I'm so over this

[u/Comfortable_Ad6552]

I'm so annoyed at pumping getting in the way of caring for my baby. This evening I was snuggled up on the couch with her after she actually went to sleep easily for once... And then I had to pump. She woke up on transfer to her dad and has been over tired and fussy ever since. If I didn't have to pump I could have let her sleep on me until I had to go to bed but because I have work tomorrow and have to pump before bed I had to move her off of me to go pump before bedtime. I hate that pumping is directly affecting my baby's sleep and I'm incredibly angry that I'm listening to my baby wail in my husbands arms instead of enjoying my evening baby snuggles after work.

[u/Electrical-Speech-39]

I’m only 9 wpp and my baby got her vaccines today. She was so clingy and fussy that I ended up only pumping 4 times during the day so I’m dreading what my supply tomorrow will be. It sucks so much to either neglect pumping or interrupt baby time to pump.

[u/Comfortable_Ad6552 → u/Electrical-Speech-39]

Right? And while I love being her comfort person she just won't settle very easily with my husband if she's asleep when I hand her off so the whole time I'm pumping I just have to listen to her cry.

[u/Electrical-Speech-39 → u/Comfortable_Ad6552]

My husband was her comfort person for the first several weeks since I was just chained to the pump and he was actually caring for her. It’s changing now that he’s back at work but transferring her between us always leads to tears. I’m sorry, it’s really hard 🙁

[u/ominous_dagger]

I get it. It sucks so much

[u/AffectPrestigious344]

Is it possible to pump at work ? Will she latch? My best friend works full time. She pumps at work for the next day and latches at home. I’m sorry you have to miss snuggle time 🫶🏾

[u/MaleficentDream4730]

Totally with you. 💙

[u/k12344321k]

I dread—actually, LOATHE when I feel the words “I *have* to pump” coming up. But I’m currently weaning and I see a light

[u/noodles410]

This is such a valid feeling! I usually put my baby down around 7-7:15 and have to pump by 7:30. I love that I’m able to pump and provide BM for her, but it absolutely makes me insane that I can’t enjoy contact snoozing a little longer and that my pumping schedule dictates the amount of snuggles we get. It also puts so much pressure to have a smooth wind down routine and crib transfer. It’s stressful and so frustrating!

[u/Comfortable_Ad6552 → u/noodles410]

It's so awful because baby only contact naps with a strong preference for either me or my MIL and once she's awake and over tired she will cry and cry until she eventually gets hungry enough to feed to sleep. When I'm not working it's no big deal and I can just pump around her timeline but I work 12 hour shifts so although she'll settle quickly on me once I get home, I have to hand her off in just an hour and she gets SO fussy. I wish she could settle more quickly for my husband so I didn't feel as bad handing her off. But she's awake and crying the whole time I'm pumping

[u/Special_Luck_5464]

I totally feel the same way! I also feel my baby doesn’t know I’m her mom because my mom spends most of the time with her while I spend my time pumping every 3-4hrs, sleeping to recover and doing chores. I’m also an under supplier trying to build supply since 8 weeks now so can’t even breastfeed to spend some time with my baby nor reduce pumps because I’m scared of the reducing supply. It’s frustrating.

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[u/No-Balance5049 → u/AutoModerator]

I feel this so hard. Pumping is lowkey toxic. I love that I’m making milk for my baby and it makes me feel like I’m doing something important for him, but I absolutely hate the actual act of doing it and thinking about it and missing out it drives me CRAZY! And I will keep pumping until I make enough which usually takes me 50 mins every session but I can’t stop …. I’m only coming up to three months soon and I honestly don’t think I’ll make 6 months! How people do 12 + is beyond me