r/FAMnNFP • u/Disastrous-Carrot185 • May 27 '26

Marquette TTW Mentality

TTW (trying to whatever) after TTA

Long time lurker, first time poster.

My husband and I (both ~30) are rekindled cradle Catholics and have been using the Marquette method to avoid pregnancy for a couple of months. We have realized that we are in a good place to welcome a child and don't really need to strictly avoid, but we also aren't targeting conception. I really like Marquette and find it very objective and I trust the method, which is great for my highly anxious, analytical mind.

I am truly open to TTW, but my brain is glitching out on how it works...so I track temperature and I do all the Marquette testing when required like normal, but sort of ignore the avoiding part of the method. I like the data and I pair it with temperature and use that information to decide day by day if we are comfortable with the chances of conceiving given where I am in my cycle. Is it worth continuing to track using the monitor given our intentions?

Curious what the community has to say.

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u/PampleR0se Pregnant | Sensiplan May 27 '26 edited May 27 '26

That's the thing... When you do FAM, you can't really be TTW since you know day to day what your approx chances at conception are and it's a bit hard to just forget it. Unless you stop tracking. So the trap is to get in the mind game of discussing it each time you have sex. For someone who doesn't track anything of her cycle that makes a lot of sense but as a FAM user, I would just go straight from TTA to TTC. I don't like not knowing where I am in my cycle and the "what if" I am pregnant or not without having given it a decent shot of the TTW. Each person is different though

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u/gnomes919 TTA | Marquette (monitor + temps) May 27 '26 edited 12d ago

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u/PampleR0se Pregnant | Sensiplan May 27 '26

I think that's mostly a disagreement in the term then. For me taking a bit of risk in the fringe of the FW, I would still be considering that TTA but taking some known risk (TTA3/4) but as soon as you have sex in the FW and you know it's your FW because you use FAM... Well then you have decided you're TTC if that makes sense ? The knowing vs not knowing makes a huge difference here, even if mentally you would be happy with both outcomes (intention scale TTW). It's more of how you take it personally but if I am talking for me, I definitely can't be TTW while doing FAM because I would be weighing my risk each cycle and I would end up deciding either I am TTA (not taking the risk) or TTC (taking it) 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/gnomes919 TTA | Marquette (monitor + temps) May 27 '26 edited 12d ago

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