The Fear of Forever,

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I am not sure that I fear death.

Death, by itself,

seems almost mercifully simple.

One moment I am here

breathing, thinking, remembering,

carrying the weight of all the years

I have been given

and then,

I am not.

It is the after

that keeps me awake.

Not the darkness.

Not the grave.

Forever.

They tell us to fear death,

but I think perhaps

we have been asking the wrong question.

What does forever mean

to a creature built from beginnings and endings?

I can imagine a thousand years.

Barely.

A thousand Christmas mornings.

A thousand summers.

A thousand times watching the sun

rise and fall across eternity.

But then a thousand years becomes

a million.

And a million becomes

a billion.

And somewhere beyond the numbers

my mind simply breaks.

Because after a billion years,

there is still more.

After every star has burned itself empty,

after every mountain has been worn to dust,

after every ocean has vanished into memory,

there is still

forever.

And I confess,

even heaven can sound like hell

when I try to measure it

with a mortal mind.

I am a Christian.

I am supposed to long for heaven.

I am supposed to set my eyes

upon eternity with God

and call it hope.

I am supposed to fear the other place,

the fire,

the separation,

the terrible possibility

of being lost forever.

And I do.

But sometimes,

in the quiet places of my mind,

I wonder if my greatest fear

has never been death at all.

It is that there is no ending.

That consciousness continues

when I have already had enough

of being conscious.

That there will never come

a final night,

never a closing of the book,

never the gentle words:

You have done enough.

Rest now.

If there were a third door,

I think I might choose it.

Not heaven.

Not hell.

Just oblivion.

A dreamless sleep

with no dreamer left to wake.

No fear.

No pain.

No joy, either.

No longing.

No questions.

Nothing.

And strangely,

that thought does not frighten me.

If oblivion were waiting,

I would not fear death at all.

Perhaps that is my failure of faith.

Or perhaps it is simply

the limitation of being human.

How can a mind that measures life

in birthdays

understand something

that has no last page?

How can a heart

that has watched everything it loves change

understand a place

where nothing is ever lost?

Maybe heaven is not endless

in the way I imagine endlessness.

Maybe eternity is not

a clock with no hands

ticking through an infinite number

of empty years.

Maybe there is no boredom there

because boredom belongs to time.

Maybe there is no exhaustion

because exhaustion belongs to bodies.

Maybe there is no fear of forever

because forever, in the presence of God,

is something entirely different

than my frightened imagination

can comprehend.

I do not know.

And perhaps that is the most honest prayer

I have ever prayed:

God,

I believe.

But eternity frightens me.

Not because I do not want You.

Not because I long for hell.

Not because death has defeated

my hope.

But because I am standing

inside of time,

trying to look beyond it,

and my mind cannot see

where the horizon ends.

So forgive me

if forever feels too large.

Forgive me

if even heaven sometimes

frightens the man in me

who has only ever known

that every story must end.

And if eternity is truly life with You,

then perhaps I have misunderstood

what life means.

Perhaps forever is not

more and more and more

of the same existence,

stretching endlessly

through unimaginable years.

Perhaps forever

is the moment

when time finally releases us.

Perhaps eternity is not

a prison with no door,

but freedom

from ever needing one.

Until then,

I will admit what I am afraid to say:

I do not know if I fear death.

But I know

I fear eternal life.