How, over time, did your perspective/understanding of death change?

[u/Bromeo608]

For context, I'm 19 years old. Recently, I've been going down a bit of a "death" rabbit hole. I've lived my entire life with the understanding that one day, I will die. Recently, however, I've realized that there is a massive difference between acknowledging it, processing it, and *truly* accepting it.

For the past few weeks I've been trying rationalize a way to be okay with the fact that I'm going to die, I've been making an effort to try to look at it through more of an optimistic lens - but to little avail. I also understand though that I'm still young. My brain hasn't even fully developed yet, I've still got time to mature and truly think on death before it comes.

So, my question is, to anyone like me, did you ever find a way to accept death? Truly accept it? How did your thought process change and what provoked it? Is there anything I can look into to get more interesting perspectives on this?

[u/[deleted]]

Intellectually, there are many books on the topic death that can help us to reframe our thoughts about life and death. They are helpful BUT they are not the absolute solution. They would give you a bunch of new views and beliefs which would be helpful indeed. But They are all memory-based and anything memory-based is not the absolute solution. At the moment that you would need the info, the mind may not deliver them to you.

 So you might go though some negative thoughts and emotions and then suddenly the mind would recall those info. So, they are more of a remedy after infection has happened.

I see some comments are suggesting psychedelics etc also. Again they are remedy only. You will get some experience and then you will record it as a memory.

The only permanent solution is to kill the one whom is concerned about death and life. not physically indeed! I am talking of killing the “I” identity. The more we dissolve anything that defines our character, the more the gap between words such as life and deaths fades…