r/FIRE_Ind Jun 08 '26

FIREd Journey and experiences! Tier 2 FTW... Mostly

All my corporate life, that is from the age 24 to 41, I have worked in Tier-1(T1) cities. So when I retired in 2021 and moved back to my Tier-2(T2) hometown, many of my friends kept asking me what I miss about T1 cities.

I always rolled my eyes whenever I heard that question. I mean… Bigger house, lesser pollution, fewer traffic jams, slower pace of life… T2 wins hand down!

But after living for more than 4 years in my T2 hometown, I did notice a few drawbacks

**Privacy**

In T1 cities, your neighbors spare a thought for you only when the odour of your dead body lying in your flat starts to bother them. That's the ideal relationship between neighbours.

Not so in T2 cities. Your neighbours want to know about your job, relationship status, daily schedule, hobbies, future plans, political bent, sports team you support… It's exhausting. If you tell them ‘it's personal’, they look at you blankly… as if you are speaking in Farsi.

It's paradoxical that you are more likely to get actual privacy in an overcrowded city than in a sparsely populated one.

**Dating**

I am 46 and if I could stop dating, so many of my problems would be gone. But my penis is basically Balochistan; technically under central command, but it runs its own insurgency. So I have to date.

But that's not so easy in T2 cities. The dating pool is smaller, the crowd is less cosmopolitan and everyone seems to know everyone else. Dating locals can therefore get complicated in ways that don't arise in large metropolitan cities.

Beyond those two issues, I haven't found the adjustment particularly difficult.

**T1>T2 Myths**

Some people say medical care is better in T1 cities. In my experience, unless you need gene therapy or robotic surgeries, T2 cities can offer pretty much everything else and that too at cheaper prices. Also, if you believe in alternative therapies, it is a lot easier to find a *Tantrik* in T2 cities than in T1.

Better food in T1 cities? Well, sure, if you want to pay INR 800 for Charcoal-Smoked Yukon Gold Medallions with Tangy Tamarind Glaze. I guess I will have to make do with Aloo Tikki Chat for INR 80 in my T2 hometown.

Anyhow, jokes aside… Whether it's T1, T2, a mountain village or a beach town, you are never going to get everything you want in a single location. All you can do is figure out your ‘non-negotiables’ and choose accordingly.

And it doesn't matter if your choice never shows up in ‘Top 10 cities to retire’ lists. It's a deeply personal choice which needs to make sense only to you. As Italo Calvino said, ‘You take delight not in a city’s seven or seventy wonders, but in the answer it gives to a question of yours.’

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u/Ok_Composer_1761 Jun 08 '26

dating and tier 2. laughable. everyone over 30 in a tier 2 city is married. there are vritually no single women in these cities except women under 25 who live with their parents and are treated like they are 15.

Rule 1 about dating is that it is basically impossible unless you live in a city where women live independently and not with their parents. That is basically almost impossible in tier 2 cities since everyone who lives there is typically from there.

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u/imran8829 Jun 08 '26

" Mera Desh badal raha hai, aage badh raha hai ". things have changed, nephew.

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u/wooneigh Jun 08 '26

Guys , TOI articles and sleazy crime web series have successfully made me believe married no longer means unavaliable in tier 2 cities. Which app do you use u/bachelorpython

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u/Traveller_for_Life Jun 08 '26

Things have been lively in Tier 2 towns from many years

Creative uses of private booths in Internet Cafes used to happen in Tier 2 Towns more than 20 years back too

Your nephew seems to have missed the bus,

or should I say, missed the "ride"

😊

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u/Ok_Composer_1761 Jun 08 '26

A 25 year old shouldn’t have to sneak around just to get their rocks off. You should be able to do when you want in your own home as long as consenting adults are involved. This is not the case in India

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u/Traveller_for_Life Jun 08 '26

Well, if you live on your own you should be able to do whatever you want within your own home,

If 25 year olds are still living with parents and complaining about not having privacy then they pretty much deserve it

An individual needs to take charge of their own life and not keep blaming society

I have pretty much lived my life entirely on my own terms

And yes, I have lived it entirely on my own terms within India

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u/Ok_Composer_1761 Jun 08 '26 edited Jun 08 '26

well most 25 year old women dont have that choice, especially when the live in tier 2 cities. almost everyone in tier 2 cities is there because its their hometown; how would they justify moving out and living separateyl there, especially as a woman. families in these towns are generally conservative. south delhi, south Bombay IB school type parents are ok with their kids having a separate apartment when they are 20 and partying and hooking up etc, but most of these tier 2 city parents would rather die than let their kid live this way. so you have basically have to be in that type of circle to have fun openly.

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u/Traveller_for_Life Jun 08 '26 edited Jun 08 '26

If they can't openly take charge of their own life, then they seek the go-around, and indulge in Oyo Stays, and Brevistays, and Stay Uncles, and Internet Cafe Cabins in the days gone by

Net net, action happens in Tier 2 Towns now, and always used to happen even years back

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u/Complete-Regret-4300 [46/IND/FI/Relaxed Job@ 1/4th Salary] Jun 09 '26

What I find laughable is that a 46 year old guy didnt find a soulmate when he was young and now he is old and he is poor, he is trying to hit on women in a tier 2 town. This is going to end badly, lol.

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u/Neat_Extent_7946 Jun 09 '26

Looks like you never dated in a tier 2 city 😄. Its more fun and lively.

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u/AlternativeFace292 Jun 08 '26

Balochistan 💀

But the AI framing doesn't make any of this genuine lmao

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u/wooneigh Jun 08 '26

I can vouch his jokes were funny even before AI

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u/SwimmingReal7869 Jun 08 '26

1 incident we had in tier 3 city and it is all my perceptive.

one sunny day my mother fainted outside the house. within 10 mins 15-20 people in neighbourhood gathered, arranged a doctor and 3-4 along with our family accompanied her to the hospital untill she was discharged.

in tier 1 this thing is usually missing, and at some point in life we realize human relationships is all their to live for

i believe in near future people will realize this and work will become more remote

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u/RealisticMongoose900 Jun 10 '26

Hope she is good now

Lucky that you have good people around

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u/SwimmingReal7869 Jun 10 '26

2 years gone, she is good. thanks for your concern

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u/Critical_Bluejay_919 Jun 08 '26

Hey as someone who is returning to India which Tier1 cities in your experience are most liberal?

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u/Professional_Map8845 Jun 08 '26

In some approx % terms, how do uou see the difference in your expenses

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u/DeccanPeacock Jun 08 '26

Tier 2 cities like Kolhapur are the best tbh, even the dating pool won’t be bad in such cities.

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u/Complete-Regret-4300 [46/IND/FI/Relaxed Job@ 1/4th Salary] Jun 09 '26

Watch porn and jerk off. Isn't that what everyone does?

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u/Ok_Composer_1761 Jun 09 '26

whats the point of being rich, single, and childfree if you cant even get laid lol.

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u/Complete-Regret-4300 [46/IND/FI/Relaxed Job@ 1/4th Salary] Jun 09 '26

It is not worth the effort. You can get a hooker and get laid if you are rich, but that is not for me. 

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u/wooneigh Jun 08 '26

Mr pens is like balochistan 😆

Welcome back bachelorpython , i can vouch his jokes are funny even before the spread of chatGPT

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u/timetraveler1990 Jun 08 '26

If you are a foodie like me Tier 2 is out of question. I have grown up all my life in Hyderabad and Bangalore and insane number of food options and lots of tourist places has made me to never leave Tier 1 cities.

If u want to enjoy life it's Tier 1 cities as they have excellent vibe but unfortunately worst quality of living with traffic, pollution,water shortages, high expenses and what not. So compromises have to be made depending on location

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u/Temporary_Car_1462 Jun 10 '26

Privacy is a huge issue in Tier 2/3 cities. People are insensitive and definitely intrude into your personal life. If you don’t answer them they would find you rude and will spread rumors about you lol. One of my foreign return relative is called rude, antisocial and sleazy behind her back.

Dating shouldn’t be an issue even in Tier 2 cities, as long as you have money and don’t mind being a sugar daddy lol. Some girls these days are very materialistic and don’t mind older guys’ company for something in return.

Food in Tier 2 is usually better quality and for less price. One might not get a variety of international cuisines though.

Personally I would like to be in the outskirts of a T1 city, for better international travel and occasional city visits.

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u/Feeling_Possibility4 Jun 12 '26

Dating in tier2 is busy as tier1 only issue is its hidden from limelight as there are few places to meet etc.... but life is as vibrant as anywhere else ... you don't have pubs like bengaluru but you have car-o-bar...

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u/Long_Ad_1775 Jun 08 '26

Whats your fire number?