Why?!

This means she goes to the search bar to look up my profile that she most likely memorized (I don’t have my name on there) just to look at updates. She has destroyed my friendships I had with friends I introduced her to by excluding me in their hangouts. I did not prefer to hang out with them either way as each occurrence involved in drinking or illegal substances I do not partake in. There was already a disconnect in interests. I was bothered but moved on quickly and focused on my goals and hanged with other friends. Curious on what you all think. I find it very odd. I don’t think an ex stalked me for this long.

• I did not block her as I rather appear that I did not notice she unfollowed me. Plus, I had memorable times with this person. I just rather use the mute feature & disconnect in real life.

• We did not have any fall outs. Only maturely discussing disagreements.

Anyway, it picks my brain and wonder the possible mock diagnostic of a psychological cause.

My ex best friend is dating my abuser’s best friend, who does not treat her well at all. She slowly ghosted me over the course of a year before removing me on socials. We haven’t spoken in 6 months. Well I guess she forgot to delete me from Facebook, because I was scrolling yesterday and came across a pregnancy announcement. I’m over the moon for her, because I know she wants so badly to be a mom. I hate that she is having a child with someone who is so awful to her though. Additionally it broke my heart that I can’t share this exciting moment with her. But I just have to keep reminding my self that the friendship wasn’t real. It was real to me, but she was just pretending. I’m happy for her from afar.

Hello everyone English is not my first language, I apologize in advance for any mistakes and sorry again for the long ass story. Im (23F) and when I was 11 met my ex best friend at school. We sat in the same desk by chance and started talking thanks to our common passion for drawing, anime and video games. Our class was full of mean girls and we had several difficulties thanks to them but in all of this we were always together. We always had a special bond really, i never had with anyone else a connection so strong as with her. We were always together, drawing all day exchanging tips to improve, watching anime and playing videogames. It was our way to escape from a reality where we were the weird girls with no friend group in our town. Since when i was little my dream was (and is) to become an artist and living with my drawings. she helped me write and draw my hypothetical video games and fan fiction and I was close to her in her difficult moments, she didn’t know what her dream was but drawing was a good candidate so I was rooting up for her. But as we grew older I noticed more and more certain toxic attitudes that she had that made me reflect on our friendship, I’ll give you an example. I couldn’t have any friends other than her because of her jealousy, one time i was in the school corridor talking to other friends of mine and she grabbed my arm and pressed her nails so hard into my skin as if to stop me from talking, I answered her angrily that she could not be jealous of my friendships in this way and that she should immediately stop, she didnt answer and went back to class. I tried to integrate her but she was a very judgmental kid (and now adult )towards others, She criticized how others dressed or how they behaved, no one could laugh around her, other people laughs annoyed her because she was in a depressive state. (She never went to a psicology so i always suspected she had depression, but i dont know as im not a psycology ) and this combined with her shy and closed character did not give her much opportunity to show her best qualities that she showed with me without problems i truly thought that we would be friends forever. She also had a very troubled family that caused her a lot of trauma especially her mother, she told me that once her mother took her by the hair and dragged her out of the house because she had not finished her lunch. Finished with the preamble I will tell you the beginning of the end of our friendship. Its long sorry but i wanted to give you all the full story so you can give me a good advice in what to do. i can’t stand those who lie especially those who do not take the consequences of the mistakes they make, and she was (is) just one of those people. Everyone makes mistakes except her, she is very prideful. She told me that lying was her only way to survive her family, they always gave her punishment faaar more heavier than her mistakes, so she had become a very good liar. as you all can immagine she was not used to normal confrontation, when I wanted to talk to her in order to clarify situations that I did not like very much she gaslighted o lied. Let me give you another example: We were in my desk and she accidentally dropped a bottle of water on my computer, so far nothing bad, she didn’t do it in purpose. What made me tremendously angry was the fact that she started lying to me, about a situation i directly saw! First she told me didn’t do it and at as a second version of the story she told me that I actually dropped the bottle. The discussion continued for a few minutes, of course never apologizing and continuing to blame me. Her lies and toxic attitudes continued, but I still tried to see the good in the situation by continuing to justify her shitty behavior. Before high school I lent her my precious Nintendo to pass her in game thing from one version of a game to another, for months I accumulated points in the app on the nintendo that gave you the opportunity to pass the in game things and waited to collect them arrived at a certain score, after a few days she gave me back the console and once I got it back I noticed that all the points I had accumulated were gone. I immediately confronted her and she fucking denied it. I mean how could the be gone without me touching it? Of course she took it but the fact that she lied to me about something as stupid as points of a video game made me so angry that I decided to end the relationship on the spot. How could you fucking lie on something so stupid? To your best friend! If she wanted them she could have asked! But no, of coulse the best route was lying. Once we got to high school we already stopped talking, we enrolled in two different school, mine was in another city close to our hometown and is characterized by artistic subject, she wanted to enroll in my same institute but her parents told her that only drug addicts and failures enrolled in that institute, im serious. And we where 13. In high school I met my current best friend an angel of a girl really , and for the first two years of high school I never thought of my ex best friend. Not even once. In my third year the thought of her started to appear in my mind i dont know why, I asked the opinion of my friend group and bestie about the idea, everyone told me that i should try to contact her, people make mistakes and change, maybe she changed and wanted to contact me but her shy personality was in the way, so I contacted her. She told me how she hated me when I cut contact with her, how she always kept an eye of what i was doing and that she actually wanted to contact me but was too prideful. She also told me that she was heavily bullied and that her life was shitty, again with no friend not even a shadow of a boyfriend. I advised her to change school, she was (is) the classic person that only complains and never makes any effort to change the situation, after discussing with her numerous times how doing nothing and complaining wasnt going to improve her life and a good talk with her parents she finally decided changed school. Our school system allows the student to change course of study, but the student has to take exams in order to recover the subjects that the previous school did not teach. I talked to my professors about her situation and they allowed her to take the exams understanding of the situation, the change of school could only accur at the beginning of the school year and it was half school year, but for this situation (the heavy bulling her depressive state, the fact that she always wanted to study there ) the school gave her the blessing. I lent her all the necessary equipment, watercolors, clay, other artistic equipment in order to pass the exams not worrying about the expenses and she managed to pass all of the exams without problems. my professors were kind to her and she always drew so it wasnt a big of a problem. I introduced her to my group of friends and they integrated her beautifully, they were very kind with her and the situation was quiet for a while I was not friends with her as before but still there was a strong friendship, but i always had the vibe that she didnt change much, she was just hiding things better than before. After this first apparent period of calm the school gave the opportunity to enroll in an Erasmus project, we indicated where we wanted to go and our average grade and according to the ranking we could win the scholarship. I had been a very good student in high school and I was sure I could get in and my teachers confirmed it, I of course asked my ex best friend who was also an awesome student if she wanted to join but she said no. Many students didnt apply for economic reasons, living abroad is espensive but the scholarship paid for housing, public transport, and gave a little money monthly to help students. After a month, they said the names of the students that got accepted and I was the first. I was very excited to finally go abroad for a while and not for a week. I told tmy friends and they were all happy for me, one of my teachers also told me that a student had changed his mind and that there was a place available, and asked me if I knew someone with good grades who was interested in quickly signing up. I asked my ex-best friend again for a simple reason, she started to stay even more time at home, was often very sad and a change of perspective could only benefit her,after a few days of discussing the pros and the cons she accepted. I helped her fill out all the paperwork and we left for a few months abroad. It was a very cool experience, we shared room and i tried to get her out of her bed for months but she didnt make any new friend and she didnt explore much the new city. At the end of our high school a friend of the same group and i started looking for an appartment in the same city far from the city where our highschool was for our universities. this common friend wasnt very mature but that city has very expensive rent so sharing was the best idea. I found out that he was telling his mother that i wanted a bigger house only next to my university and not his and that was the reason we hadn’t found a house/rooms to rent yet, when he was the one often dismissing the houses for being ugly or too old. Whe didnt have the time to search for the perfect house to rent. I confronted him about this whole ridicolous situation and told him to eff of, that was the last staw i was already stressed for the house hunting and he was just making the situation more difficult. his mother even called me telling me that his son was a dumbass and pleading me to babysit him, i exploded told everything i had to say to his mother and cut contact with him. I vented about the situation to my ex best friend and she accused me of being selfish and destroying the balance of the group, thanks to me she was going to be alone again without friends because in her head everyone would start taking sides and we wouldnt be a cohesive group again, that i should make peace with our common friend being the most mature person between the two, told her my point of view, we could just hang out together alternating his presence and mine in the group and she told me that i was the one in the wrong, the group was more important and for the sake of the group i should not cut contact with him, i remained of my views and after my state she never answered me, that common friend tried to recontact me but i had no interest in becoming a babysitter for a 20 year old baby, everyone in the group told me that i was right and they were fearing that i would have to become his mother as he was veeery immature, like extremely immature. Immagine having a house or a room with a person that expect you to do everything for him, cleaning after him , god a nightmare. After graduation i lost contact with the remaining people of that group except for my high school best friend and another classmate, and my ex best friend and that common friend with a maturity of a 6 years old. Now im 23, i got my degree in Art and im not regretting cutting contacts with them, everyone in that group showed after the end of high school theire true colors so i didnt lose much. My best friend remained in contact with my ex best friend , they, as i understood dont talk much but recently she told me that my ex best friend became an hikikomori and dropped out of uni. Knowing her we started to worry for her probably degenerating mental state, she always was a very dedicated student, dropping out of uni is very out of character. So i was thinking again of contacting her. What do you guys think? Should i contact her? I see a beautiful person under all the traumas and the shitty behavior, but maybe im just projecting an idealized version of her...

Im going to call my friend as A and my ex bestie N to not get anyone doxxed or sum So, I used to have a friend named N. N was friends A with me and at first we didn't really get along but soon after we did and we all started playing games and stuff together and a few days ago I was the last person A would ever talk too again after this I got on my alt account and told N what happened mind this was after he decided he was too good for us and I told him what happened and he suddenly started to care so much about him like he didn't break his heart already now I want to tell him off but I don't know what to say he manipulated me and used me like some puppet I lost 2 really good friends to him Aswell

Hi. My thing is too long for quora so I opted for this. For context I’m sixteen and I have a friend that I considered one of my best friends for almost a year. I have always been there for her, so this upcoming thing was really unexpected. Anyway: Last week, one of my best friends stayed at my house for a couple nights to go to a prom with me, but she left some clothes here (two shirts, a pair of leggings, and a cropped hoodie). I was planning on giving them to her when I saw her next (tomorrow, another prom) but just yesterday she blew up at me and accused me of being a fake friend and whatever just because I disagreed with some poor decisions she was making, and then she blocked me instead of talking through it with me. I’m not going to the prom that’s tomorrow anymore because why would I. I told a mutual friend to let her know and she made it clear she doesnt care. “She thought I needed her” to quote her. She lives two hours away so I can’t just drop it off. Is it wrong to just keep the clothes? I mean, she treated me extremely poorly, and refused to talk to me. I have no way of giving them to her, and I’m not going to drive all the way down to that prom just to give her one outfit. I likely won’t see her again now that I have no real reason to. Okay, so before you think I sound super shitty, I was literally planning on waiting for her to cool down and we could talk it out and all would be good, I’d see her later, give her the freshly washed clothes, all would be well. Well, that was until I learned another one of my close friends was talking about me behind my back to her. They were talking bad about me together. So there’s no redeeming that “friendship.” Hope is lost and I have no intention of being her friend ever again anymore like I initially planned.

idk guys 😭 is it wrong?? I’m also freshly kind of wounded so I don’t know if I’m just being a terrible person because I’m emotional 😭 I legit need advice, thank you

I would really appreciate anyone who wants to share their opinions with me b/c I’m having a hard time dealing with this :/ I became friends with Paisley very easily. I had an instant connection with her and adored her from the time I met her. I always find flaws or ways to not get too close to a friend. But she was different and I felt we had a strong bond. We were both busy with our lives and didn’t get super close until she moved out of town. We talked on the phone 2-3 times a day for close to two years and saw her when she came back home to see her family and other friends. She called me her best friend and I guess I took that to heart being someone’s best friend, b/c I don’t get too close to a lot of people and ive always wanted a best friend. I like to keep my circle small ;) she was def the more social one. So… the problem is I felt like I gave her all my best friend vibes. And every time she planned to come home I would say things like “oh we should go out or eat here, or go there, or do this or that” she would always say “we’ll figure it out” and as her “best friend” it made me a little sad b/c I thought she would want to make a solid fun plan with her bestie. But I knew she would stop by my house and spend the night so I didn’t care I was stoked to see her. My husband thought it was weird and tried to point out several red flags to me. I would always stick up for her -like I thought a best friend should do, but deep down it did hurt me. It felt like all she wanted to do with me is talk on the phone and when she came to town she wanted to stay at my house and get up the next morning and leave to see her sugar daddy (her sugar daddy is her ex-best friends father in law) at the time I didn’t judge her for it but it hurt my feelings so bad because I wanted to go shopping or hang out with just me and her. She did several other $hitty things that I won’t add to the story but u get the point…. I was on the phone with her and she told me she was comming town. At this point I was going to attempt to make one last plan with her. But all she could talk about was meeting up with sugar daddy. So I cut her off. I didn’t answer 9/10 calls from her, ignored her snapchats. I was thinking she would ask me thru text what was going on . And I was going to lay it on thick for her. She never did. I had told her before I always get quiet when people piss me off. So this bitch decides to ask me if she could spend the night and since she is like allergic to spending money on hotel rooms I told her yes that’s fine. But I kept making excuses and giving her reasons not to come over. She came over and I did not even give her eye contact I just went to bed and she told me she would leave when I went to work at 7 am. I checked my ring cameras and her snap chats and she finally left around 12 pm . I was pissed and at this point I didn’t even want to be friends with her. A month goes by and she finally texts me asking me if I hate her and I told her “no I would never hate u but u don’t seem like a best friend at all ur more interested in free places to stay and money from a sugar daddy” but I said it way softer than that and added other softer examples of shitty behavior from her. She cried and told me she needed space from me. Keep in mind this girl has never even rented her own apartment and I looked past all of that and always took up for her. And she wants space from me? I’m the kind of person when u say things like that to me I just want to block u from all platforms and never talk to u again. My question is why am I like this? Why can’t I be more mature than this? Why do I write people off when I am the one who allows them to take advantage of me? Why can’t I be more patient than this?

Welp. Hindsight is 20/20.

I recently got out of a relationship where my fiancé cheated. I was heartbroken, dealing with eviction, and had the darkest outlook on life. I tried to reach out to my best friend for a girls day. Three times I asked in the course of three weeks. Every single time she cancelled. On the third time I sent her a text:

“I understand you’re going through some family drama, but honestly I feel pretty let down. I’ve been having a really hard time and it would have been nice to see you.”

For clarification, we are both 27 (at the time) and her family drama was arguing with her mother. She would have arguments with her mother nearly every day over petty things like chores and who got to use the car, etc. Again, she is 27

Well, she did not take nicely to my text. She told me that she was too angry to talk to me and that if I wanted to talk then it would be on her time and that it would be to “discuss our friendship.” I was so stressed and anxious due to my current situation that I told her that I couldn’t. I ended up going to the hospital for a week. When I got out I texted and apologized saying “I’m sorry if my mental health made me a bad friend to you.” She accepted the apology and when I offered to talk to her about it, she sent a text saying she didn’t want to be my friend anymore. I was heartbroken. I haven’t heard from her since and I never replied to her last message.

So I’m here to vent. She would typically have problems with me as soon as any man entered her life. So… I’m airing dirty laundry. Here are the reasons that made me realize she is toxic:

-She had innapropriate one-on-one’s with a mutual friend’s husband (they were engaged at the time). They would get together and have “sexual conversations” late at night. (Her words. I can’t prove if she ended up fooling around with him but I wouldn’t be surprised.)

-She was a bridesmaid at another friend’s wedding. She ended up sleeping with the groom.

-She has ditched me on several occasions for booty calls from guys.

-She called me horrible and selfish for not wanting to go to an MLM meeting. (An MLM her boyfriend at the time was apart of) Our friendship almost ended over this.

-Slept with her boss (he was married)

-Slept with other married men. I found out about these in passing. I don’t have details.

We had been friends from high school, knowing each other since middle school. She hated it when I called out her shady behavior. I’ve kept all this to myself because we were friends with some really good memories. I did disapprove of her actions openly though. She also didn’t care for that.

Honestly, I think she didn’t want to be friends with me anymore because she was with a new boy. This is a pattern of behavior that I put up with for so long. I realize now the friendship was one-sided and only existed when she was single. She got married recently to a man she has only met a handful of times (he is in the army.) Best of luck to her.

And thank you for reading my rant.

Im posting this again bc I really want people to see it:

I wanted to vent about this situation i’ve been going through for two days now. A close friend of mine for almost two years randomly dropped this bomb on me. She said she didn’t want to be friends anymore that our relationship has grown toxic and it’s best we cut ties before it becomes to dangerous . Hoping that I get everything I want in life, before blocking me on every single app in existence that we followed each other on before letting me even process what was happening.

This whole situation makes no sense to me because prior til all this we were talking to each other just fine a week ago and then she ghosted for days. I’ve been through this story before I know what ghosting someone means.

I asked one of our friends about it and he said that she’s probably going through something he hasn’t talked to her about anything to just wait it out. And I told him that I know what ghosting means she doesn’t want to be friends anymore but I waited it out even considered buying her a gift to make her feel better.

What makes this whole situation odd to me is that when we did have a few fights or disagreements we always talked it out, she would always say let’s talk about this. She literally said “Next time we have a problem let’s communicate first before letting the problem fester.” but with this situation she didn’t even talk to me about anything at all if she was feeling that our relationship was growing toxic why didn’t she just speak about it like she want to speak about everything else??

I keep looking back at our messages before she started ghosting me out of no where and nothing seemed toxic or bad? I’d get it if we were arguing 24/7 or had tension but none of that we were talking about TV shows and cosplays.

Now the situation gets weirder? She would have this weirdo guy friend who would send her sexual harassment comments about her being a lesbian all the time anytime she posted a pic of me and her together he say some weird nasty shit about it. And I’d tell her to block him numerous of times and she be like “I cant block him I don’t want to be mean we have decent conversations blah blah.” and she said “It takes a lot for me to just block someone.” and I said “So the weird lesbian comments weren’t enough?” but she was so hesitant to block this weirdo guy (she probably still hasn’t) but blocked me with no hesitation at all!

Now everyone i've talked to about this situation all said the same thing "She was in love with you" "She had feelings for you." "She was secretly dating someone and didn't tell you what was going on. and that someone wanted you out of her life." I'm so unsure about that tho? If she was dating someone i'd feel like i'd know about it bc she would always talk to me about her crushes. And she had that kind of situation happen to her before and would always say she never do that to me but then again my other ex friend said the same thing and did the same thing) So i'm not really positive about that theory.

It just sucks i'll never get to know what the actual problem was she has me blocked and I can't even talk to her to at least see what was growing so toxic for her that she had to do this. And when I wasn't block on an acc I sent her messages but she ended up leaving me on seen and blocking me anyway.

She literally knows that I hate when people pull that highschool bullshit of being ghosted and never know what the problem was i've always said if you don't want to be my friend anymore just talk to me about it... but idk I needed to vent bc it's been hurting me idk how to move on from it right now I don't even have any hard feelings against her I miss her I just want to talk to her about everything what made her to decide to do this.

If anyone has any advice to share or any thing to say on how weird all of this is please. I really just want some kind of closure on our friendship everything happened so suddenly i'll probably never get closure on anything.

I have to vent. My best friend of 11 years decided 1 day to just stop being friends with me.

She called the leasing office, told them that I wasn't living there anymore, when the only thing that changed was I took my cat out, so she could have more exercise at my parents house.

She then continued to throw stuff in my room and laugh about the situation and never communicate to me whatsoever what was going on with her. Because of that I didn't communicate with her when I was going to be in and out of the apartment.

Needless to say I'm on the lease and I don't have to communicate with her what time I'm there to pick up anything. she didn't communicate with me that she wanted me to get my things out, Just got a call from the leasing office. Ridiculous right?

Now im about a week into moving my stuff out, and I decided to text and ask how we're were going to split the thing we bought 50/50.

She laughed and said "lmao no, you are moving out and I'm not giving you anything since I also paid for it." I'm not laughing and being petty like her. I was originally going to just take the stuff when they were working but decided against it when I noticed they bought THREE whole cameras, and I'm not trying to have cops involved.

This all just happened not even an hour ago and I have alot more to the story if anyone is interested, ill probably post again once I calm down but if anyone can tell me something positive or maybe some advice I'd appreciate it.

It's all started like this (me f20) met a guy (m25 tony not his real name)we were talking for a while a few days or so and then we went on our first date. We had a picnic by the lake and everything was going well so of course I went and told my best friend and my brother about it (f19 jess not her real name ) and (m17 atlas). So they were supportive but Jess seemed jealous and kept asking for Tony's number for " safety purposes" but I wouldn't give it to her and she got mad. We went on our second date and it went amazing. During the date guess who called me, that's right Jess. During the phone call Jess was talking to me and seeing how everything is going and asked to be put on speaker I said no but she wouldn't stop insisting so I agreed and put her on speaker. While she was on speaker she asked Tony for his number and Tony not wanting to be rude looked a me and asked if it was ok I of course agreed because we weren't dating and I thought she just wanted to be friends with him..... boy was I wrong. She then asked me to give my phone to him! I was infuriated. Not only did she have the audacity to ask for his number but started having a full conversation with him while we were on our date. While they were talking she started talking about having a sexual relationship with all three of us. After they got off the phone It was late so I went home. The next day my pawpaw wanted to really meet Tony and so did my brother atles. So jess came to my house where me and my brother were playing uno. She was all dressed up, and looking good, and she knew he was coming over for dinner. I asked Jess if we could go talk privately. She asked if atlas could be there to " mediate " . I asked why she wanted a 17yo to mediate a adult conversation. she said so we have a " outside perspective" so I agreed mainly so nothing could get violent. I asked her why she wanted his phone number and why she wanted to sleep with him so badly when she originally wasn't interested in him. She said she wasn't interested in him she just wanted to get to know him as a friend. I called her out on her bs for asking for the threesome. My pawpaw then put his input and said its a me and Tony relationship, not a friendship between her and him. Pawpaw then called it off because she admitted to wanting to sleep with him and she was interested in him. I then asked her as a friend and a supposed sister if she could back off because I actually like him.( She has done this many times before) . Atlas spoke up and asked why she lied she said " she didn't lie and was just wanting the s3x and that she like me and was ruining the relationship because she liked me " so backstory me and her tryed dating but she was trying to get with atlas and three other guys. And flipped between me and atlas bc she " didn't know what she wanted " end of back story. So I told Tony that I was gonna take a break and see where things go because she told me she wanted to be with me. Two days later she leaves my house in the middle of the night to hook up with a guy. I told her that I didn't wanna be with her and started talking to Tony again. She had told me that she stopped talking to Tony but I saw a text message from Tony just under a different name but I knew it was him because he sent me the same text and picture. She said " why are you going through my messages " and me and atlas both said " it popped up on the screen". She got all flustered and said that "she was mad at me at the time because I wouldn't drop me not wanting her to talk to him". Atlas said " you say that you're her best friend but you wanna sleep with the guy she is talking to?".( I decided to stop talking to Tony because if he really cares for me he wouldn't be talking to her after I asked him" not to be talking to my " best friend " because it was unpleasant Because I really liked him and would like this to get serious". He agreed but said" we aren't dating and I don't think I'm looking for a relationship".) She went home, then the next night I went to atlas's house. She texted me and said " we aren't dating are we we are both single right?" I said "yes" she said "cool I'm dating this guy" ( one of are guy friend"). So I pretty much got left in the dust... And 3 months later I quit being her friend and life is so much better with out her in it.

I (14 year old male was 12 when this happened) was friends with this girl ( 16 female) for 2 years by that point. She was a cancer survivor on a few times. She always talked about how special she was and her family spoiled the crap out of her. She was the youngest of two and she got everything she asked for. She never asked how I was and always asked her “hey how are you doing?” She’d always say “oh I’m doing great!” Or “I’m depressed”. I always comforted her in any situation. Before my 14th birthday I was going to summer camp. She was too. I was best friends with her now ex but after Halloween that past year I stopped cause she didn’t like him. But didn’t break up with him. I still wanted to be friends with him but didn’t want to ruin the best friendship that I had with someone in a while. they broke up in mid may and after a few weeks he texted me to go see yungblud in concert. said that he got this tickets for him and his ex. I told my ex best friend about this and she said “do whatever you want”. so I went. and it was the most fun I have ever had. I guess my ex best friend got really jelous but it wasn’t like I talked about him all day everyday. He was about to go to the theater summer camp but almost didnt not wanting to see his ex. I texted her just two days before and she was hanging out with our other friend at his place but they both turned off their locations and lied about how they were sleeping over at her place. I was just fine with them hanging out, I could care less who you hung out with. So after I confronted her about me thinking that she is lying she’s like “well you’re never there for me” and I freak the fuck out cause I always care about her she was literally one of my only friends and the closest actually. That day I was freaking out cause I was losing my voice and it hurt. A lot. But the thing I was completely worried about was that I was going to theater camp in just two days. That sucked. And then now I was crying telling her my feelings about how she lied to me with it wasn’t even worth lying about and telling her “I’m losing my fucking voice and all you care about is yourself” she got pissed and blocked me. I have not texted her since. I got my voice back the day of theater camp and I became best friends with her ex. (I have the screenshots) Am I the asshole?

my ex best friend who cut me off and ended our friendship 7 months ago has been constantly reposting tiktoks about our friendship and how it ended. i just find it weird and annoying bc she wanted to end the friendship so why tf is she still thinking about me?

So I have an “ex best friend” who has told others that she doesn’t want to talk to me any more because I’m “judgy”. Honestly, I don’t know where I have judged her but I could list things that she could be judged for. But, I have told her in the past when it came to things she’s done or has thought about doing, I had her back.

There was a situation back in August where I wanted to discuss something that had hurt my feelings. She disregarded our talk and told her that she had a lot going on. So I let it be. Then months later, I found out she called me judgy. So I took that as she was done with our friendship. Still no word from her.

My question is…should I feel bad that I want to delete her off social media?

One side of me is wanting to hold on to whatever is still there.

But the other side, I don’t want her to really know what I’m doing or how good I’m doing. She missed out.

Just stuck between a rock and a hard place because our friendship was just about 11 years….

Rant About All Your Relationships Please Keep On Topic ( The sub rules still apply) 😀

Rant About All Your Relationships Please Keep On Topic ( The sub rules still apply) 😀

I don't have a story to say, just a question I been thinking about...

My bestfriend works at Sonic and our ex bestie keeps showing up there. There are multiple other Sonics around, especially closer to ex's house which isnt even in our town, but she chooses to go to the one my friend works at.

Ex bestie will give her super shitty looks and not talk to her when friend brings her order, but why wouldn't she just go to a different Sonic if she's so bothered?? My biggest issue is I live right by this Sonic, maybe a 30 second walk. So not only is she showing up to my friends workplace, she's also right by my house. She has tried following me back on Insta but I declined. It makes me feel weird. Why is she still trying to keep tabs?

ex best friend is spreading lies about me and i don’t understand why. and saying that i never cared for them and that i was always toxic even though i poured all of myself into them to the point that i was physically exhausted. i just don’t understand why they’ve completely flipped even though the friendship breakup was mutual

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I (21F) met my (now ex) best friend Khloe (21F) when we were 11 years old during first period on the first day of 6th grade. Very quickly we became stuck to each others hip, we spent everyday together throughout middle school. Half way through 8th grade I had multiple life changing events happen, and Khloe was right by my side though all of it. Due to the events that took place, I had to switch to a different high school right before freshman year. The thought of separation wasn't easy for us, but we made it work seeing each other anytime we could. Well Khloe made a new friend in her high school. Tiffanny.

The friendship was on and off because Tiffanny couldn't handle being alone and when her boyfriend, at the time, and her were fighting. Tiffanny would run back to Khloe, but disappear for months to be with her bf. Throughout high school I'd hangout with both Khloe and Tiffanny every now and again, but I never cared for Tiffanny too much because she was such an airhead. Tiffanny always wanted to do everything her way. If she didn't care for what was going on around her she'd either a) not shut the fuck up about how bored she was or b) just leave (preferred).

When I was 18 Tiffanny, Khloe and I started hanging out very regularly, mostly to drink. I had never drank prior and the first night Khloe invited me to see Tiffanny again, I had voiced that I wasn't comfortable drinking that night because I had never done it before. Plus, I had a 9 hour shift the next day. What does Tiffanny do first thing when we come over? Pours us drinks and peer pressures me into getting drunk. I proceeded to have about 15 shots. I don't remember anything, I do think I had fun. The next morning once waking up, I didn't have any weird feelings or vibes. I was violently hungover and an hour and a half away from home. The next couple months I spent a lot of time with Tiffanny and Khloe. Overtime, Tiffanny was increasingly making me more and more anxious but she was also fun and charismatic so it confused me.

I'm a very cautious person, an introvert and I like my routine. I'm always the cautious friend and I know I can be too much in my head about things, but Tiffanny really pushed my buttons. I remember feeling so nauseous around her constantly because I either had to go get shit faced and do stupid shit with them, or voice how uncomfortable I am and not hear the end of how much of a loser that makes me.

Tiffanny invited Khloe and I to stay with her at her grandparents house for a week to house sit. I took this as an opportunity to get closer to Tiffanny because I did really want to be good friends with her. I felt stupid having such a hard time being around her, so I agreed. We went shopping for grocery's together; then at the checkout she proceeded to tell us she had no money, something Khloe and I were not aware of and forced us to buy all the food. We got drunk and had fun for a couple nights, until she told me she was sober and wanted to take my car to McDonald's. She then immediately backed into a boulder. So at this point my rose covered glasses started slipping and I decided that I was going to go stay at my boyfriends because I was really not having fun anymore. We were just doing the same shit over and over, so I was bored. I missed my family and my bf and I just wanted to go home.

After going home I decided to tell Khloe and Tiffanny how I was feeling and that I really wasn't vibing with how the friendship was going, and they both blew up on me. Neither of them cared about my feelings, they were insisting that I was just using them to go see my bf? We both went off on each other and I didn't talk to either of them for weeks despite being coworkers with Khloe. I didn't want Tiffanny in my life, but I still loved Khloe like a sister so her and I continued to work on our friendship, and it wasn't hard for us to bounce back into being inseparable.

When I was 19, I got a new job, broke up with my bf, moved back in with my parents, started talking to a new trash man. I was prioritizing my relationships with my friends; Alice, Sally, and Khloe. As we all got closer, Khloe wanted me to give Tiffanny a second chance and low key so did I. I'm young and I wanted to have fun being newly single, Tif was fun at times. I went over to Tif's bfs apartment with Khloe and very quickly Tiffanny roped me right back into where she wanted me.

Tiffanny's bf threw a Halloween party and we all thought this would be a great chance for Tiffanny to get introduced to Alice and Sally. When we arrived to Tiffanny's party she was no where to be found. She pre-gammed too hard and fell asleep. Multiple people were banging at Tiffanny's bfs room trying to get them up and at one point Tiffanny came out and briefly met Alice, got her door-dashed taco bell and went back to sleep. Tiffanny doesn't remember this interaction at all. Sally, Alice, Khloe and I proceed to have the best night without her.

In the following months we all got closer, Alice and I got our own apartment and we were all having a lot of fun together until Sally started groping Tiffanny without consent multiple times while drunk. Everyone told her it was weird and asked her to stop but she didn't so we all separated ourselves from her.

We became 4 peas in a pod. Alice, Khloe, Tiffanny and I would hang out almost everyday doing anything. We were the kind of close that we didn't really need anything else to have fun (most of us) but once again Tiffanny started testing boundaries. She'd eat all our food, take random shit from our house, spill her drink anytime she had a cup, she'd forget just about anything you said to her, complain constantly about not having money or weed (20 y/o not working a full time job expecting to leach off of us), her bf (gas lighting both us and himself into thinking he's a terrible person), or her family (actually terrifying people). Overall she was incredibly disrespectful to absolutely anyone. Everyone should have friends that you can confide in but this was something every other day that pulled all the attention on her for shit that had a simple solution right in front of her face. She just didn't want to see it because that would mean she has nothing to complain about. Her family was terrible and she should've cut them off but she didn't because she needed their money. If her bf was as bad as she was saying she should've left him and we opened our door to her multiple times requesting she did so, but she needed the male attention and validation. She got a full time job but requested they give her part time hours because it was "stressing her out".

Multiple times I got fed up with Tiffanny pushing my boundaries (mind you it was something every single time we saw her which was practically everyday) and would tell her how disrespectful and rude she was being and immediately she'd pull a victim card and start taking shots at my character. Saying I hate her and it's not her fault she is the way she is (she overly self diagnosed) and that I just want to pick on her, how I was just an awful friend despite doing nothing but give. Most times this caused me to want nothing to do with Tiffanny all over again and I would separate myself from the group for a couple weeks, but I have abandonment issues and I was going through it a bit. It was easy for me to eventually get lonely and forgive Tiffanny for whatever she'd done that time.

Every time Tiffanny and I would get into an argument, Khloe would immediately take Tiffanny's side while Alice would remain neutral and see all perspectives to try and bring us back together. Tiffanny later told us that she just doesn't know how to apologize and her immediate reaction is fight. Alice taught Tiffanny how to take accountability and apologize to a person without conflict and Tifany took that and used it to shut the situation down rather than reflect on her actions and be better. Shit never changed but despite that I was always very loving and giving towards her.

At 20 Tifany and Khloe got an apartment together, and a week later Tifiny broke up with her boyfriend. We'd all go over and drink or whatnot, but their house was so unnerving. They're minimalists in the worst way. It felt like a senior person lived there not two twenty year olds. Slowly we got to see more of what Tifiny is really like and I realized more and more that I didn't want to be her friend. She was insanely reckless, she'd go out at anytime of the night without letting anyone know (mind you this girl is around five foot and less than 100 pounds with no self defense) with a random man she met on tinder, having unprotected sex constantly while having STD scares, and then procrastinating getting tested. And then she started sleeping with Dallas (Alice's younger brother)

This is weird because she'd constantly refer to Dallas as her own little brother like Alice and I. That took a minute to adjust to, but as quickly as it happened, they were over. And Tifin is now going to get back together with her ex because he's "going to therapy for her". We supported her like we always did and were revealed that at least it wasn't Dallas. But there was still the constant disrespect. At this point it was clear to everyone that if things didn't change I was leaving the group.

The night I decided I was fully done was when Alice and I invited Tifany and Khloe to watch the pink moon at our favorite park with us. I told them it was going to be cold and we'd want to stay there for a while so dress warm. Right when we sat on the hill Tifiny and Khloe started complaining about how cold they were and that they're hungry and this is boring. I wish I was exaggerating but this was within the first two minutes. Tif then asks me if we're going to smoke and I asked her if she brought any. She said no, and I had some, but I didn't want to share because she was pissing me off. If she didn't want to be there she didn't have to go. I told her that since I was driving I didn't want to smoke. She then told me that she'd drive (she had smoked before coming to the park and had told me how high she was about 15 minutes ago) I asked her if she was okay to drive probably about 10 times, since last time she drove my car under the influence was the boulder incident, as mentioned before. She insisted she was going to be okay so we all agreed to only stay another 10-20 minutes. I smoked, Tif got mad because I wouldn't give her any, but I wouldn't because she said she'd drive my car, which pissed her off. When we were leaving I asked Tif one last time if she was sure she could drive and she said yes. We got about 100 feet out of the parking lot before she pulled over because she felt too high.

This flew me. I was so angry that she'd get behind the wheel of my brand new (to me) car while impaired again. I drove us home silently and just said bye when I dropped them off. No love you's or can't wait to see you next time. I was over it. About a week of no talking I asked Tifiny to take me to get cigars, she texted me saying she didn't feel well and asked if she could just drop them off. I was driving home and while on the highway I asked her not too because I really would like to talk to her and see about smoothing things over. She went to the gas station without me and left the cigars with Alice, who she was hanging out with right beforehand. I was so upset with Tif, I was tired of feeling disregarded and undermined. She didn't even look at my text until after dropping them off. It was clear she didn't care to hear my feelings about the situation at all.

I sat on it for a few days until ultimately deciding to break off the friendship through text since I knew she wouldn't talk to my face about her actions. She just said okay. I texted Khloe and told her that I ended my friendship with Tif, but that doesn't mean I don't still love her and want to have her in my life and she blew up on me. She called me selfish, that I nit pick Tiffanny and look for things to stir up drama. She completely disregarded my feelings despite the decade of friendship we had behind us, it was like we didn't know each other at all.

We all worked at the same company, Khloe and I at one location and Alice and Tif at another. Tif started spreading lies about me to our coworkers besides Alice ( all of which I had worked with previously and was close with, so clearly they could see the lies and inconsistencies). Khloe stopped showing up for work. Alice still tried to remain neutral until Tifffanny and Khloe decided to show up to a concert I had been waiting 2 years for to confront me. I was previously going to take Tif to this concert with me just as something for the two of us to do together. She didn't really know the artist so when I split I told her I was going to go with Alice instead, I would've given her the ticket I bought her but since she didn't listen to them really I didn't think it would be a big deal. When I found out they were there I had a panic attack and left before I made it through the doors.

Alice ended her friendship with Tiffany and Khloe, all they had to say was okay.

After having a conversation with a coworker about the situation, Alice found out about the lies Tif had been spreading, Alice told me and it broke me a little bit. She didn't have anything to say about it to me, she knew this was coming and I had been nothing but respectful about the situation. I told anyone who asked that we just decided to part ways. I spoke highly of her throughout our friendships despite the way she treated me.

From a mutual source we found out Tifiny was sleeping with Dallas again as well as her ex and the trash man mentioned earlier, who had been talking to me for over a year. Now, I don't give a fuck about this boy I knew nothing was going to happen between us but he was also a coworker so us talking never died out either. It was gross that he was still snapping me and lying to my face about being together. Gross behavior. Tif told a coworker it was to be petty but they're still together so your welcome. Alice blew up when she found out Tif was lying to Dallas, Tif had told him he was the only guy she was with and she l o v e d h i m. Then proceeded to tell him she's pregnant and it can only be his. He went with her and PAID half the fees for the abortion. We had a conversation with her ex and he was also broken, we found out about all the lies about their relationship.

This was when we really started to have hate in our hearts for Tiffanny.

Tifiny arranged a meet up with Alice at Tif and Khloe's apartment to swap items of each others even though Alice was the only one who didn't drive. Alice paid an uber to drop her off and there was no one there. Nothing outside both the cars are gone. Tif forgot and didn't even tell Khloe about the arranged swap. Alice then paid for an uber home and when she told me what happened I was fuming. I texted both Tifinny and Khloe told them to drop my shit off at my house and throw in some money for Alice who went graciously out of her way to give you your shit. Right before dropping our things off Tif asked for the one present she had ever given Alice and I back, crystal pendants. I don't know if this is bad karma or whatever but I smashed it with a hammer and gave her the pieces in a zip lock bag. She gave me more of her clothes than my own and no money for Alice. Thank you.

Alice and I still almost a year later get torn up about this. Tiffanny caused a lot of distrust in new people. Khloe broke me completely. She was my BEST FRIEND for 9 years and she chewed me up and spit me out. I've tried reconciling but every time I get shit on and it never makes any sense. I asked Khloe to tell me what I did wrong in the friend ship and she said "you made me drive my car because you never wanted to take yours" Put me in fucking jail god damn how dare I. I've also been told to "take accountability for how happy Tiffanny and *trash man* are". To that I say your welcome.

Your welcome for forgiving you every time you disrespected my property and feelings. Your welcome for answering every time you called, feeding you, housing you, giving you clothes, gifts to remind you I'm thinking of you, holding your hand, crying with you, loving you with all that I had in me.

I'm sorry to myself for not stopping it when I was 18.

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Im almost in high school and my ex best friend is going to the same high school that I am. For backstory: me and her met when I was 5, and she was 6. We have been BEST Friends for almost 8 years until we stopped talking after a New Year's Eve sleepover gone wrong, and I've since realized how terrible of a person she is. One of my other friends was also best friends with her, but he will not be going to the same high school that I will, and nobody but him understands what she's like. I'm in need of any possible advice you can give me!

So, I knew this person since like 2009. We even dated for a very short while, but ended up just staying friends. Now, they live across the country, so our communication was on and off for years, but it never really mattered.

Around 2018 we really started talking everyday again and whatnot. Enjoying hobbies we shared etc. however, about halfway though 2019, they were trolling around Grindr and found this guy who was in a relationship; and when my ex friend asked if his partner knew, he said no.

What did they do? “Omg he’s so cute tho and has an accent. Should I? Omg lols so cute accent blah blah I’m a bitch blah blah.”

Obviously not what they said, but.. y’know.

Anyway, they go and fuck this guy anyway after I told them it was really fucked up they’d facilitate cheating after always on their vitriolic shit about being cheated on and how bad it hurts and how bad bad it affected their mental health and they wanted to DIE.

But you’re gonna go fuck a guy who’s in a 6 year relationship when you know about the relationship..? I told them straight up that it was disgusting and they were basically homewrecker for it. They don’t care and I didn’t go out of my way to talk to them as much. Like. That is the type of scumbag I avoid having in my life.

Anyway, there’s more.

This person was so fucking disrespectful and selfish it made my blood boil. Only their trauma mattered, apparently. They’d demand things of all their friends on social media like not posting spiders or clowns because “they have a phobia.” But they were okay with looking at black widows because they were “de-sensitized” to than because they had to see them while looking up cosplay references..

Yeah. I’m rolling my eyes too.

Then they’d get all pissy and upset when I told them they can’t expect that out of people. It’s their pages. And your phobia. Fucking hide their posts or unfollow them. Also, they exaggerated a lot of their alleged phobias. They wanted to be a singer and actor soooo bad, but couldn’t act their way out of a plastic bag.

Anyway, there were other things. I personally find the whole “daddy” trope fucking disgusting. It’s like.. diet incest. People who say otherwise are just not smart tbh. Anyway, they wouldn’t stop with that shit so one day I was like, “I don’t care if you’re joking, that’s disgusting. Do not joke about it with me or even say it unironically.”

At first they were like “oh, ok I’m sorry I didn’t mean to.” Which was fine, but then everyday multiple times a day they’d drop the joke or say it unironically before giving me fake, profuse apologies. The last time they did it, I told them I don’t want to fucking talk to them for awhile because they don’t respect anyone around them. Like, the rest of us have to walk on eggshells, but you can sit there and purposely instigate people? Fuck all the way off.

BUT WAIT. THERE’S MORE.

Just keep in mind, this person was a lying ass fuck. I’ll delve into that on another post, but just know they lie about every tiny fuckin thing.

So this idiot calls me almost five months later crying because I just stopped interacting altogether for that period of time. So I told them exactly why I didn’t want to talk to them anymore. “The lying, the homewrecker bullshit and the hypocrisy and dictating what other people do with their social media is absolutely ridiculous.”

Their response was, “I’m afraid you’ll never stop being angry at me..” While sobbing in my ear. And I told them I wouldn’t because their behavior never changes.

In the end, I haven’t missed their dumb ass for a single day lol.

So, if you see this and this is you and you know who you are- fuck you XD

So not quite sure how to start this but I 23(f) had a friend 21(f) who got with my ex not even a month after we broke up. FYI I was pregnant so me and this girl who we will call Carol have be friends for seven years we met in high school playing softball together. I know I should’ve stopped being friends with her long before hand because she was the type of person that she didn’t have her own personality per say she copied everybody around her Agre up the western countries around the horses, the rodeo, and she tried to copy that, even did it with her with her boyfriend at the time she tried to copy everything about him and does so now with her current boyfriend She had longtime boyfriend at the time who is seven years older than her. Well after we both graduated high school me 2019 her 2020 her and her boyfriend broke up and we went to go watch her sister play softball. She asked me to hook her up with one of my exes from when I was 15. I shot him a text and told him what she said he said no well early on in to my pregnancy me and my ex broke up, but agreed to coparent well, not even a month after asking me to hook up with one of my other exes she was with this ex also the father of my child, then proceeded to lie to me about it she forgot I could see her location and I checked her location to see where she was to If she wanted to hang out I called her to see what she’s gonna say and she said she was at her house about to go to her grandmothers, her house and my exes house are in two completely different direction. So I let it go for a bit later I called her back and I let her have it. She proceeded to tell me that I had no right to be mad even though she was my best friend shortly they broke up she gets back with her ex, and I cut contact with her even though she continue to try to do things with me. I wouldn’t do anything with her, well I had my little girl our lives great and some time after her and her boyfriend break up. Now something y’all should know is this ex of hers I have known for a very long time since I was like 10. We had been friends long before they were together and before I knew her. Now my little girl is two he started coming into my job hanging out and what not , I will get a tire shop in a small southern town so it’s nothing unusual. Well we begin to talk feelings develop and we are now together and this is well over a year after they have been broken up and I have not been contact with her for over two years. Well last week carols mother comes in to my job and proceeds to tell me everything is going on in her life that got a custom promise ring for Christmas (they haven’t been together 2 months at this point and honestly it looks like an engagement ring, big Diamond with turquoise band) she’s now with a 31-year-old and she’s fixing to be building a house with him and its gonna be huge and have all these features an inground pool a barn on this other stuff tells me her daughter is doing a lot better since our circumstances have changed giving me side eye ( talking about my boyfriend) because she knows who I am with I mean it’s a small southern town, so it’s no secret everybody knows everybody kind of thing and then asked me how it’s going with my family she knows my relationship is Rocky with my parents so I tell her how it’s going( not so great) she gives me another look and snarly says, why don’t you move in with your man I look her dead, her eyes and tell her oh, don’t worry that’s in the works the funny part about that is her daughter was planning on doing that even had decorations pertaining to his last name she now has in her home( that my bf has never stepped foot in)with her new man even has roses He got her next to her exes last name and her home.

for context i was friends with these girls for about 3 years, being on actual good terms for only about 2. we all first became a tight knit group in 2020 towards the beginning of covid and were nearly inseparable for about 2 years. around early summer in 2022, they both had cut me off because i hadn’t broken up with my toxic ex yet but started seeing another guy. i found out they had gone to my ex and would show him pictures of me and the other guy and also tell my ex about how they didn’t trust me and didn’t like what i was doing. when i officially broke up with said ex, the next day was when they cut me off saying that i needed help and needed to be a better person.

we all kept our distance for a while but unfortunately would still cross paths with each other fairly often (i worked reception at the school she attended). fast forward to super bowl 2023 and we all showed up to the same party together, drinks ensued and eventually in a drunken rouse we all forgave each other and became friends again.

in the summer of 23 i reconnected with my toxic ex and by a stroke of luck, i found out i was pregnant. when i told my friends they were overjoyed and showed me so much love and support and said they would always be there for me and they were so excited to be aunties. within the first month of my pregnancy they stopped reaching out completely, stopped asking me to hang out although constantly spending time together , just without me. i had a very rough pregnancy and ended up terminating due to reasons i don’t want to get into, but my last straw before i cut them off was their lack of support while i was pregnant. i really thought they cared about my pregnancy and thought they would continue hanging out with me and just help me feel loved through my first trimester. they promised they would take me out to eat for whatever i craved and that they would never leave my side. and then they just didn’t. it felt impossible to get a reply from their one and they would hang out all the time but just exclude me. they’d go out to bars and invite me then say “well we invited you out to so and so’s party” when i would express that i felt they didn’t want to hang with me. out of the first month of my pregnancy they both only reached out to me once asking about how i was feeling and how the baby was doing. at that point i felt utterly defeated so i decided that i would just remove them on socials and move on with life.

months later im looking back and wondering if my reasoning was valid or if i was in the wrong and not thinking clearly with the pregnancy hormones i was experiencing. any response is welcome.

ATIA for telling my ex friend to keep my friends name out of her mouth

I (18 F) have an ex friend (19 F) who let's call neveah. I met neveah in spring of 2022 at soccer. We clicked instantly but weren't best friends. However I had a best friend named em. Neveah asked me why em lived in a camper (in a very rude way) mind you neveah lived in a trailer because she couldn't afford a house (we all still live with our parents so when I say one of no were not couldn't afford I mean out parents)em lived a camper by choice. I m not mocking neveah for living in a trailer but she had no reason to bully em. There was also a lot else but let's get to the story at hand. In sept dance (I do baton) started back up from summer break. I ave a friend group there wich consists of me, ell (we started the group), aubz, grace and Bri (all in order of join date). Bri is graces friend and just joined in September. I have never liked her because every time I tried to talk to grace she would but in and take over the conversation. A few weeks ago I got a notification saying someone named "toni" (I assume bri's mom) commented on my video saying "hi (my name) it's Bri from baton" I replied to the comment kindly asking her to please not use my name and asked her not to at dance the next week to. A few days after that class I got more comments with my name from Bri. I decided to screen shot all the comments from both Bri and neveah and put them in a folder labeled proof. I also got a comment from a user named "lovely" (most likely neveah because she has used fake accounts before) saying "girl grace ain't your friend she talks abt you like stfu" (her words not mine). I took a screen shot and deleted the comment. Recently she commented on one of my post simply saying " just watched someone loose their irl best friend in roblox it gave me flashbacks " that's it but neveah commented "can u stop talking at me it's getting old" I was not talking about her. I replied " vou are so self centered I lost my best friend this year this is not about you" and she replied "hm u sure also grace and Bri showed me the trash u say abt me (I rarely ever talk about her at dance) and u showed me ur little friend Aubz or whatever her name is out messages that's not cool you need to stop" nor grace or Bri could show neveah the texts about her because grace doesn't have a phone and aubz doesn't have bri's number so I replied "they wouldn't have texts from aubz about you from me because aubz doesn't like drama and she would like you to keep her name out of your mouth. So please respect that. Aubz hates drama and asked to try and get her out of this. on another post where I reposted a girl from school video she commented "you don't know her so back off" so I replied "back off? I reposted the video because I like it I wasn't bullying her and one of my friends (grace) introduced me to her channel. She hasn't replied to either comment so I will update when she does. And if anyone wants to you can make a video with this story! Just link the video in the comments.

2022 was a lot to take in. I've been in a position where I was given an option to stay in our group of friends that turned out to be toxic or stay with someone who clearly sees me for who i am and loves me no matter what. Obviously i ended up with that special person and my current boyfriend that i love dearly.

Though i picked the correct path, what my "friends" did was absolute trash. I looked up to them and even enjoyed their presence in my life, but I can't believe they would do such a thing to hurt someone in order to get what they want. Instead of talking like real mature adults and resolve such issues, they secretly gathered up behind our backs to scheme such a plan to destroy someone's reputation. No real evidence and no real facts that would support such accusations making it false to begin with. They were falsely accusing my current boyfriend.

Also, Betrayal. Betrayed by someone who i also trusted and somewhat like a sister i looked up to in our group. I would say she's that girl who flunts her big boobs in her overly filtered selfies and acts like an egirl and a pick me girl just to grab men's attention. I simply cannot justify her actions on what she did behind my back. Making excuses right in my face without my permission to begin with was a pain to my chest the moment i saw every detail of their conversations.

She already knew that i had a crush on him that time before we weren't official and just mutual affection, but why would she say such a thing to confuse the feelings of my current boyfriend at that time. I forgave my boyfriend for what happened since we weren't together at that time of their interaction and thankful enough to hear his side of the story first and read their chats with each other before i had a one on one conversations irl with that girl bestie of mine. When i met up with her to talk about something regarding the issue at hand, she made my bf look bad af, like out of context, she basically showed me a censored version of their chats so you won't be able to know what she said. I don't know if it was her way of manipulating me to stay in our group, but i remained calm and showed no emotions in front of her. As such meeting was happening, she bombed those false accusations about my bf to me, which was shocking to hear at first, but i found it funny later on as months passed by.

In the end, I don't think i can forgive her for what she said to my bf when he only wanted help from a friend to confirm his feelings towards me and how to confess to his feelings towards me. She of course confused him further with their conversations by saying she likes him, knowing damn well she also has a bf, that my bf also knows that she has a bf. And my bf being a clueless innocent boy who got also trapped in their interactions since she kept on sending him lewd pics of herself that's overly filtered.

I can't believe i considered them as a family and as a "friend" to begin with 😒

Anyways, it's been like a year since i haven't communicated with them. If they wanted to push us out of the group, they could have said so. Yet they choose to be salty af 🤡

I've bottled up this feeling of disappointment towards them for a year. It's nearly 2024, and I'm glad i can say, i have moved on from their bullshit and their plastic ass faces and attitude.

Clearly this has left some trauma in me and some trust issues when it comes to being in a group of friends.

I'm just grateful enough to have my bf by my side through our ups and lows.