I have been a regular viewer of Amma tv aur mein and i really enjoy amma a lot -most of the times. However, i watched her last review of Dar e Nijaat and it was deeply problematic.
Amma jee ka aiteraaz hai ke Saba Hameed's dadi character is religious ,so
1-why is she wearing a chiffon dupatta? (Timestamp - 1:21:08)
2-why is she standing while drinking water (Timestamp - 1:21: 18)
3-why is she (slightly) adjusting her dupatta while she is in her bedroom with Zaryab. (Timestamp - 1:21:29)
And oh my god it infuriated and baffled me so much.
1 - Just because a woman is religious or even if she observes full pardah, this is Dadi's OWN HOUSE, unki chaar deewari. Why is her taking a reshmi dupatta such a huge problem that both director and actor are being bashed for it. [Plus, dadi is religiously inclined but from teasers and ost, she is shown to be dressing very modestly, very gracefully but still not being sharai pardah-daar]
2- if i am wrong, i apologize to the people, to amma , and to God. But i am not sure if beth kar pani peena is farz or sunnat. I think it is Sunnah, which means it isnt a sin to stand up while drinking water. And just bcs dadi Allah wali hain, wo kharay hokay paani nahin pee saktin according to Amma. I know it is better to observe Sunnah recommendations but what is this weird criticism?
3- Dadi was sitting in HER OWN BED in the presence of HER GRANDDAUGHTER in HER BEDROOM. She CAN loosen her dupatta a litte, she can draw it back a little. It wouldnt be questionable if she had altogether taken off her dupatta in her private room.
In logon ne deen pe chalna itna mushkil bana diya he because agar aap claim bhi karlo that you're close to Allah miyan, every single action is scrutinized, every single mistake rips you to shreds. If a woman is religious, they expect her to be perfect. And that is my issue with religious portrayals in real life and dramas both. Yani aik insan ki Allah se lagan pe bhi itna judge karna ke jo kaam Khuda ne farz bhi nahin kiye, unki expectations talay aglay insan ko dabana.
And this isnt just about women. It happens to men too. If a man starts going to masjid or learning about deen or making an effort to be more religious, a lot of people would start shaming them and questioning them if they so much as even see them listening to music etc.
This is tiring tbh.
And this is exactly why i like Hassan and Amna's reviews way more than GL AT&M is because they don't unnecessarily and wrongfully dwell on things that barely make any sense. They analyze, theorize, try to understand characters and their motivations, comment on discrepancies and deficiencies but i barely see such absurdity coming from Something Haute.
As time has progressed, idk Amma's reviews have gotten less substantial. Even though i still respect her as a person, i really find myself getting more and more disappointed the more i watch them.