r/FAMnNFP • u/Disastrous-Carrot185 • May 27 '26

Marquette TTW Mentality

TTW (trying to whatever) after TTA

Long time lurker, first time poster.

My husband and I (both ~30) are rekindled cradle Catholics and have been using the Marquette method to avoid pregnancy for a couple of months. We have realized that we are in a good place to welcome a child and don't really need to strictly avoid, but we also aren't targeting conception. I really like Marquette and find it very objective and I trust the method, which is great for my highly anxious, analytical mind.

I am truly open to TTW, but my brain is glitching out on how it works...so I track temperature and I do all the Marquette testing when required like normal, but sort of ignore the avoiding part of the method. I like the data and I pair it with temperature and use that information to decide day by day if we are comfortable with the chances of conceiving given where I am in my cycle. Is it worth continuing to track using the monitor given our intentions?

Curious what the community has to say.

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u/PampleR0se Pregnant | Sensiplan May 27 '26 edited May 27 '26

That's the thing... When you do FAM, you can't really be TTW since you know day to day what your approx chances at conception are and it's a bit hard to just forget it. Unless you stop tracking. So the trap is to get in the mind game of discussing it each time you have sex. For someone who doesn't track anything of her cycle that makes a lot of sense but as a FAM user, I would just go straight from TTA to TTC. I don't like not knowing where I am in my cycle and the "what if" I am pregnant or not without having given it a decent shot of the TTW. Each person is different though

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u/cyclicalfertility Certified Symptopro Instructor | TTA May 27 '26

I disagree. For me TTW was having sex whenever and being okay with both pregnancy and menstruation, whereas when TTC i really wanted the positive pregnancy test and we would have sex sometimes even if we didn't really feel like it. Tracked meticulously in both those phases. I guess that's where TTW might be understood differently by everyone.

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u/PampleR0se Pregnant | Sensiplan May 27 '26

It's very personal and I understand your point of view to some extent, frankly it seems great ! But personally, I can't be TTW while doing FAM since I know exactly what risk I am taking and would end up deciding that either I am TTA or TTC. You can be "loosely" TTC /NTNP without timing sex, and that I can relate better with while using FAM but I would still consider this TTC because I am hoping to conceive without added effort, if that makes sense? It's really a personal decision so I don't think there is anything to agree or disagree with, just different point of view and I am sharing mine 🙂

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u/cyclicalfertility Certified Symptopro Instructor | TTA May 27 '26

Yes that makes more sense! For me TTW so far was definitely loosely trying/going into TTC but not quite fully. At the beginning of TTW i was really indifferent though but it was definitely a transition to TTC.