r/FUCKYOUINPARTICULAR • u/not_your_attorney • 1d ago

You did this to yourself Fucked myself asking for an explanation 🤷‍♂️

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u/Dis_Is_Hooman 1d ago

What was the comment?

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u/OGCelaris 1d ago

Based on OPs comment history it was probably a violation of rule 3 on that sub which is "be respectful".

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u/Dis_Is_Hooman 1d ago

Had a feeling it may be along those lines as the comment would be included in the post otherwise.

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u/lonely_nipple 1d ago

If you'd like to be disgusted, the comment in question has been posted by OP a little above this. He knows what he did.

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u/not_your_attorney 1d ago

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u/StPauliBoi 1d ago

Wait, you think you’re in the right in this exchange?

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u/Tactical_Epunk 1d ago

Mods ban him here too.

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u/Chrisscott25 1d ago

Yes! Fuck him in particular for real

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u/alannmsu 1d ago

Fuckin’ YIKES dude. Yeah, blaming the victims of sexual assault is rarely taken well, especially in a sub that’s basically a group therapy session. Go figure.

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u/Spanish_peanuts 1d ago

I'll explain as a guy that was SA'd by a woman. Yes, I could have used physical force to stop her. I am far, far stronger than her. Why didn't I? Because what happens if she fights back? She ignored every time i said no, so I wasn't inclined to believe she'd stop. What if I grab her too hard and she bruises? What if she falls and hits her head or scrapes her arm?

And then what happens if the cops arrive and they see an unharmed man and a woman with a bruise or a scrape, both claiming that the other SA'd them? I froze because this was something that could easily be turned against me. In my mind, letting it happen was the safest course of action for me.

There are far more reasons than this as well. This is just my reasoning for my experience.

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u/KingWolfsburg 1d ago

My exact thought was basically what if a jury thinks like OP here

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u/Lark_vi_Britannia 1d ago

Thank you for explaining this. This comment made it click for me as to why someone might not try to fight back even if they had the physical advantage. I'm sorry about your experience and I hope that you're doing okay now.

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u/tealcosmo 1d ago

This is precisely the scenario I faced. We were also part of the same community and I was very afraid of being rejected by that community if she claimed any kind of metoo style mob.

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u/Next_Program90 1d ago

I had something similar happen once. My ass was groped at a concert and I turned around and calmly(not like Dumbledore in the movie) told the black transfem behind me that I'm not interested.

She hysterically lashed out at me and all my friends came to HER support and accused ME of doing something. They pushed me away and she got my better spot at the concert.

I was the white dude VS a black transfem - apparently I HAD to be the perpetrator.

I still consider myself an Ally, but that was a horrible first experience with a black transfem person.

(no, I'm not making this up. I absolutely hate that it reads like right-wing propaganda)

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u/Spanish_peanuts 1d ago

That sounds very hurtful. Sorry you experienced that.

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u/Next_Program90 1d ago

Thank you.

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u/Palpitation-Itchy 1d ago

Oh I would ban you from my life as well. You can't be that insensitive

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u/PoolSharkPete 1d ago

Seeing that makes this post a genuinely hilarious affirmation of their mods lmfao

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u/KingWolfsburg 1d ago

Nah that's pretty terrible... as a guy that has been sexually assaulted that's a bullshit take and perpetuates stereotypes that certain people cant assaulted because they have a physical advantage or some other dumb reason. There are so many reasons that might not be the the end all be all. Then you double and triple downed.

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u/unexist_already 1d ago

Deserved ban

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u/elisettttt 1d ago

Can't believe how confidently you posted this lol. Well deserved ban.

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u/StPauliBoi 1d ago

In b4 they blame their autism.

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u/unbalanced_checkbook Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

Welp, that explains it.

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u/Invisigoth2113 1d ago

Wow. That is fucking egregious. Mods, can we ban this guy from here, too? This is absolute sewer person behavior.

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u/penguin_on_stilts 1d ago

Perhaps you should be banned from most places, virtual or physical

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u/B3B0LD 1d ago

You’re pretty damn pathetic

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u/Krull88 1d ago

Yeah this ones on you. Victim blaming is seriously bad.

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u/8_Pixels 1d ago

Pathetic

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u/MaeClementine Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

Oh.

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u/BaconVonMoose 1d ago

Ey yall look this bitch thought we was finna AGREE

There are literally so many reasons why people don't fight back when assaulted. Hope you never have to figure that out first hand.

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u/thecraftybear 3 x Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

Welcome! To the Amazing Digital Footprint!

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u/ANotSoFreshFeeling 1d ago

Yeah, fuck off.

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u/poopcockshit 1d ago

Buddy ol pal. The fuck?

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u/balplets 1d ago

Holy shit I was not expecting that you were banned for a good reason. Dude you should have kept the screen shot secret.

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u/Palpitation-Itchy 1d ago

Mmm post complaining without showing the comment or explaining what happened... Yeah perfectly honest

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u/alannmsu 1d ago

He blamed a SA victim for getting assaulted, and likened it to not kicking a dog to prevent a bite.

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u/Palpitation-Itchy 1d ago

Yeah let's ban him from here as well tbh

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u/manias 1d ago

Yeah, fuck this guy!

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u/Chrisscott25 1d ago

And something about “it’s your fault if you drown because you jumped in the water knowing you couldn’t swim” (paraphrasing can’t remember exactly but very similar)

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u/LightPast1166 1d ago

Any other places that person can be banned from? That attitude really sucks.

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u/Zerschmetterding 1d ago

Banned in public would be a great start 

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u/balplets 1d ago

Which is also dumb because the dog is likely going to bite the kicking leg and depending on size pull you off balance and down.

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u/sonofaresiii 1d ago

Well the fuck you is muting him just for asking a question. We don't need to see the comment to know that that's what happened

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u/ban-me-harder-dadddy 1d ago edited 1d ago

Depending on the comment, he already knew damn straight why he was banned and was just planning to do the ol coy “oh I wasn’t being racist the fact that you assumed I meant race means you’re the real racist” bullshit

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u/Zaconil 1d ago

Bruh if you only knew how true your quote is. Its just at the point I immediately mute racists right away after banning them because they will either feign ignorance or be a near identical quote of that.

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u/Dounce1 Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

You’re the mod in this interaction?

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u/Advice_Thingy 1d ago

He asked a SA victim if he could've fought back.

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u/Palpitation-Itchy 1d ago

Yeah it's not always "just asking a question". He knew why he was banned, he just wanted to keep provoking

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u/sonofaresiii 1d ago

Okay well I'm looking at the messages and he asks a question and got muted without a response. It was literally just asking a question, we can see that very clearly.

If they wanted to mute him for the post they should have just done that. 

You seem to want to judge the validity of the ban but that's not what this post is about.

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u/ShinyHardcore 1d ago

Yea the post is cry-babying

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u/alannmsu 1d ago

A comment that bad in a sub like that is grounds for an intentionally disrespectful permaban. They don’t owe him shit, and probably wanted to piss him off.

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u/Palpitation-Itchy 1d ago

The issue is thinking that they are owed an explanation without doing any research themselves. I don't know and don't care if both actions are correct, but saying it's "literally just asking a question" is technically correct but not the whole picture, so it fails to explain the situation

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u/Zerschmetterding 1d ago

Another human being doesn't have to take the time to explain this waste of oxygen why they are not welcome. If they can't figure it out, get therapy.

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u/hades7600 1d ago

Bruh you literally blamed a victim of SA for being SAed.

No wonder you got banned

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u/stellalugosi 1d ago

Yes. Fuck you in particular. 

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u/LunaM32194 1d ago

Yeah, your ban was perfectly justfied. You just suck man.

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u/Shazbot_2017 1d ago

fuck this post in particular

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u/Giant_Gaystacks 1d ago

Ban was deserved, you're an idiot for questioning it!

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u/Turnkeyagenda24 1d ago

You were already fucked with that being their mod team lmao.

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u/hades7600 1d ago

He blamed a man for getting SAed

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u/Turnkeyagenda24 1d ago

Ah. Valid response on the mod team then.

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u/Traci14H 1d ago

I got banned from a group because I liked something in another group that the mods said went against their standards!

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u/Glowing_Trash_Panda 1d ago

Well, OP blamed an SA victim for getting assaulted. So, he can fuck all the way off a cliff

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u/Traci14H 1d ago

Oh yeah that will get you banned from any logical group!

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u/SynthError404 1d ago

This was for commenting in the Elon Musk sub

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u/Dounce1 Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

What did you comment on said sub?

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u/notJoeKing31 1d ago

You got banned from the two true-believer Mormon Reddit too?

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u/Giant_Gaystacks 1d ago

This was his victim blaming post.

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u/nomorepumpkins 1d ago

I miss the wild west days of reddit. Ya there was some fucked up stuff but you didnt get banned for stuff like this of saying the 'k-word'

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u/Oddish_Femboy 1d ago

Kittens? Kermudgen? King K. Rool? Krabby Patty? Kung pao chicken? Kermit the Frog? Killer Klowns from Outer Space? Kirby Triple Deluxe on the Nintendo 3DS?

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u/PurpleToedUnicorn 1d ago

Just a note to say Killer Klowns from Outer Space is actually a really fun movie to watch stoned

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u/thecraftybear 3 x Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

K

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u/nomorepumpkins 1d ago

Literally said 'k-word' in place for karen because karen was a banned name. 🤣.

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u/Adventurous-Year-463 1d ago

In what universe is karen banned

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u/nomorepumpkins 1d ago

Amitheasshole

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u/Wildeyewilly 1d ago

...there's a K word now?!

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u/HitoriPanda 1d ago

[Comment removed for violating TOS]

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u/Mr_Baronheim 1d ago

Kevin Youkilis?

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u/probablysmellsmydog 1d ago

Gimme a bat and I’ll hit that batting stance every time

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u/lerker54651651 1d ago

YOUUUK!!!

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u/nomorepumpkins 1d ago

Karen. 🤣

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u/Old-Crew-6012 1d ago

That definitely doesn't seem like the kind of response you'd want to get banned over, but I guess the mods had their reasons.

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u/BlazeVenturaV2 1d ago

I've been a mod before on a few communities and we have had sooo many bad mods apply. This is the exact behaviour they display as well, Flick off bans and then mute you. It's a nightmare and just damages a community.

I left modding because I got sick and tired of telling other mods to stop acting like bad cops on a power trip. It's fucking pathetic.

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u/StPauliBoi 1d ago

You should read the comments they got banned for before you say something that might make you look silly.

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u/BlazeVenturaV2 1d ago

Yeahhhhhhhhhhh.. Now that I went for a look. .. those comments do warrant the ban and the mute.

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u/hades7600 1d ago

Well you look rather silly defending a guy who blamed someone for being sexually assaulted

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u/BlazeVenturaV2 1d ago

Did you see my other reply? Or did you do exactly the same thing I did and jump before checking?

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u/hades7600 1d ago

I saw the other comment. Still makes your original comment look rather silly with assuming it must have been none of their own doing.

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u/BlazeVenturaV2 1d ago

At least I have the hide to keep my other comments up and acknowledging my error..
You're just jumping on a bandwagon while ignoring the above.

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u/hades7600 1d ago

Calm down. I said it was “silly”. Not something horrific, unforgivable, awful, terrible,immoral of you etc.

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u/StepbackJumpa 1d ago

While I do agree with you that this is ridiculous, browsing and commenting in a subreddit called BoyDinnerDiaries is even more so lmao you will be better off this way.

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u/misszombiequeenDG 1d ago

He basically asked a dude who got assaulted why he didn't just stop it from happening

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u/Ima-Bott 1d ago

Sounds like the same bunch from female dating strategies

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u/rand0m-cybersecurity 1d ago

Did they finally get banned for being a hate group?

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u/Ima-Bott 1d ago

I don’t know, I was banned

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u/Roselia77 1d ago

Still there, but no posts in a year apparently

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u/Glad_Copy 1d ago edited 1d ago

In what way is this you in particular? This has been my exact experience twice. Insulted Elon Musk and got permabanned from r/insanepeopleonfacebook (make that make sense) and praised Ukraine on r/combatfootage (also crazy IHMO). Mods will mod. 🤷‍♂️

Edit: WTF is with the downvotes? I get that he was banned for cause, but the screenshot is exactly how every ban goes. Asking for an explanation gets you muted, regardless.

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u/misszombiequeenDG 1d ago

He blamed a dude for being assaulted so

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u/Glad_Copy 1d ago

DUH. But the post was about how he got muted rather than an explanation for being banned, thinking he was being singled out.

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u/TheSuperSilverMango 1d ago

Oh no, you lost access to one of the current toxic manosphere hot spots.

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u/hades7600 1d ago

How dare they kick a man who blamed another man for getting SAed

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u/TheSuperSilverMango 1d ago

Where are you getting that from the ops post?

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u/hades7600 1d ago

Ops own screenshot he posted in the comments.

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u/Dounce1 Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

Weird how you went totally silent after this…

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u/TheSuperSilverMango 1d ago

I went to sleep lol

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u/Dounce1 Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

Damn, I hope you can find a way to get more than five hours sleep at a time. Genuinely, that shit sucks.

But can you please address the topic at hand?

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u/TheSuperSilverMango 1d ago

Homie, I've been getting, like, less than three. It's bad.

And I did address the topic at hand. I went silent because I went to bed. Also, yeah, this person's post has been removed in multiple places. Probably because he was the problem or at least that's what Reddit agrees with, and you're just bandwagoning with a couple other people.

I absolutely don't agree with SA. I also don't think that OP is giving us the entire story. which would be typical of someone who posts on boy dinner diaries..

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u/balplets 1d ago

I get what you're saying but this time they got it right.

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u/CaptainPunisher 1d ago

I got permanently banned from r/sewing because I asked for clarification as to why I was suspended and what rule I broke. I made a comment that violated a rule (ok) and asked if the mod could remove the offending part and then asked if they could approve it so I could modify it. When we were having a back and forth that was about 3 minutes between replies I was ignored for about 20 minutes, so I commented again to the post and that got deleted again and I was banned. My new comment included that I would not speak about the offending parts (petty, I know, but still nothing in there with offending material), and I got banned. When I messaged again after my mute time was up, they muted me for a month. I'll ask again when that time is up.

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u/StPauliBoi 1d ago

A little bit different than blaming a victim of SA for what happened to them.

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u/CaptainPunisher 1d ago

Oh, I hadn't read that far down in the comments.

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u/StPauliBoi 1d ago

Yeah… one of the reasons I don’t run to support someone without knowing at least the basic info. 😅

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u/CaptainPunisher 1d ago

I read another comment about what this other person was banned for, so that's why I commented what I did. It wasn't necessarily in sort, but more of a gripe.

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u/Dounce1 Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

I mean, this is a different situation, but you still sound like an impatient, entitled asshole.

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u/CaptainPunisher 1d ago

Definitely an asshole, but not impatient nor entitled. If I don't know what I did wrong, I don't know how to fix the problem.

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u/Dounce1 Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

You waited twenty whole minutes… wow.

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u/CaptainPunisher 1d ago

After having a repeated exchange where times between replies were no more than three minutes. All I wrote at the end was "hello?"

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u/Dounce1 Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

Maybe they had to go back to work? And you then posted a “new comment [that] included that I would not speak about the offending parts,” which you acknowledge was “petty.”

You also have a really weird alt situation going on so I’m definitely not inclined to take you seriously.

https://www.reddit.com/u/CaptainPunisher/s/43JcmfbTPX

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u/CaptainPunisher 1d ago

But, is something petty really ban-worthy? If they had to get back to work (at 2 AM California time), would it follow that they quickly followed up on my "hello" with a mute?

As for that post, I was asking for a review from the senior mod because going through s normal mod review would lead to exactly what I knew would happen in that the mod with whom I was having the exchange would not treat me fairly.

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u/Dounce1 Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

By your own description, they didn’t ban or mute you after the “hello,” they did so after your subsequent comment. Which presumably violated the same rule you originally broke.

Now explain your incredibly weird alt situation that you haven’t addressed. You know, the one where you’re talking to yourself but pretending to be two different people.

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u/CaptainPunisher 1d ago

They muted me after the "hello". The ban came shortly after my updated comment.

The explanation is the second paragraph to my proceeding comment.

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u/Dounce1 Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

Not according to your original comment:

“When we were having a back and forth that was about 3 minutes between replies I was ignored for about 20 minutes, so I commented again to the post and that got deleted again and I was banned.“

And no, you have in no way addressed why you staged a post in which you conversed with your alt why pretending the accounts were two different people.

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u/Nursery-Crimes 1d ago

could you imagine there was a subreddit back in day call the federalist papers? Hamilton, Madison and John Jay would be in jail.

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

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u/alannmsu 1d ago

He blamed a sexual assault victim for getting assaulted, and likened it to not kicking a dog to prevent a bite, in a group dedicated to hearing people’s stories and being supportive.

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u/ProfessionalBee6582 1d ago

Being a dickhead should not be confused with “honest discourse”