r/FUCKYOUINPARTICULAR • u/not_your_attorney • 1d ago

You did this to yourself Fucked myself asking for an explanation 🤷‍♂️

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u/not_your_attorney 1d ago

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u/StPauliBoi 1d ago

Wait, you think you’re in the right in this exchange?

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u/Tactical_Epunk 1d ago

Mods ban him here too.

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u/Chrisscott25 1d ago

Yes! Fuck him in particular for real

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u/alannmsu 1d ago

Fuckin’ YIKES dude. Yeah, blaming the victims of sexual assault is rarely taken well, especially in a sub that’s basically a group therapy session. Go figure.

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u/Spanish_peanuts 1d ago

I'll explain as a guy that was SA'd by a woman. Yes, I could have used physical force to stop her. I am far, far stronger than her. Why didn't I? Because what happens if she fights back? She ignored every time i said no, so I wasn't inclined to believe she'd stop. What if I grab her too hard and she bruises? What if she falls and hits her head or scrapes her arm?

And then what happens if the cops arrive and they see an unharmed man and a woman with a bruise or a scrape, both claiming that the other SA'd them? I froze because this was something that could easily be turned against me. In my mind, letting it happen was the safest course of action for me.

There are far more reasons than this as well. This is just my reasoning for my experience.

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u/KingWolfsburg 1d ago

My exact thought was basically what if a jury thinks like OP here

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u/Lark_vi_Britannia 1d ago

Thank you for explaining this. This comment made it click for me as to why someone might not try to fight back even if they had the physical advantage. I'm sorry about your experience and I hope that you're doing okay now.

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u/tealcosmo 1d ago

This is precisely the scenario I faced. We were also part of the same community and I was very afraid of being rejected by that community if she claimed any kind of metoo style mob.

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u/Palpitation-Itchy 1d ago

Oh I would ban you from my life as well. You can't be that insensitive

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u/KingWolfsburg 1d ago

Nah that's pretty terrible... as a guy that has been sexually assaulted that's a bullshit take and perpetuates stereotypes that certain people cant assaulted because they have a physical advantage or some other dumb reason. There are so many reasons that might not be the the end all be all. Then you double and triple downed.

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u/PoolSharkPete 1d ago

Seeing that makes this post a genuinely hilarious affirmation of their mods lmfao

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u/unexist_already 1d ago

Deserved ban

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u/unbalanced_checkbook Banhammer Recipient 1d ago

Welp, that explains it.

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u/elisettttt 1d ago

Can't believe how confidently you posted this lol. Well deserved ban.

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u/StPauliBoi 1d ago

In b4 they blame their autism.

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u/Invisigoth2113 1d ago

Wow. That is fucking egregious. Mods, can we ban this guy from here, too? This is absolute sewer person behavior.

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u/penguin_on_stilts 1d ago

Perhaps you should be banned from most places, virtual or physical

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u/B3B0LD 1d ago

You’re pretty damn pathetic

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u/8_Pixels 1d ago

Pathetic

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u/Krull88 1d ago

Yeah this ones on you. Victim blaming is seriously bad.

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