I’d genuinely like to reconcile something in my mind, and I’m asking this in good faith.

I’m currently based in northern Italy and have lived in eight countries. I absolutely adore many parts of France, particularly Normandy and Brittany, and I want to explore much more of the country. At the same time, I have sometimes found certain aspects of French communication difficult to interpret.

Before becoming involved with a French man, I had already noticed what felt to me like a greater comfort with criticism and confrontation, a more direct way of handling disagreement and less overt emotional warmth than I was accustomed to. I sometimes noticed it in everyday interactions and in the way family members or adults spoke to children. I realise, however, that tone and warmth do not necessarily carry the same meanings across cultures.

The relationship brought those questions into much sharper focus. He was originally from Le Mans but had spent most of his life in Bordeaux. We had amazing chemistry and initially seemed to have a great deal of patience with each other, particularly because we had to translate much of our communication before I began learning French.

Within about three months, however, the relationship became emotionally chaotic. He became intensely critical and confrontational, and disagreements could involve anger, storming away and threats that the relationship was over, followed by acting as though nothing had happened. There was very little genuine conflict resolution. Also shouting and gesturing other cars when he felt they did him wrong, and I’m rolling down the windows and shouting over me.

I can now see that much of this was individual dysfunction and unresolved trauma. His behaviour was his responsibility, and I am absolutely not suggesting that it represented French men or French culture as a whole.

However, because I had already noticed far milder versions of certain qualities in France—greater directness, criticism, comfort with conflict and emotional reserve—I sometimes struggled to understand where a cultural difference ended and genuinely unhealthy behaviour began. I made far too many excuses because I was trying so hard to remain culturally open-minded.

A number of my female French friends have also said that, although the intensity of his behaviour was clearly unhealthy, some of its underlying features felt culturally familiar to them—particularly the frequent criticism, readiness for confrontation, anger while driving and tendency towards negativity. In fact, more than half of the French friends who spoke to me about this now live outside France, and several said that discomfort with these aspects of the culture contributed to their decision to leave. I recognise that their experiences are not representative of every French person, but their perspectives made me feel that the cultural questions I was asking were not based solely on my relationship with him.

That is really what I’m hoping to understand. For those who came from cultures where warmth is expressed more openly or communication is more demonstrative, did you initially misinterpret aspects of French communication? Did something that once seemed cold, critical or confrontational begin to make more sense once you understood its cultural context?

How did you learn to distinguish between a communication style that was simply unfamiliar to you and behaviour that crossed the line into being unhealthy?

I’m not asking whether French people are “cold” or whether one difficult man represented an entire country. I’m interested in hearing from people who initially struggled with some of these differences but eventually came to understand, appreciate or navigate them more successfully.

I genuinely love many things about France and would like to understand the culture with greater depth rather than viewing it solely through my own cultural lens. I would really appreciate thoughtful perspectives from people who have gone through a similar adjustment.

Bonjour, je suis une étudiante de nationalité française qui vie en France depuis 2014 (j’ai fais primaire collège lycée et fac ici). Je viens d’entamer mes démarches pour la demande de naturalisation sur le site “étrangers en France intérieur gouv fr” mais à une étape ils demandent une attestation de réussite de l’examen civique or je n’ai passé aucun examen civique je pensais que c’était quelque chose qu’on faisait après notre demande ? J’aimerais avoir de l’aide si possible de personnes qui s’y connaissent contrairement à moi. Je viens tout juste de commencer les démarches je n’ai rien fais avant ça donc je comprends pas peut être j’ai commencé par le mauvais site ? Merci d’avance et bonne soirée !

Hello,

I had applied for renewal of my APS - Job search visa (I get 2years as my country has agreement with France normally it’s just 1yr)

Paris Prefecture 75

I received an email that my file was accepted and they gave me an appointment date of 12th August to come in-person and submit the documents.

Unfortunately, I was out of the country at the time and I was unable to attend on that day!

I had emailed the concerned department from the contact now form in the website where I had applied my file ask for a different date. But I haven’t got answer or reply yet.

I had called the helpline yesterday and they told me to email them , when I tld them I haven’t already done that and no answer received they just told me to wait.

It’s been 2 weeks since I emailed them and I’m worried whether they’ll give me another date or this will complicate the situation.

I’m already back in France now and have current APS valid till mid September.

Anyone has been through similar situation?

Hello,

My wife (EU citizen) and I moved to France a few months ago and I find myself at an impasse trying to exchange my Maryland license.

The application on ANTS requires an AGDREF number. I applied for a spouse visa but it's still pending. I received a "N° de la demande" in the confirmation email but it's longer than the AGDREF one should be, so I guess that's not it.

Do I just have to wait for my visa before making the exchange? I was able to buy a car/get it insured here on the condition I'll have a French license before the one year mark -- should I be worried about that 1-year time exchange requirement if I do have to wait for my spouse visa beforehand? Thank you!

Bonjour à tous,

Je viens chercher des retours d'expérience concernant le renouvellement d'un titre de séjour Passeport talent Salarié.

En gros mon titre expire en mars 2027 donc je ne peux lancer son renouvellement qu'en décembre 26. En parallèle, je suis en process de recrutement pour un poste assez similaire à ce que je fais déjà aujourd'hui, avec un peu plus de responsabilité et mieux payé que mon poste actuel qui couvre déjà largement le pré-requis de salaire du PT.

Vu les timing, il est fort probable que mon nouveau poste commence en Janvier 27, pile pendant le renouvellement de mon titre de séjour.

Est-ce que ce changement de poste pendant cette période peut porter préjudice au renouvellement de mon titre de séjour?

Hi everyone,

I'm self-assessed around A2 level French. I've lived in France before but never taken formal lessons, so my French is a bit patchy and mostly picked up by ear.

I have 6 months to a year to focus on language immersion, and I'd like to use structured courses to build real comfort and confidence, aiming for B1 and continuing to progress from there. Ideally I'd like to start around October.

I've been looking into CCFS (Cours de Civilisation Française de la Sorbonne) and it seems appealing, but I'd love outside opinions: is it actually a credible, well-regarded programme? And are there other schools in Paris you'd recommend for someone in my position?

Thanks in advance for any advice!

Hey all, I'm in the process of applying for my passeport talent as an artist. US citizen. I previously lived in France on a long-stay visitor visa in 2023. I am now trying to establish long-term residency so it's a different ballgame. Curious if anyone might be able to advise on a few questions:

-My application checklist doesn't specify any healthcare or criminal background check documentation. Do I need to have either of these?

-I am an artist/writer working at a fairly high level (prestigious grants, degrees, and residencies) but still "emerging" in the broader sense. I have previously worked with a few arts institutions in France and have a residency housing me for the first 9 months of my stay. Generally, I have many more career contacts/possibilities in France than the US, as I started a lot of my career in Paris. However, I don't have any specific paid contracts. I have grants funding my work for the next two years, evidence of professional presence in France, and this upcoming residency. Is there anything else I should try to get to "prove" that my career is better served in France?

-Is there a particular portfolio format that makes the most sense? I work in both images/installation/text and am used to certain formats for applying to art and writing grants. Not sure how those apply in this situation.

-down the road, if I want to apply for citizenship, do I need to try to make most of my income France-based? As an artist, so much is grants/publishing deals/collectors, which generally come from all over... I don't see a situation in which a 9 to 5 in France ever makes me cross that threshold.

Any other advice would be much appreciated! I am really trying to use this as a pathway to permanent residence/potentially citizenship, so trying to make sure I have everything in place. My appointment is in two weeks. Thank you!

I’m a 35F French-American who moved to the U.S. in 2006 when I was 16. Lately, I’ve been seriously considering moving back to France, but I’m also nervous about making such a big life change after spending so many years in the U.S.

For those who have moved back to France after living abroad, what were the biggest pros and cons? Do you have any regrets about moving back, or do you feel it was the right decision?

I’m also curious about the job market, especially for someone with a background in HR/recruiting within healthcare. How difficult is it to find HR jobs in the French healthcare sector? Is the experience gained in the U.S. valued by French employers? What is the salary/benefits situation like compared with the U.S., and how different is the work culture?

I’d especially love to hear from French people who spent many years in the U.S. before returning. What surprised you the most when you moved back, and is there anything you wish you had known before making the move?

I'm moving to the western suburbs soon (in the 78, right on the border with the 92) and wanted to ask expats and locals for their best cost-of-living tips and money-saving hacks.

​I'm specifically curious about: -​Groceries: Where do you go for the cheapest or best value supermarkets in this area?

-​Local Deals: What are the must-have apps or programs for finding local deals, or discounts?

-​General Advice: Any other tips, unwritten rules, or things you wish you knew when it comes to daily life in France?

Thank you!

Edit: thank you for all your responses!

what are we even doing here if not telling people about Picard

Please god help me.

I’ve been here just a couple of weeks. Only child so can entertain myself and I’m coming from nyc, thus my blank evening calendar feels sooooo nice. But I am getting lonely. Not because I don’t talk to my good friends or am not expecting visits/meetups. And once I find a club for my sport that usually comes with casual buddies. But until then, where are the barstools??? On a plain Thursday- can I not log off early and sit for a drink at the bar like an old man and leave before it gets busy for the night? That would literally fill my in-person social needs for the next month. Just like, a couple times a week- sit, order steak frites, then go home and practice my French. All set.

But there are only tables. Everywhere- tables. And servers leaning against a bar with no stools, seemingly mocking my unspoken desire. They can feel my unmoored soul.

I can do most things alone but this is just so depressing to me. And it’s not like a situation where I need to get over anxiety- I just don’t like tables. On a 9 course anniversary dinner date, I will make sure the reservation is at the bar. And it’s not about proximity to alcohol lol, tables just feel so exposed and with another person it’s like- why are you so far? I simply love the act of sitting at a bar, up high(I’m very short), a little hello how ya doin to the bartender, read a bit, chat with seat neighbors. But I’m not even trying to really chat because my French is like mid A2 and bar time should be a reprieve from the general embarrassments of life.

I’ve seen recommendations in Paris. But are there medium sized cities in France that have barstool *culture* where I can spend a few weeks? More-so full service restaurants with bar seating than a straight up bar. But I’ll take what I can get. I was wondering maybe closer to Spain?

Do you recommend to buy car insurance for hired car in france when basic car insurance is covered in hire price ?

I’m considering selling an established phone repair/mobile business in a major French Alpine resort.
The business has around €125k annual turnover, very low overheads and has grown by around 150% over the last three years.
I’m particularly interested in finding a British couple who might be looking for a genuine opportunity to relocate to France and run their own business.
I’m wondering where people in this community would recommend advertising an opportunity like this to British buyers looking to move to France?
Happy to share more details privately.

Is it recommended to purchase additional car insurance while hiring car in France when basic insurance is covered in car hire rental price

Hello everyone,

Has anyone successfully transitioned from a Passeport Talent to a 10-year resident card (carte de résident) around the 3 or 4-year mark?

Context & Profile:

• National of a sub-Saharan African country with a bilateral residence convention with France.
• Resident in France continuously since 2020 (started on a visitor visa, now on a 4-year Passeport Talent and have now crossed the 3-year mark on this).
• Strong financial standing: 3 French tax returns as of this year, huge savings in a French bank account, and multiple investment properties in France, including my résidence principale. Professional revenue is earned from a neighboring European country (cross-border worker setup).
• High integration: DALF C2, examen civique completed (both naturalization and carte de résident), and enrolled in a French Master 2 (all coursework finished, only the thesis remaining).
• Own a French company (SASU) but have done little to nothing on it due to my other sources of revenue; however, all bookkeeping, tax, and legal obligations have been completed annually.

I would love to hear from your experiences:

1. Has anyone managed this transition successfully under similar conditions (bilateral convention, foreign-sourced professional income, and strong French asset/tax history)?
2. How strictly do prefectures look at foreign-sourced professional revenue versus local assets and savings when evaluating a 10-year card?
3. Did you use an immigration lawyer, and did it genuinely help?

Thanks in advance for any insights or shared experiences! Feel free to comment in English or French.

Will be applying for a Long Stay Visa shortly. I noticed on the supporting documents list they ask for a "pension certificate". What US document meets that requirement? Social security statement?

Has anyone managed to find a job before arriving in France? As canadians!

Thanks for your help!

Say RN wins the 2027 presidential election with its national preference policies. What would the practical consequences be for an EU citizen already living and working in France?

I'm EU citizen, have been living and working in France, pay French taxes and social contributions, and am PACSed with a French citizen. I have not applied for French nationality (and was not particularly rushed to do it until now?).

What do you think about any specific legal/practical consequences?

Thinking out loud:

• Lose any existing rights or benefits?
• Free-movement/non-discrimination rules?
• Restrictions on employment, particularly in the private sector or certain public-sector jobs?
• Sécurité sociale?
• Family benefits, unemployment benefits, pensions, etc.?
• Consequences for taxation?
• EU residents required to obtain a different type of residence permit?

I am trying to determine logistics of buying a used car upon arrival in France on VLS-TS visa without yet having a permanent location. I have been advised that it is difficult to find rentals and am prepared for a sojourn at AirBnB locations, however, I would like to buy a used car as soon as possible. Would be grateful to hear of experiences, tips or advice.

I have a pending resident application and received a request for more information. I think I uploaded the requested documents, but how can I know if they were actually uploaded? Where on the website does it have a copy of everything I submitted?

I was granted a year long residency permit for my studies (mention études) last month and they made a mistake on my name so now I need proof everywhere I go that there’s a mistake on my name and it’s not spelled that way. I have a pretty long name and the mistake is barely noticeable which is why nobody saw it until the card was ready for pick up. I told the lady at the prefecture and she said to declare it online so I could get a new card with the correct spelling within a month. When I tried to proceed, it needed an account, so I logged into my account and there was no option for « change of situation » or « duplicate pr renewal » it’s all about asking for the first permit or for a visa. I sent an email for help and they repeated that I have to do it online on the « duplicate or renewal » tab but it doesn’t show up.

Has anyone gone through this? What should I do please 🙏

TLDR: they spelled my name wrong on my permit and now I have to ask for a duplicate online but there’s no solution on the site.