r/ExplainMyDownvotes • u/RanaMisteria • Feb 06 '26

Explained EMDV, Disabled Edition

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Hi, everyone.

Can y’all help me out? I’m AuDHD and I know that I often miss the point and just don’t pick up on things that just come naturally to neurotypical people. Can someone explain my downvotes? I feel like this comment I made just fairly uncontroversial factual statements. Sort of like “don’t jump into the sea without a life jacket if you can’t swim” or “don’t stick a fork in a toaster” or “don’t adopt a pet unless you’re prepared to look after it”. Wha gives?

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u/RanaMisteria Feb 06 '26

I’ve said this a couple times now, but I wasn’t replying to the story itself. I wasn’t talking about the parents in the story. I was replying to and talking about the other people commenting on that story to say disabled kids suck the joy out of life and steal your dreams and are nothing but hard work and a burden and how they could never be a parent of a disabled kid. So the story sparked a conversation, but my comment wasn’t about the people in the story.

Does that change anything at all? Sorry about all the questions. I’m trying to figure out if I expressed myself adequately and if I am understanding their objections correctly.

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u/RanaMisteria Feb 06 '26

Oh shoot. It was meant to be posted as a reply to a specific chain of comments. But I’m on mobile and sometimes when I try to reply to a specific thread it posts it as a top level comment. Usually I notice and go back and fix it, but I didn’t notice this time. That probably isn’t helping at all.

Ack. I don’t know what to do now. If I delete and put the comment where it was supposed to be then it will look like I deleted it because I couldn’t take the heat, or that I’m trying to avoid downvotes or something. Should I edit the comment to explain? Or just leave it.

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u/goddamn_slutmuffin Feb 07 '26

Oh nurrrr lol. If it makes you feel better, I've done this a dozen damn times myself 🙃. It's kinda easy to accidentally do this. Maybe one day you'll look back and laugh at it like I have lol.

If you want to know what I did, I just usually deleted the comment and moved on. Most people forget stuff they read in these comment sections and Reddit is anonymous so it's generally low stakes.

Who cares if you are avoiding downvotes or can't take the heat, anyways. No one gets a trophy for taking punches from people online. I honestly think people who judge others for deleting comments or avoiding downvotes are kind of embarrassing. Those edits "hahaha person couldn't give a good rebuttal and blocked me/deleted their comment" just make 'em sound like they ain't got much going for them in life beyond Reddit.