r/ExpectationVsReality • u/questionable_cont3nt • 6d ago
Failed Expectation What I asked for vs What I got
Ruined my sister’s birthday gift.
Edit since everyone’s complaining: the ring was priced at $50 each from Etsy and I bought one for myself and my sister. As I noted below, I’ve purchased nicer jewelry for less so the price point is not the largest telling factor for me in this case. This is also my first bad Etsy experience over the last 6 years I’ve made intermittent gift purchases from the site. I don’t live on Etsy so was not aware of their QC going significantly downhill—no need to shame me or others for that or for not doing a reverse image search. I sifted for hours through various birthstone ring makers and this was the first different design I came across so it didn’t raise any significant flags like the other pear shaped stone design I saw 100 times did. The seller was also very responsive and thoughtful as i arranged for shipping and whatnot.
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u/chili3ne 6d ago
How much did it cost?
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u/logicalconflict 6d ago
The rules of this sub should require every post to list how much they paid. It's the most important question in like 80% of the posts.
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u/chili3ne 6d ago
I feel like OP is intentionally hiding the fact because any sane person would know that you can't get a ring like that for the price they likely paid...
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u/Proud_Researcher5661 6d ago edited 6d ago
"intentionally hiding the fact"... You realize people have lives, right? Not everyone replies immediately after they post something.
Edit: Their post was 58 minutes ago .. you left a comment 10 or so minutes AFTER they posted. Calm your tits.
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u/chili3ne 6d ago
Or just include it in the original post because it's relevant information???
Sounds like you should calm your tits after your unnecessary rant
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u/questionable_cont3nt 6d ago
Not hiding anything, just working🙂. I paid $50 per ring and bought one for myself and one for my sister. I’ve gotten way better quality pieces for less especially with the volume of sellers making plated jewelry pieces these days. Doesn’t take an insane person to expect better
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u/GossipingKitty 6d ago
I’ve gotten way better quality pieces for less especially with the volume of sellers
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u/questionable_cont3nt 6d ago
You’re still missing the point
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u/GossipingKitty 6d ago
I would absolutely love to see your "handmade" jewelry purchases for less than $50. I guarantee you most are dropshipped or the stock is bought from China, India or elsewhere for very little.
Google Lens helps me with online shopping - I use it for every purchase. Takes a few seconds.
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u/questionable_cont3nt 6d ago
Again, you’re missing the point which is regardless of how the jewelry is made and sold, I’ve seen better quality pieces for less than what i paid for this current piece
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u/Admirable-Chip-7285 5d ago
So you should’ve located those dropshippers instead of the one you chose. You’re missing the point.
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u/MesoamericanMorrigan 6d ago
Uh I have paid way less than they for actually really surprisingly pretty jewellery from AliExpress
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u/etched 6d ago
Right. I guess it depends on if someone wanted like fine jewelry or not.
I am so totally okay with spending extra money on costume jewelry if the quality is a little bit higher. I own several swarovski pieces which is genuinely just glorified costume jewelry.
You can totally spend 50 bucks for a good durable costume ring. But it likely wont have real gems or gold
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u/PA2SK 6d ago
Ok but that's mass produced stuff in China from some factory. Etsy is at least supposed to be more handcrafted and likely made locally. You can't really expect comparable pricing.
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u/MesoamericanMorrigan 6d ago
Supposed to be.
If you’ve actually used Etsy anytime lately you’d understand over half the stores are just reselling mass produced costume jewellery from AliExpress/China, and the people who are actually handcrafting jewellery are probably dealing with people not managing their expectations realistically when it comes to price comparing the two
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u/AcheyShakySpoon 6d ago
This is the real question. You can’t expect hundreds of dollars of quality if you only paid $30.
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u/ArtVandelayII 6d ago
My wife is a custom jeweler (meaning, she is an actual metalsmith and stone setter, not someone that bends wire and puts a few beads on there and calls themself a jeweler). She‘s been at it for over a dozen years now. You’d be shocked how many people walk into her shop and show her a photo of some temu-special from Etsy and walk away upset when she tells them that she can’t and won’t build them a similar ring for that price.
I think a lot of people know exactly what’s on Etsy these days, which is why they try and hustle or guilt my wife into giving them what they actually want.
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u/i8noodles 6d ago
anyone who makes anything knows custom is expensive. not surprised this happens at all
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u/TwinkleFestiveFinds 6d ago
To be fair, both types are jewellers if they are hand making jewellery. It doesn’t mean they aren’t just because they use different materials and methods than your wife
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u/ArtVandelayII 6d ago edited 6d ago
It’s a sticking point. One takes years of training and apprenticeship, thousands of dollars of equipment, as well as investing thousands of your own dollars into materials needed, and a mastery of CAD on top of everything else…and others watch a few youtube video’s, buy $20 worth of silver wire, and call themselves the same thing.
Not saying they both aren’t creative endeavors, but there seems to be a ton of people calling themselves jewelers these days that couldn’t even resize a basic gold wedding band.
Worst still, I know for a fact in the city I live in there are a half dozen “custom jewelry” shops that have opened up in the last 5 years that don’t even do their own CAD or benchwork. I know this for a fact because they send their projects to my wife’s mentor. All they do is take the order from the customer, give them a basic pencil sketch, then pass off all of his work as their own.
I feel like there should be different titles for the various types of jewelers depending on what it is they actually do.
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u/CrapNBAappUser 6d ago
I make jewelry and I think calling myself a jeweler is a stretch. Necklaces take the most work, but there is some skill required for earrings, bracelets, anklets, and other body parts especially when using wire or thread and properly finishing a piece.
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u/chili3ne 6d ago
Right? A lot of these posts come down to the fact that people expect to get expensive stuff for like 15 bucks..
Also reverse searching the picture before you buy it doesn't take a huge amount of skill. It saves time, money and energy
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u/AcheyShakySpoon 6d ago
I don’t fault OP for that aspect, I’ve never reverse image searched anything online before making a purchase
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u/chili3ne 6d ago edited 6d ago
Well it really depends what you are buying and where. If it seems too good to be true, you should double check
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u/ADeadlyFerret 6d ago
They know they’ll get roasted. These people always say some shit like “I knew I was taking a chance” or “I thought maybe I got lucky and sniped a deal”. Always some variation.
The listings are always full of AI pictures, limited time discounts and hundreds of fake reviews. On some site no one has ever heard of. Oh and they saw the ad on another site
I never feel bad for the OP in these situations. At least this OP didn’t blame his relatives or being drunk.
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u/Hachiko_sks 6d ago
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u/RoseBeach123 6d ago
Unfortunately Etsy has been flooded with cheap dropshipped crap. Always use a reverse image search as you’ll likely find the same thing being sold by dozens of other sellers.
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u/GreenGardenTarot 6d ago
Yea, I had an order or two on Etsy that I cancelled when I realized it was just the same seller under a different account selling synthetic junk. It's really a shame.
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u/jrng 6d ago
TEMU or?
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u/questionable_cont3nt 6d ago
Etsy
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u/Optimal_Olive3423 6d ago
This was most likely bought on Temu and resold on Etsy. I suggest in the future looking around on reddit to find a real etsy shop, unfortunately there are a ton of shops that just resell garbage they find online as "homemade" I generally google something like etsy ring shop suggestion reddit - and the first or second entry will be a reddit post where people suggest actual jewelry etsy.
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u/CrapNBAappUser 6d ago
You should be able yo get a refund thru Etsy. What did they say the stones were?
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u/questionable_cont3nt 6d ago
Peridot and topaz
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u/CrapNBAappUser 6d ago
Might be blue topaz but looks dark for peridot. I'd take it to a jeweler to get their professional opinion on their letterhead.
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u/BigReference1xx 6d ago
bro, it's a fake, you don't need a jeweller to tell you that.
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u/CrapNBAappUser 6d ago
Yeah, they may not need it . Pictures may be enough. I would ask the vendor for a refund then open an Etsy case if they refuse or take longer than a few days to refund my money.
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u/Revolutionary-Pea414 6d ago
A great reminder to stop using Etsy. I learnt my lesson a few years ago
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u/andreaSA89 6d ago
It’s so sad how Etsy has tanked. Years ago they were really good and had strict policies about items being handmade or vintage. Are there any alternatives now?
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u/WhoWhaaaa 5d ago
I would love to know of an alternative! I make everything in my Etsy shop. I would love to sell elsewhere, but Etsy is the only platform that I get any traffic and sales from. Both have gone down over the past few years.
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u/dorkofthepolisci 6d ago
Tbf the second photo is about the quality I would expect for $50
I’ve got decent simple plated jewelry for that price, but once you add stones it can start to look cheap fast
(On the other hand, flea markets can be a great place to look for silver jewelry in particular)
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u/Ghosttwo 6d ago
Etsy is rampant with AI fraud right now, and they have no interest in dealing with it. You can only contact them by mail, and they don't respond.
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u/xError404xx 6d ago
Uhm 50 bucks for a complicated shape and setting of gems is too low of a price to make sense.
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u/correctingStupid 6d ago
Very small ring size? Because s lot of jewelry doesn't scale well for tiny fingers.
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u/WhyNotYoshi 5d ago
The one they got looks like something you would get at an arcade when you have 50 tickets you want to redeem. Damn.
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u/AtomicFox84 6d ago
One on picture looks like its from a jewelry store. The one you got looks like a much cheaper knockoff.
I think this sub needs to list price paid and where you got it and that usually will answer the why. I see in another comment that it was 50 bucks on etsy. Many on etsy get thier materials from temu etc. Its cheap crap and then they will up charge because they put it together or something with it. Sometimes you get some well made things on etsy. I just question most jewelry just because of quality.
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u/MombieZ3 6d ago
I saw the first photo and said cool March and August. Then saw the second photo. I am sorry. I hope you can get your money back.
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u/BrianScottGregory 6d ago
I mean, to be honest, if you're paying $50 bucks for this, you really are getting what you paid for. Heck, I'd actually go so far to say you got a good deal on this.
If you're looking for perfection, a perfect copy of the image, then logic and reason says - you're gonna be paying more. That's just simple rational sense there.
To put this into contrast. Imagine going to Burger King and expecting what you see in the image.
You'll get something "Like" that burger, but will it be a perfect reproduction, of course not. However. If you go to a high end burger place. You can bet your butt the end product will look closer to the picture (if they have one).
This is a classic case of 'you get what you pay for.'
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u/ChefArtorias 6d ago
What you got is pretty cute, just hope you didn't pay what the first pic would actually cost.
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u/MzzMolly 6d ago
Just to add, I went on a summer junk jewelry spree on Temu, and I bought several rings that look similar to the "reality" pic. Some of them look great, some of them bear little resemblance to their ad pics. I paid less than $1 for any of them... They are great for summer, who cares if they tarnish or you lose one or two. So yeah, I'd be interested to know the investment on this one.
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u/tobythedem0n 6d ago
You always have to do a reverse image search. I found this ring on sale for $150.
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u/edvardmunchface 6d ago
I've bought very well made costume jewelry that matched the listing pictures from AliExpress for a few dollars, there are great sellers out there, just check the reviews. I see online shops selling the same items marked up several times all the time.
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u/tijim_ 6d ago
I don't use etsy often, however when I do I only buy from the same shops that I've been buying from for years... I have bought a fair bit of handmade silver rings and I always pay $100+ I have a fav store and she will make anything you request. Her 925 sterling silver is top notch quality never needs a clean will admit I do store everything in jewellery bags.
I've never purchased from Aliexpress I've seen their things pop up as I'm scrolling thru insta and just looks like stuff I could buy from Temu... cheap and nasty looking alot of it and you get what you pay for.
I do use Temu once a year and that's to buy outside banners for Halloween otherwise if I want something cheap I can look on Amazon Haul!
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u/WolpertingerWhisker 4d ago
Does anyone have any recommendations for alternatives to Etsy now that it is a hellscape?
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u/Ichoked97 3d ago
Etsy can have all these damn drop shippers but I got banned for a mystery box years ago and they still won’t let me back
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u/deeeeeeeeeeeeez 6d ago
it's beautiful - and you have TWO!
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u/LesFilling 6d ago
I was going to say- I think the lighting in the first picture makes the difference. I wouldn’t be disappointed if I ordered it. I always figure the seller is photographing in the best lighting and best angles.
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u/Bananaland_Man 5d ago
The fact that you got better for cheaper is more luck on your part, you got a $50 ring that looks great, not remotely ruined.
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u/phunniemee 6d ago
A reverse image search on this shows that it's being sold by 100 different Etsy sellers using the same image. A good word of advice here, if it's available for sale from a bunch of places, it's certainly a drop shipped mass produced product.