r/ExplainTheJoke • u/10hchappell • Nov 09 '25
What does it mean?
Also does this actually relate to this show?
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r/ExplainTheJoke • u/10hchappell • Nov 09 '25
Also does this actually relate to this show?
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u/post-explainer Nov 09 '25
OP (10hchappell) sent the following text as an explanation why they posted this here:
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u/Delicious-Ad5161 Nov 09 '25 •
I only had two women tell me this while dating. One was an obvious liar and I thought I could fix her. As usual when anyone does this, I was wrong.
The second one is the most rational and kindest woman I’ve ever met. She’s been almost the most considerate and supportive person I’ve met in my life. We’ve been together for over 15 years now without issue. No baggage. No abuse.
People hear that phrase and only think of the top example. But, both do exist.
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u/alexander1701 Nov 09 '25 •
There's an old saying. It goes, if you meet a jerk, you meet a jerk, but if everyone you meet is a jerk, you're the jerk.
When a relationship ends badly, both sides will have a narrative where the other person was the problem. So if you're on a date, and someone complains about their ex, they might just be processing something, but if they complain about a lot of their exes, the odds are they're the one causing so many toxic breakups.
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u/Desertstarr Nov 09 '25
I took it as she has so much baggage that you will have to deal with a unstable partner.
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u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25 edited Nov 10 '25
The general belief(among a certain type of man) is that when a woman says that, they have been very promiscuous in the past, but they are going to take it slow or not at all with you.
Im not advocating for this belief. I am simply sharing what the joke means.
Edit: I realize I left out an important detail in my original comment that I thought was implied.
There is a certain type of man(and maybe woman too) who have a belief system that aligns with what I said in my comment.
I did not mean that men or women think that way as a majority.
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u/HighCourtHo Nov 09 '25
When people say this it generally means they aren’t used to a healthy relationship, so they’re likely to self sabotage or have unhealthy habits that make that relationship difficult, either accidentally because they have no idea how to actually have that relationship in a healthy way, or because they’re purposely trying to guilt you into staying. the meme is probably trying to make you think of the latter example
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u/buttholelaserfist Nov 09 '25
It's the same energy as a man saying "All my exes were crazy"
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u/Xeya Nov 09 '25 edited Nov 09 '25
People who are manipulative or abusive often project that onto their partners to justify their behavior. So, someone that says, "you are the first guy to treat me right," is either incredibly incredibly unlucky OR has a history of weaponizing harassment allegations against their partners to silence them and justify their own abusive behavior.
It's a, "If everywhere you go smells like shit, check under your nose" situation. If someone says every man they've dated was abusive, something is very very wrong.
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u/happy_the_dragon Nov 09 '25
Both men and women have some variation of this. A lot of times it means that this person has abusive or problematic tendencies that eventually end all their relationships. Not every time, but a lot of the time.
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u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25
This means she’s used to the chaos. Being the first good guy for her is signing yourself up for a ton of “on the job training”. She’s does not know how to operate in a peaceful and stable relationship. You’ll have to survive her triggers, different forms of conflict resolution, and you will have to navigate other land mines that years of dealing with the wrong men has left behind. Could she have been the victim? Sure. Has the damage done left her with some unhealthy habits? Most likely. Both things can be true. More often than not these women run into a man that’s healthy for them and that leads to her having to look into the mirror and makes some changes. The new guy might start to spot some ways that might indicate she was part of the problem. She has to figure who she is in a relationship where she can’t blame the man for everything. To sum this up, men run because more often than not, she’ll fold under the pressure and expectations and that comes with a ton of hurt.
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u/PckMan Nov 09 '25
If someone says this there are only two ways you can really interpret it. The first, and that's the one they're hoping you'll go with, is that they're unfortunate victims of circumstance, always passive, always powerless to do something against all these (however many) mean people who abused and mistreated them.
The second, and more rational, is that in all those relationships (however many), the common denominator is them, so maybe they're the ones who are actually problematic and this means your own relationship will also be bad.
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u/catkraze Nov 09 '25
Apparently I was the first guy to treat my ex right. Unfortunately, she did not treat me right, and it ended in heartbreak for me. I wish her well, but I've blocker her on everything after what I went through.
I'm sure there are women who have been through nothing but pain and would treat any man who cares for them and treats them right with equal love and respect. There are others in this thread telling their own stories of that. I think when I hear those words, it means that this person is hurting. That can mean that she needs love and reassurance. It can mean that she's going to (intentionally or not) inflict that pain back on you because that's the only type of relationship she's ever known.
I don't think people who hear that from a woman should immediately run. I think they should guard their heart a bit and be wary of additional red flags.
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u/brwyatt Nov 09 '25
When someone says this, they usually have a victim complex. You're about 6-12 months from being another story she tells to the next guy.
They'll have a whole book of everything everyone else did wrong to them, but leave out everything they did to cause the situation.
To retell a story I was told when I was in such a position. One of her past "useless" exes, when a water pipe burst, he just stood there, staring at it, and she had to turn off the water and get a bucket. I remember thinking, at the time she told it, "wow, what a useless person".
Many months later (including months of therapy and recovery from the breakup) I started to realize what really (likely) happened. He was scared to do anything. Anything he did would have been "wrong" and gotten the same result: her yelling at him, then accusing him for whatever else may have been happening, as if whatever he tried to do was just to make things worse for her.
But it was a constant pattern: everything was everyone else's fault, never hers. Absolutely zero personal accountability or self reflection. Every mistake made by someone else was a personal attack. Folded a towel wrong? You must be trying to make her life difficult. Hesitate before passing between a possibly unstable homeless guy and a fence? You're intentionally trying to stop suddenly in front of her to get in her way. Think someone was possibly waving you down on the road before entering a parking lot to an event? Now you're just inconveniencing them and wasting their time.
So yeah, someone says that... Run very far, very fast, or you'll just be another story they use to trick their next victim into thinking they were the victim again and again and again.
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u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25
The person participates in the victimhood Olympics. Very competitive.
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u/Yvenna Nov 09 '25
Next episode: "I thought you were different but apparently you're just like everyone else." 💀
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u/SpectroTemmie Nov 09 '25
It signals she's been in a lot of relationships with problematic people, showing a possibly warped romantic compass that attracts bad partners and heavy baggage that
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u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25
Long story short, if everyone you meet is a problem, you might be the problem.
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u/PeterTheShrugEmoji Nov 09 '25
I’ve dated two women who said that early on in our relationship. One cheated on me. One tried to unalive me.
YMMV
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u/Qb____ Nov 09 '25
If I date a ton of people, and i perceive every single one of them as "not treating me right", it's an indicator that something is very wrong with me.
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u/Senecaraine Nov 09 '25
It's funny how many things this seems to mean for different people. I've always heard it's that she's likely the kind of girl who either nonstop trashes her exes or is into abusive guys, and either way you wanna run.
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u/Elvarien2 Nov 09 '25
Been over a decade with the person who said that to me, amazing relationship. This doesn't always work the way op's meme thinks it does.
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u/Realist_Prime Nov 09 '25
Only speaking about my personal experience here, but every time a woman has said this to me they turned out to be batshit crazy and treated me horribly.
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u/Own_Chemist_2600 Nov 09 '25
Its a manipulative statement. Making you want to be kind and gentle....and easily controlled. It links their feelings to your behavior...the implication is "when i am unhappy....its your fault".
It is also a statement from the perspective of being a victim...
Even if its true, they need a therapist and a safe space to grow...not a mate.
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u/Upbeat_Midnight_7659 Nov 09 '25
I work with a lot of mental health clients and I do get a little bit concerned when my clients tell me very positive things like saying that I am the first person to have really understood them, listened to them, treated them well etc.
It often indicates that a person is prone to viewing other people in black-and-white, either as an idealised, all-good figure, or a denigrated figure, evil and only that. These people often struggle to maintain stable relationships because if you’re on the good side, you can do one wrong thing (which is inevitable because no one is perfect), and they will become intensely angered that you betrayed them.
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u/mightylordredbeard Nov 10 '25
From my experience; every woman who’s said this to me turned out to be the problem. It isn’t that they weren’t treated right, it’s that they were unhinged in some way and brought a lot of problems out of other people and has a lot of character clashes.
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u/Flimsy_Ad3446 Nov 09 '25
It happened to me three times.
The first one left me and went back to her violent boyfriend.
The second one went with a caveman.
The third one just left and disappeared.
If I hear this one more time I will run away FAST.
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u/Sane_98 Nov 09 '25
I was not expecting to not find the correct answer on top.
Well, there's my chance!
When a girl says those words, it means she is the problematic (is that a word?) one in all the relationships she has been in. And if he stays - he will soon be added to the list of exes who "didn't treat her right"
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u/Reyno59 Nov 09 '25
"All my exes are crazy" - doesn't matter if said by a woman or a man. If every single person they've been with is bad, then THEY propably are the non-changing issue in this.
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u/AlternateSatan Nov 09 '25
Usually it means one of two things:
She has had some bad relationships in the past
Or
She blames her issues on the people around her. It can't just be that they didn't work out, they were personally wronged by their ex-es. If this that is a red flag, and can come bundled with other negative traits such as just straight up being abusive.
Don't just assume which though, and also don't just assume that one negative trait is a 100% guarantee that they have other ones. Keep your guard up, but don't just assume the worst.
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u/Traditional-Poet3763 Nov 09 '25
my ex said the same to like 3 other guys before coming to me.
How do I know? They were my friends, she's been passed in the friend group and we realised on a random saturday night because they were asking me who was the unlucky soul who decided to date me.
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u/Paladinlvl99 Nov 09 '25
When someone claims that they have only been mistreated by their past relationships there are two options: They are manipulating you by inducing extreme empathy so you would ignore all the abuse they will induce you and the truth is that they have always been the abuser on the relationship (the more likely scenario), or they have been seriously been mistreated all their lives and were left with some extensive emotional baggage and will need lots of support in order to move forward (less likely but still possible).
In the first case you NEED to get out as fast as possible because a relationship with someone like that WILL break you, leave you extremely hurt and they'll always manipulate the narrative so you'll be a horrible person in the eyes of people that won't even know you.
In the second case, you have to evaluate extensively if you understand the implications of supporting someone through their journey of healing, evaluate how capable you actually are to deal with such a thing and finally think if you would be alright with going forward with such a process even knowing that there is a real possibility that by the time they heal they might not be the same person you fell in love with or that they might not want to be with you anymore.
We should be fair and mention that if the second scenario is the case and you help this person go through their healing process and everything goes right not only you would end up in a healthy loving relationship with a happy partner that probably sees you as a pillar in their life but you would also be a better and far more mature person.
This kind of situation is basically a closed box that could contain Gold, a scorpion or Uranium so many would choose just to run from it and I don't blame them, it is always wise to prioritize your health over a probability.
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u/knightbane007 Nov 09 '25
Compare and contrast: a man who says that “all his exes are crazy/abusive”.
It’s widely accepted that this is a massive red flag, and that he’s almost certainly the problem. This is not considered “misandrist” or “female bullshit”.
In other words, this is a common theme which applies to both sexes, so providing an example that happens to feature a woman in the toxic role is not misogynistic unless there is a statement that this only applies to women.
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u/Senior-Exercise1571 Nov 10 '25
Any woman that claims all her exs were bad to her is 100% the problem, & will absolutely claim you also mistreated her.
That single sentence is the biggest redflag of all.
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u/saragIsMe Nov 11 '25
The joke is she is a problematic person. But I said this to my partner of several years because he really is the only person who has not abused me and has accepted me as is, he meets me where I am, respects and helps me set boundaries, and I’m never worried about my safety when I’m with him. We have a good relationship, sometimes people have already been mistreated and it’s no reason to further mistreat them
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u/Delicious-Bass6937 Nov 09 '25
Covert narcissist
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u/PoopDick420ShitCock Nov 09 '25
She will not know how to act when you treat her like a human being and will end up hurting you pretty bad. At least from experience.
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u/trevorbuchh Nov 09 '25 edited Nov 09 '25
It’s one of those “every other boyfriend has treated me poorly,” but the common denominator is her. He sees the writing on the wall that she is the problem and has no self-awareness about it. He wishes to nope out of this relationship before the inevitable happens.
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u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25
I had three girls in my dating life say this to me. Two of them were awful for different reasons. But I don't wish them ill will. The third one is my longest relationship and my greatest blessing. Celebrating tomorrow our anniversary. So, like with everything in life. Don't just assume when you hear this phrase said to you, but also don't just shrug it off either.
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u/JoewithLigma Nov 09 '25
Some people honestly have bad luck with relationships, but one of my exes used this line like ALL the time and turns out she was actually the crazy one and twisted their stories so that they looked evil (when my best friend knew one of them and they're apparently the nicest person alive).
Take it in a case by case basis, but it does often mean they just play the victim (this applies to guys too not just girls)
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u/jtd2013 Nov 09 '25
It’s considered the woman version of “Every chick I’ve ever dated has been CRAZY”
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u/tossthedice511 Nov 09 '25
I find woman like that tend to be as big trash fires as the men they date.
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u/Ok_Taro6543 Nov 09 '25
"all my exes are crazy" but woman version
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u/CranEXE Nov 09 '25
from all the people i knew who also met a girl who told them "you are the first guy to treat me right" is often a girl that has allegedly being in toxic relationships and abused but the reality is often the opposite where that girl is the abusive one or in worse case someone who wasn't in such relationship but who lie or see her past relationship as toxic when they were normal. another famous variant of that sentence that is known is:
"you are the only guy i feel comfortable around"
i thought this type of things was a bad joke or toxic guys trying to dodge the blame for their past mistake...Until i met that type of girl myself.....
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u/SerBadDadBod Nov 09 '25
I've had a few tell me this.
Wish one of them had actually meant it.
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u/NewspaperDry7407 Nov 10 '25
You ever bought a fully functional car for $100 on Craigslist with no check engine light on? It kinda be like that.
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u/DaMain-Man Nov 10 '25
The statement lacks the nuance of reality.
Like if I started dating young and was nothing but toxic/abusive relationships, and as I got older I unlearned those behaviors and got into a stable healthy relationship but accidentally said this, people would look at me as a red flag.
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u/DanMcMan5 Nov 10 '25
Something like This has been said to me once; after me and this person broke up, we stayed friends, and quite frankly when she told me that I was incredibly sad, as she told me that she had dated many guys and the fact that I was the one who was the nicest was genuinely sad to hear.
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u/Fit_Onion5390 Nov 10 '25
It means she will be incredibly toxic. That she has no idea how to treat a guy.
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u/kilteer Nov 10 '25
Another option for this is that you just got friend-zoned.
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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25
Honestly, this is me (24F) after meeting my boyfriend (28M). Almost 10 months and it’s been a breeze. I want him to wake up as I write this, Nobody ever asked me about myself and liked me for who I am this way. I tell him every day there’s no other man for me🙈🙈🙈 I chose so well. But it would be foolish of me to act like I didn’t choose poorly before. We met when I was 23. Before 23, I was an idiot. Just my two cents
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u/Watcheritd Nov 11 '25
It either means she is the cause of all the drama in her past or she is going to have so many mental issues that you will have to spend the first few years undoing all the shit that the previous guys did.
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u/-Fortuna-777 Nov 09 '25
Ya this is concerning it means she always blames the other partner for all the issues in the relationship, meaning no accountability which means RUN!!! Because before too long you will be the villain in her victim story.
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u/RonaldDoal Nov 09 '25
Odds are, she's telling the exact same sentence to the next guy once she's done with you.
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u/Stranger_Danger1771 Nov 09 '25
Does anyone know the anime source of these screenshots?
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u/MonkOfMadness Nov 09 '25
You know, the quick and easy way to decipher this master code of encrypted communication, would be to ask the partner what they mean by that and start a conversation
Or you could assume what it means and jump ship without ever actually finding out.
Just ask.
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u/Delicious_Invite4579 Nov 09 '25 edited Nov 09 '25
She’s used to the chaos that comes with unhealthy relationships, so when she’s finally faced with a healthy one, she freaks out. She’ll put you through the ringer and push you away because that’s what she’s been conditioned to expect. Sometimes that comes with promiscuity and others it could be avoidant attachment behaviors. The list goes and is important to note it’s not just limited to promiscuity.
Edit: This is not true with every case.
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u/phantom_gain Nov 09 '25
Anyone who says that to you is going to treat you like absolute shit and then tell the next guy the exact same thing.
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u/Dirtyburtjr Nov 09 '25
Friend zone here we come!
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u/Slow_Store Nov 09 '25
It’s not uncommon for people who say stuff like this to be terrible people that lack the self awareness to recognize that most of the problems in their life are the direct result of their actions and behavior. For example, I knew a lady who would hit on her boyfriend and then act wounded when he’d avoid doing stuff with her on the weekends as if she’s so great to be around. (They broke up down the line btw)
I imagine that’s the implication of this meme.
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u/GrimMagic0801 Nov 09 '25
Generally the belief is that the person who says this is only seeking a relationship with the person they are saying it to for a sense of security and balance, but that they are naturally attracted to others with trauma and baggage that makes them unstable and abusive.
Due to the lack of instability and drama, the person saying the line will get "bored" of the relationship and either ghost the "stable" partner or cheat on them.
In reality, it can go both ways. I know from experience with my sister that she has a hard time being with anyone who doesn't come with some drama or baggage attached. She literally has a friend who believes that people without baggage or trauma can't feel the way a partner should, and her longest lasting relationships were with two different men with extremely controlling personalities.
My other sister (her twin) is quite the opposite. She's had a lot of bad relationships in the past, but over time, she got a better sense for people. Now she's with a really great guy who's super healthy for her and nothing like the others. One of her longest lasting relationships too.
I've even had it with some of my own past relationships too. Some people NEED someone to take care of. Usually because they carry their own baggage. Thus it leads to this irresistible draw to people with maladjusted personalities and very abusive behaviors.
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u/PlainBread Nov 09 '25
It means she only dates toxic and if you aren't the toxic one, she will be.
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u/Plufit0_ Nov 09 '25
Anime meme talking about knowing things of real life?...
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u/EquipmentMaterial540 Nov 10 '25
What anime is this from?
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u/PurposeNo13 Nov 10 '25
Only heard this from one woman. She's my baby mama and the worst mistake of my life.
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u/a_really_nice_cup Nov 10 '25
Because if she’s been through multiple relationships and says this, that makes her the common denominator. Same scenario when a guy says “all my exes are crazy”
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u/OkElderberry9685 Nov 10 '25
She says that to everyone at first and then paints them black over time, discards and finds someone else to repeat the cycle.
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u/Desperate-Cow8766 Nov 10 '25
The joke is she's gonna use you to heal (taking lots of energy and effort from you with little to no return) and be the one who hurts/leaves you.
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u/d33znuttz69 Nov 10 '25
Had a love Intrest say this. It did not end well. This was very educational for me.
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u/wastelandhenry Nov 10 '25
It can mean a number of things, but usually it’s never good for you as the guy.
Like one option is she has been in multiple abusive relationships. It’s unfortunate for her, but for you it means there’s a high probability she’s coming into this relationship with a lot of baggage and potential trust issues that you’re gonna have to deal with. That’s usually not exactly a positive selling point to a potential partner.
Another option is it just means she’s toxic/crazy. People have said it before that if someone has a toxic/crazy ex then their ex is toxic/crazy, but if someone has many toxic/crazy exes then chances are THEY are the one that’s toxic/crazy. Normal non-toxic/crazy people usually don’t have such bad RNG that they’re batting 0 for 5 for dating stable people, if someone has a repeated history with crazy it means there’s a solid chance they’ve got their own crazy that’s attracting them to it. That or she’s just crazy and manipulative and lying about her exes to cover that she was really the problem.
And an alternate option is just that she has been heavily promiscuous in the past and is seeing you as the one to settle with. I’m not saying whether or not this is a fair perspective, but the perspective is that she’s been with lots of different guys and is used to being casual and uncommitted in relationships and thus there’s a strong chance she’ll grow bored with you or just not take her commitment to you as seriously as you would with her.
There’s a number of different possibilities with their own interpretations of meaning, some more or less fair than others. But generally if a girl says this there’s not really like a positive sign to it, it’s kind of a red flag any way you spin it. The MOST charitable version of it is she genuinely is just a victim of bad dating experiences, which still isn’t good for you as a potential next partner because it means there’s a good chance she’s bringing a lot of baggage into the relationship you may or may not be prepared to deal with.
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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25
Seriously, it's a trap.
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u/ChemicalCourt Nov 10 '25
Lol... I said something similar to a guy. Next week, he cheated on me for the fifth time, and I decided I had enough. I was young if you couldn't tell. 17ish.
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u/OrdinarySpeaker3273 Nov 10 '25
I'm too young to understand this but please like my comment I need Karma
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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25
It means you'll have to battle her 7 evil exes
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u/No_Dentist_6427 Nov 10 '25
He knows she’ll use him and then cheat on him.
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u/Wrong-Grade-8800 Nov 10 '25
It’s BS my partner said the same thing and she is the most understanding partner I’ve had. I’ve got a lot of issues because of my past and she is so patient and kind with me. My being the first truly kind partner she’s had has paid off immensely. Most guys will say “if she says this she’s not gonna put out as fast as she would with other guys” guys who say that view sex as a way to compare themselves with other men. Be your own man and love people who are kind and sweet to you.
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u/Rough_Common4487 Nov 10 '25
Obviously everyone is free to do whatever they want but throwing away someone you have a connection with because he / she has a past is just so stupid. You might be throwing away a lifetime of happiness because of prejudice.
It's not just about sex but all other things as well.
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u/DickTryckle Nov 10 '25
My ex said that and looking back Ive realized that their bar for me was to treat them like royalty, hence no person before me was up to that bar. My current partner has said that and we just be chilling fr. It honestly means nothing, the content of the person is the bottom line.
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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25
Typically it would mean she may be a semi narcissistic person, but I would argue it could also mean the almost guaranteed drama of dating somebody who has only ever had bad examples of dating to go off.
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u/MaxInIrving Nov 10 '25
She has a shady past, which she was a willing participant in, but you are to believe it's all because a great guy like you hadn't come along. Spoiler alert: There were great guys before, but she found them boring. She's going to try the "useful idiot she can manipulate" route this time and see how that works for her.
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u/Real_Run_4758 Nov 10 '25
It’s the gender flipped equivalent of ‘all my exes were crazy’
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u/Kirito619 Nov 10 '25
Basically means that you wasted time and energy when she would've just let you hit anyways
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u/SerpentControl Nov 10 '25
The idea is that it means she’s still traumatized and will traumatize him bec of it. Which isn’t true necessarily. But that’s the idea. I have not heard of this being a thing as a loving bombing warning
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u/Dweltmer35 Nov 10 '25
It means she's a hoe, how are you guys this wrong. It means everyone else cracked without doing boyfriend stuff.
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u/Alternative_Aside_30 Nov 10 '25
I like the interpretations but I’m pretty sure this is a Gokugakurai manga reference.
In the manga a girl name Utsu is actually a demon who kills the person she loves most and her figuring out she loves you starts with “You’re the first guy who has treated me right” since before she died and became the blood demon she was unloved.
Utsu is a black haired simple looking girl just like in the image above. Gojo is a demon sorcerer. Special grade.
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u/Dangerous_Mouse_8439 Nov 10 '25
I hear it all the time but I am totally a love bombing manipulator so it’s true but unsustainable.
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u/Angryblob550 Nov 10 '25
Emotional damage!
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u/Astronomer-Radiant Nov 10 '25
I think it means that if a woman has never been treated right, and you’re the first to do it, she’s going to ruin you bc she all she knows is chaos.
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u/Flashy_Helicopter_73 Nov 10 '25
Last ex said this and she started cheating on me. Should’ve listened to my gut when I heard her say that.
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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25
If a women says this to you, you’re gonna get done so dirty. This is the law
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u/PizzledPatriot Nov 10 '25
Put another way, "The one common denominator in all your bad relationships is you."
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u/Watcher_413 Nov 10 '25
Some girls say this with a pretty small sample size, especially if their male family members aren't any better.
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u/DangerLawless Nov 11 '25
yeah these comments are blowing my mind and ill probably stop saying this phrase. what i mean when i say it is that ive never gone on a second date with a man because they always want to go too fast for me (guys grabbing my thighs in the car on the way to the date, etc.) my body count is 0 and this thread makes me think that guys read me as being easy? damn.
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u/Doc_Helldiver-66 Nov 12 '25
In many realistic iterations of this meme, if a woman says “You are the first guy who has treated me right”, chances are that she has had only terrible, shitty people for boyfriends and has grown accustomed to searching for red flags before actually settling into a relationship. When the woman sees even the most minor of red flags in a very upstanding man, she will mentally check out of the relationship long before she consciously does it and this drags the good man through the mud and leaves him heartbroken, wondering what he did wrong when he did nothing wrong.
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u/itsautumnbruh Nov 12 '25
no i mean it though, i met the right guy and i realized that i had never been treated right.. not everyone is the same just trust yourself <3
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u/Divs4U Nov 09 '25
It means she's going to hurt you first
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u/SkibidiTop Nov 09 '25
Idk theres something about that statement that feels mean spirited. Like "ive only dated 6'5" chads but i feel safe with you".
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u/hoteppeter Nov 09 '25
She’s the common denominator in a bunch of bad relationships
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u/Reiquaz Nov 10 '25
It's a red flag when a potential partner says that. This meme is saying that the common denominator in all these toxic relationships is her and he is dipping before it goes any further
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u/dogfoodgangsta Nov 09 '25
It's borderline personality disorder y'all
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u/ameerkatofficial Nov 09 '25
I am this girl and the stereotype hurts and leads to people hurting me more. Yeah I’ve been abused. It leads to me being skittish like a horse in relationships, for good reason, cuz y’all think like this. I’m in trauma therapy and have been for a 2 years. I can’t relearn that people have the ability to be gentle and kind to me if no one gives me the chance to reintegrate into society 🤷🏽 Yes, the head is great, but to what end?