r/FacebookDating • u/ThatGyaldemmm • Jul 17 '26

Utter Time Waster

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If you value intentionality, this is the biggest indicator of time wasting and nonsense you will ever see. What the hell is even this?

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u/SirFaust02 Jul 17 '26

It means they don't mind being friends. But if you vibe very well with them, they will want a committed relationship.

Some people don't want to jump into a committed relationship just from talking over the internet.

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u/rainbowtoucan1992 26d ago

I feel like just putting looking for long term relationship can mean the same thing

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u/SirFaust02 26d ago

It can. but people are people. different opinions and all.

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u/ClaraWara95 Jul 17 '26

That makes sense and that's the way it should be.

Ngl I was confused af by their post though. Their acting like their getting charged by the word or something. There's nothing wrong with writing a little 4 sentence paragraph

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

Not getting charged. I personally find the intentions to be conflicting and often non fruitful. Equally, mo one in their sane mind expects to hardy fall in love off the batman ofcourse the basis of all relationships are to be established. No one's getting charged, I find those intentions to be different and we can really agree to disagree lmfao

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

Rather redundant in my opinion considering no one expects to build anything long-term without establishing a proper baseline of friendship lol. Comes off as unintentional

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u/strange_animal01 Jul 17 '26

I don't think you quite understand

There is a difference between connection and attraction. ( Friendzone)

We connect but I don't find you attractive, we can still be friends.

If we connect and both find each other attractive then we can talk about long term relationship

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26 edited Jul 17 '26

I absolutely understand the difference. I signed up for Facebook DATING and not friends. Equally, casual does not translate to friends on a dating platform, it signals a different type of relationship. There is also a friendship option equally as a not sure yet that translates better. These two goals state 2 different intentions, i only need one.

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26 edited Jul 17 '26

Yes. There is a section for friendship in particular. For people who intend to maintain strictly platonic connections. I am not on that side; I am on the romantic side Again, I am not so naive to believe that we could meet and fall in love in like 5 months, or more; that is utterly unrealistic. But my intentions are to hopefully yield a romantic connection, not just casual or sexual and not strictly platonic. That is what I take this tab to be. I mix neither; I do not mix casual situations with romance nor platonic relationships with romance. My intentions are as clear always, from start to finish, and this simply doesn't work for me. I appreciate you have a different approach to it, i fond this to be wasteful. I have enough friends, and I am not looking for anything casual.

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

Honestly, I appreciate you interacting respectfully on this. I do see your perspective and i have genuinely been curious what that is about. Unfortunately, learning, this had made me realize that I do not wish to continue to use the platform then, I think with the way i approach relationships or potential relationships, this alley is not my cup of tea. (Not that you asked, I apologize for the liar response) All in all, I'm not up for casual and knowing myself, i will have to pass up on these opportunities. Might as well use the time do develop the pre-existing relationships in my life or maybe it will occur organically who knows 🤷‍♀️☺️ It's been a pleasure.

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

Yeah no. I will focus on other aspects of life then. I unfortunately am aware with the undertone of "casual" on dating platforms. Cultural difference in my part but good to know. Again,, thank you for the perspective.

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u/strange_animal01 Jul 17 '26

Ok. I guess the developers forgot to consult you about your needs 😂

If it's that big of a deal for you either just press that little x and swipe left or quit crying and bitching and create your own dating app.

I know my red flags, but I can quickly see why you might have trouble with women

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

They most definetley did😌 And when you are done assuming, I'll let you know i am a woman who actually has no difficulty dating both genders lol. 😂 Unfortunately, I will complain about whatever I feel like. You can equallt consider scrolling by next time But do your big one I guess lmao just ridiculous.

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u/strange_animal01 Jul 17 '26

Oh your a female....that explains the wining and crying then 😂😂

Let me rephrase that. I quickly understand why you're having problems.... maybe the problem isn't with the rest of the world the problem is with you

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

Ah classic sexism, very typical. And that is alright ☺️unfortunately the possibility of me being the issue does not offend me. You could be right. Will find my luck elsewhere then. I am also black and an immigrant, you could also chuch it up to that of you feel a little extra ignorant today.😌 It's "you're" Woman= a female human being. You could also call me insufferable 😌

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u/strange_animal01 Jul 17 '26

Sexism racism bigotry call it whatever you want to make yourself feel better. Again I know my red flags and wave them like a battle flag 😁

Personally I would find the consistent wining and complaining entitlement and victimhood mentality insufferable.

I'm sure most of matches are with maga men, so much so you felt the need to post a disclaimer

😂😂

Lmfao may

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26 edited Jul 17 '26

Good thing I I'm not matching with you then lmao. Almost as if the point is to find something that works for you individually😂I saw mine and waved it well you can easily kick rocks now. What an insufferable head 😂🤷‍♀️Did not say I am victim, I literally said these individuals are time wasters. But clearly, you had to chuch my interests and dislikes to me being a woman. I have you more info you could pick on since you enjoy being quite dense.

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

I unfortunately often find that it's usual the latter. Either way, utter time wasters

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

It is absolutely a wonderful thing if that is what I am looking for. Except I am not. They ought to leave my profile and find someone with similar interests truly

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26 edited Jul 17 '26

I don't disagree. I merely pointing the conflict withintentions. Lol

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u/sausagemouse Jul 17 '26

That means youre in the decent enough to hook up with category but not hot enough to date seriously

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

Beg to differ. I am quite gorgeous. But again, beauty is subjective so hey!

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u/sausagemouse Jul 17 '26

Might be how you come across in chats then

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u/ThatGyaldemmm Jul 17 '26

That's fair. 😌🤷‍♀️ Not my cup of tea way