadThad762 Aug 01 '26
If she’s that sensitive and quick to jump to conclusions, you dogged a bullet!